The Terrible Gaslighting Twenty

You are familiar with gas lighting where we twist reality over and over again in order to create doubt. You begin to question yourself, doubt your recollection and feel like you are losing your sanity. It is an insidious tactic and one which we always use in order to destabilise you and maintain our control and the upper hand. We change history, re-write what has happened and we will do so even when faced with what you think is incontrovertible truth and evidence. Our confidence and certainty in the way we approach this, combined with the patronising appearance of caring about your tired and failing mind is especially bewildering. Our aim is to cause you to question your reality so you much more readily accept the false reality that we create and operate in. Here are twenty of our favourite phrases which are used to gas light you.

  1. “It never happened.”
  2. “You are lying.”
  3. “You imagined it.”
  4. “You haven’t remembered it correctly.”
  5. “Yes,you did do it because I remember distinctly.”
  6. “Are you calling me a liar?”
  7. “If I look for it you had better hope I don’t find it. Oh, what’s this? Just where I said it would be.”
  8. “I never told you to do that, why would I ever say that?”
  9. “Your dad wouldn’t do that to you.”
  10. “You are suffering from delusions, I think we need a doctor for you.”
  11. “You like to cause an argument out of nothing don’t you?”
  12. “You twist my words, I did not mean it like that.”
  13. “You never told me that at all,I would have remembered.”
  14. “Nobody likes you, they’ve all told me this.”
  15. “You need help, it is caused by your anger problem.”
  16. “Why are you inventing things again? You are such an attention seeker.”
  17. “That never happened.”
  18. “Dear me, you always make things up, you’ve done it ever since you were a child.”
  19. “We are just friends, you are reading too much into it.”
  20. “That couldn’t possibly have hurt you, why are you saying it did?”

12 thoughts on “The Terrible Gaslighting Twenty

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  2. Cara says:


  3. Cara says:

    “Nobody likes you, they’ve all told me so”. My mother loves to tell me how nobody likes me, nobody wants me.

    1. malignnarc says:

      Did you go into the garden to eat some worms?

    2. nikitalondon says:

      Thats not true 🌷. Those are cruel words to tell someone… Dont listen.

      1. Cara says:

        Oh j don’t listen

  4. I only got to the early stages of D&D but I do recall the time which hurt the most and made me realise fully and finally this person was not normal.

    Due to his illness, I’d ended it saying he should be with his family and not have this complication. I agreed to be there for him if he ever wanted to text or call. Which he did.

    On one occasion, he text me telling me he’s been taken into hospital and was really ill. I text him a couple of times to ask how he was. No reply.

    I had no other means of communication until I saw him again at the watering hole, nor could I ask others how he was.

    I saw him a week later, extremely worried about him, clearly he was right as rain and smug that he’s pulled one over on me.

    He denied he’d ever received my texts.

  5. Fool me 1 time says:

    You’ve done it again HG! I think I have heard all them at some point in my life from someone!! It is still disheartening hearing and reading it!! Xxx

  6. mlaclarece says:

    21. You create your own beginnings and endings that are so delusional. I can’t believe I saw anything in you.

  7. nikitalondon says:

    yes number 1 X10000 times.
    “You forgot that I said this this and that …. ”
    “I did not do that………..”
    “I dont know what you are talking about…………”

    and hiding things and putting them back in the place where they should have been later on … this one is really really terrible 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁 . the worst one I would say.

    HG today is a freightening day… Like halloween at the blog.

    1. nikitalondon says:

      Now that the emotions and the freight of reading the posting is gone. Then I can tell you. Thanks for posting !!! Very good awareness of the past!!
      Thanks 😘

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