My kind and me are growing in number and it is all your fault. You have created a generation of people who truly believe they are special (and believe me they are not). They have an unshakeable sense of entitlement. They believe they are above criticism. Look at television programmes such as the X Factor and (insert country name’s) Got Talent. You have thousands of people (usually young) who really believe they can sing, dance and entertain. The level of delusion is so great it even forms at least two episodes at the start of every series where the thick-skinned fool as ridiculed as they caterwaul through another Whitney Houston song or they bounce around the stage like a maimed walrus. Yet they argue and they cry and they back answer the judges because they have been told they can sing. Their family paid for dancing lessons from a top choreographer. Sorry but you cannot polish a turd.
Social media gives a platform to the mundane. Look at me, here is what I ate, here is a picture of my new shoes. Look at this trout pout. Me, me and more me. In sports, every member of the team receives a trophy for being special. Nonsense. Winners win trophies. You do not by just turning up.
Lacking on the looks front? Not a problem. If you have the cash (and if not well beg, borrow or steal it) you can remove the fat, iron out the lines, straighten the buck teeth and convince yourself you are devastatingly beautiful. L’Oreal tells you that you are worth it. My ass you are.
Every child is told, too often, they are special. They believe the hype and my goodness me, don’t we know it. Demands for special treatment based on no discernable talent? Failed to make the grade? Oh don’t bother to study, hire a lawyer and sue. It’s the school’s fault they failed to harness your special creativity.
You enable this charade to go unchecked and with it you are creating wave after wave of mini-mes.
Thankfully there is a solution. I will soon cut them down to size. There’s only room for one ultimate champion here and that vacancy was filled along time ago. By me.
28 thoughts on “Little Acorns”
Flower – I do get it.
It`s unfortunate you took offense to my last sentence and were unable to recognize I was simply expressing frustration and not really meaning I would ever hit a child.
It is difficult for you to make any assertion of how that child behaves when you are not there to witness his behavior. I am and believe me when I say at his age, he is already very dangerous.
He lies, cheats, steals, you name it. He is brilliant about it and yes, he does know exactly what he`s doing.
He throws temper tantrums if ever told the word now. Tantrums that can last for hours and often involve screaming, hitting and biting.
I had to take my son to the hospital a month ago (he WAS friends with this kid) after this child became irate with my son because my son was playing with a toy he wanted. Instead of encouraging to share, the boy`s parents ordered my son to give this child the toy.
My son protested saying, “I am playing with it right now and I will give it to him as soon as I am done.” At which point the boy lashed out at my child and bit him so hard on the shoulder my son was bleeding, bruises and now has a scar.
The story sounds sad for the other kid who is acting out the rage and pain he has inside. Unfortunately was your son that time at the receiving end of the acting out but I would say the kid is worth of alot of compassion. I dont believe that it is just being spoiled. In some way or another he has the feeling of not being understood and nurtured to his particular needs.
Bloodandthunder, there is nothing unfortunate about my response, as it was a response, which is different than a reaction, which in turn becomes a different conversation full of fortune.
I will adjust my syntax in order to provide some light for you to perhaps consider where the forming of your own syntax is coming from, by saying this:
I was very aware of your expressions of frustration. I ask the question then, how does frustration lead to violent expression? What is happening there in that moment, that moment when the empathy towards yourself becomes choked out (masochistic ), your mouth covered ( shame), shackled in cuffs ( self loathing) – what message are you perpetuating through your reaction, what wisdom are you imparting into your experiences and the experiences of those around you.
There is a multitude of ways in which you may have responded to the experience and these are directly related to your own level of self awareness.
I see potential in you and I encourage you to keep working the courageous work.
Q. “I ask the question then, how does frustration lead to violent expression?”
A. Real fucking fast in my world.
I really love your vintage writing, HG. You should consider reposting some of them.
Bloodandthunder you are absolutely we will raise potato couches if rewarded for showing up. Kids are very clever and need to know from young age they are in for a hard life . Get ready
Well, there you go rifling around in my head again and writing something that is basically, word for word, exactly what I have been thinking about and discussing with friends lately.
Parenting requires a delicate balance – too little support, love and affection can create poor results, as can too much. It`s really difficult to know the correct balance – you just decide how to parent and go with it.
I absolutely loathe parents (and I know a lot of them) who are all about letting their child know that he or she is a unique and special little snowflake and that everything in life has to be fair. You get a trophy just for showing up. You get a prize for “trying.” What a load of hogwash!!
I am teaching my son that he needs to work for what he wants in life and that no, not everything is fair. He can’t always win, he won’t always succeed and no, not everyone is going to like him. Granted I let him know that’s okay, but he’s awesome just the way he is, but I am letting he know he won’t coast through life on putting in minimal effort.
A lot of my “FRIENDS” criticize me for how I parent, but I could really care less what they think. I’m doing what I feel is best for my child and believe me when I say, he’s one amazing kid.
Yes kids have to learn to work what they want and that they are wonderful like they are. I do believe in rewards and recognitions though. Why do they make critics on you ?
Kids only deserve awards and recognition when they`ve done something to deserve it or earned it.
A reward just for showing up – no. Just. No.
Yes sure for motivation or achievements.
What do you mean showing up? Where ?
This is so spot on !!! Bravo HG. Great.
HG absolutely brilliant. Spot on. We are to be blamed too. We feed your ego. Recently a friend of mine said to me to keep this other girl as my friend I should give her gossip
How bad advice that . Gossiping is bad full stop
I don’t know where our intellect is gone . We are scared we are not willing to change
HG I’m gonna give your articles to other people to read . We need awareness . Only thing is majority becomes your enemy . They don’t wanna hear the truth
Thank you FA and also for circulating. Your final sentence is somewhat prophetic in terms of today’s forthcoming article
Key message: with this article u want to say that a number of defective ppl like u has been increased due to last tendencies in educational system and social media.
Actually u say that there are more MNcs due to the fact that there r more targets (the system produces more potential victims)
=》 does everything is logic here? 😉
HG this is up there with my favourites and you cracked me up throughout !!
It really is becoming an epidemic though, and I’m sure a pandemic in the not too distant future !
I think my MN sees it S his role to destroy the Ns and BPDs as he always picks them as lieutenants and female fuel. I think he thought I was one, because in situations with high levels of these types I will blend.
So what can we do about it ?
we can’t let you do it all alone despite you being omnipotent
Thank you Alexis. What can you do about it? Read and arm yourselves.
From what I’ve perceived, it seems to be the opposite. The person who tells their offspring that they are a POS may foster someone with traits of your kind. The people who are given accolades for showing up are spoiled brats and will be thumped in a hurry by the real thing. It’s just a matter of time. I am likely missing something, right?
As much as telling someone they aren’t good enough can turn them into a narcissist, raising them to believe they are better than everyone else and deserve the world handed to them on a silver platter with little to no effort can also create the same monster.
I see it. A so-called “friend” of mine is raising a little narcissist. He’s only 6 and he thinks the entire world revolves around him and his needs because that’s how his parents and grandparents have raised him.
If he says jump, everyone around him says “how high.”
I’ve never wanted to slap a kid so hard in my life.
Thank you so much for the clarification, bloodandthunder. Wow 6 years old. He has a ton of competition coming up..for years and years..and years.
Bloodandthunder, I hope this finds you well. I find everything you have said beyond the comma after your first use of the word narcissist- to be disturbing and violent- which is clearly built into the henious words and thoughts of your last sentence.
Propagating wounds are you. I am disappointed to have read this, and disappointed as I thought that you – got it.
As for the -6- year old, the six year old that has only been talking and walking for 4 years, likely to have just learned to tie his shoes not that long ago, can only recognize and form certain words, defers to his inherent empathy, intuition and imagination to navigate his way in his world, and most importantly is completely reliant on the people that are projecting narcissistic injury and wound onto him- well, he is using all of his power to protect himself.
I think a fair question, in light of your post, is to ask what are you using your power for?
Ha! Straight from the horse’s mouth!!!
I agree with you for a change!
Someone’s in their “feelings” today 🙃
I never did like L’Oreal…they’re about as French as my ass hole (which, if you haven’t already guessed, isn’t French at All). But yeah we are creating more & more narcissists. Russell Brand made a documentary (or was it a mock-umentary?) in which he said “People call me a narcissist…Well I own it, I’m YOUR narcissist” and a crowd cheered him as he said it. Only Russell Brand would have a crowd of extras on hand to cheer him for announcing he’s a narcissist on camera.
I also hate Loreal. they test on animals for beauty products still in countries which is not banned. They are the most disgusting beauty product company of all. Boycott Loreal 🙂