Each Victim Is Lying

I must adopt the standpoint that every one of my victims is lying. There is no hope for me to be any different. You level accusations at me and I know you are lying because the comments make no sense to me. I gave you a fabulous and perfect love and you accepted that. You willingly entered into a union with me and with that you received my largesse and favour. You did not demur or hesitate. Instead, you embraced everything wonderful about what I gave you. Be it the expensive gifts, eloquent expressions of my love or the seemingly never-ending array of glamorous occasions to attend, you took them all. Do you have any idea how much energy I channelled into doing this for you? The repeated text messages, the “sudden appearances” which were in fact carefully crafted and organised, the many telephone calls that I made to you at all different times? All of that took a considerable effort on my part. Yet now, when I am tired and I lose my temper you accuse me of not caring. How can I not care? I am with you am I not? Have you forgotten everything that I ever did for you? It seems to me that you have. What was that vow you said with such enthusiasm, for better and for worse? You have had the better (in fact you received the best) and now it is time for some of the worse, yet you will not tolerate that will you? No, it is clear that you lied. You lied when we got married because now you are reneging on that vow. How do you think that makes me feel? Is it any surprise that I am angry with you when you question meΒ since you have no standing to do so?

You accuse me of not listening. That is another lie. What is there for me to hear? You trot out the same old allegations which are unfounded. At times I cannot discern what you are actually saying because you are so hysterical. How on earth can I listen to you when you behave like that? It is downright unreasonable. You go off and complain about me to your friends and family. That is charming. You are denigrating me in their eyes and that is uncalled for. Yes, I may do it about you, but that is with some justification I might add. You also said you would forsake all others, yet how many times have I caught you flirting with other men from your workplace? What about those pictures of you and your friends with those men you met in a bar which were posted on Facebook. You thought I would not see them didn’t you? Yes, I keep a careful eye on what your friends’ post as they are not to be trusted, leading you astray when you promised that you would do not. Is it any wonder I feel compelled to spend time with other people when you treat me like this?

You accepted everything wonderful that I gave you and now when it is time to give back and add some balance to the equation you seek to escape your responsibilities by accusing me of all manner of misdemeanours and malevolent behaviour. Your hypocrisy sticks in my craw. I know your game, I have you in my eye. You are seeking to deflect attention from your own wrongdoing by telling lies about me. Ha! I have you worked out missy, I always have and you are not as smart as me. You deliberately misunderstand what I say. You imply and insinuate when I have made myself clear. I will not be beaten by your mendacity, no I will not. I will stand strong and ensure that I reflect back on to you the lies you have told. I must do this to avoid your desire to crush and destroy my fragile self with your perfidious ways. I never knew you could be so evil.

21 thoughts on “Each Victim Is Lying

  1. Maddie says:

    me? evil? G.! πŸ™

  2. T says:


    1. malignnarc says:

      Come now T, that’s a touch harsh!

    2. janaa38 says:

      Let’s watch …Psycho 😏 just kidding, I knew what you meant T xx

      1. malignnarc says:

        Shouldn’t you take a shower before we watch it?

        1. janaa38 says:

          You first, let me hold your knife for you πŸ˜€

  3. bethany7337 says:

    I recognize it all here HG. Is this truly how you feel?

  4. mihaylovam says:

    You are my ex! Or at least you know him very well. No! You are my ex! It is almost mindblowing the exact words you use. What is it? A school that you guys go to, or you have like a secret society and you compare notes? Which brings me to a question. Do you ever get fooled by another narc?

    1. malignnarc says:

      Well we are all members of Narc Club. No I never get fooled by another narc. I am too sharp for that.

      1. mihaylovam says:

        HG, I have another question which has been bothering me for years now. I had a very dear friend, who once things happened, and once many truths came out, and once I started the journey of learning about your kind, I think he was either a narc or borderline. Probably more borderline. He shot himself. Planned it and did it. Do narcs consider hurting themselves and if you are gonna say yes, under what surcumstances?

        1. malignnarc says:

          It is rare that we would ever commit suicide. It does happen but I am of the view that this occurs when there is some other condition, such as, as you note BDP. We will threaten suicide as a power play when we are Hoovering but it is very rare for it to happen, we think too much of ourselves to do such a thing.

  5. fool me 1 time says:

    HG don’t know if you git my last comment or not? If you did I’m sorry. Sometimes what you write hits pretty close to home! I forget I’m commenting to you and not my ex.so many emotions running around in my head,heart,and soul. I didn’t mean to take it out on you.xx

    1. malignnarc says:

      Hello Fool Me, it does not bother me in the slightest I would much prefer you are I honest in your comments.

  6. janaa38 says:

    Earth below us,
    Drifting. Falling
    Floating weightless
    Calling, calling home….Peter Schilling.

    I give more then I have ever taken. I am a giver. If I take, then I give back, as well. mutuality rules.

  7. Sheila says:

    Mirror, mirror on the wall…

    1. malignnarc says:

      When will my next victim commence her fall?

      1. Sheila says:

        Have you not already felt the tremors, HG?

      2. janaa38 says:

        When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one’s self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance.”
        ― Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

      3. saritwin711 says:

        Once again, your humor makes me smile, but let’s not forget the amount of human suffering here… I am so happy to be in a place where I can look back and laugh at the clown I was involved with, but the victims that are referred to here, are probably in Hell…. I wish them all, and the women on this blog to take back what was taken from them.. And you too, HG….

    2. janaa38 says:

      To the truth teller, shall the liar dispell…

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