The Twenty Salvos Against Self Esteem


The erosion of your self-esteem is a natural consequence of your entanglement with our kind and to cause this is one of our aims. The easiest way to achieve this is to use words. Words are easy to come by and easy to use so they suit our purposes completely. A choice, cutting remark will tear a piece from you of your self-esteem as we hack, slash and cut away at it. Here are twenty of our common scathing salvos launched at your self esteem. Incoming !


  1. Nobody likes you. I don’t like you.
  2. Why are you inviting people? Nobody wants to see you.
  3. You are never on time. It is so infuriating. No, I don’t want to hear your excuse.
  4. Why are you studying? You won’t pass.
  5. You look ridiculous in that outfit.
  6. You are just like your father. Useless.
  7. Just smile and stay silent. Nobody is interested in you.
  8. You are such a disappointment to me.
  9. You always have to spoil it don’t you?
  10. Stop thinking about yourself for once in your life.
  11. Is that mean to impress me?
  12. You cause happiness whenever you go.
  13. You’re not wearing that near me.
  14. You’ll never amount to anything.
  15. Don’t say anything, you will only embarrass yourself.
  16. I’m ashamed to be seen with you.
  17. I wish you had never been born.
  18. What was I thinking when I said yes to you?
  19. You’re just not trying are you?
  20. You always let me down.

24 thoughts on “The Twenty Salvos Against Self Esteem

  1. cheiyenne says:

    I say this kind of stuff to myself all of the time…. 🙁 and I usually beilive it

  2. Lil One says:

    not you hg .. you do not love.. the ex’s saying all these things.. being abusive..

  3. Lil One says:

    And you continue to love them even when they verbal abuse you ?

    1. malignnarc says:

      But I never did love them, not in the way you understand love.

  4. Lil One says:

    It’s verbal abuse . And that is okay with you ?

    1. malignnarc says:

      The end justifies the means as I have often explained.

  5. Lil one says:

    Use it against them too .. but that would be giving them their supply . So criticism is best . Lots lots and lots of criticism. Then ignore them .

  6. Freedom says:

    8,14,17&20 he said about his son, I got off lightly I just got number 3.

  7. mlaclarece says:

    How many of these have you said? How many did Mum say to you growing up?

    1. malignnarc says:

      All of them. 4 of them.

  8. nikitalondon says:

    This is to cry. 😢😢 None of this sentences have been said to me except #3. Thanks God 🙏🏻🙏🏻. That would destroy me on the spot. 15,17,18 😭😭😭 OMG
    That would be too direct, It would not take me long to leave when hearing that list 😢😢.,. How sad …

    1. Me says:

      I did #3 by design to get that reaction to piss him off! 🙂

      1. malignnarc says:

        How did he react?

      2. nikitalondon says:

        You did it on purpose??? Why on earth do you want to piss off somebody… I dont get it… 😨
        I really still struggle to be on time somewhere, but I have improved alot. I can say now I am punctual but I had to learn it and it takes efforts.. I did it 😃

        1. malignnarc says:

          Punctuality is the politeness of kings.

          1. nikitalondon says:

            Hi HG

            yes i know now. Its also a european mentality 😃… I had to learn and I did 😃💋

          2. malignnarc says:

            Absolutely Nikita.

          3. Freedom says:

            It’s fashionable to be late. Think I’d be late for my own funeral ha ha.
            In the early days and to be honest in general im not bothered personally about being a few mins late but later in our relationship When my ex narc was late I eould made a point of making a big thing about it. I would also practice what you preach. In my head I was saying here have some of your own medicine.

          4. nikitalondon says:

            You are a king 💓💓❤️

          5. malignnarc says:

            Indeed I am.

      3. Me says:

        His reaction was what I expected HG, pretended it was OK but the eyes gave said it all, a quiet, simmering rage 🙂

        Yes, nikitalondon I did and would do it again to a person who did a hell of a lot worse to me. Punctuality and politeness are reserved for those that deserve it.

        1. nikitalondon says:

          I see….

  9. Cara says:

    #5, my mother LOVES to tell me I look fat/dumpy/farty in whatever I have on, and/or that my hair & skin look bad.

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