26 thoughts on “Reflection

  1. Me says:

    HG is it possible that even 1 year after discard he’s still reflecting me? Of course he has a new “golden period booty”, but with other people he keep faking he likes the same things I showhed him (music, movies, books) and even repeating the same sentences I said before about them. Why doesn’t he mirror his new girl? (I’ve just discovered what he is and how to apply a real no contact, that’s why I know all these things about his life)

    1. HG Tudor says:

      1. No such thing as discard.
      2. He is using your character traits – this may occur post disengagement.
      3. He will be mirroring her (if she is in the golden period) you just do not know that this is happening. He can readily mirror her when with her and use your traits with other parties.

      1. Me says:

        I have to see him once or twice a week at university. He’s always behind me, hearing everything I say and sometimes he repeats the same sentence I’ve just said to someone else who wasn’t listening to me, it’s creepy and I just want him to go far away from me but i think that telling him this things would be a pure shower of fuel. Maybe he just wants my reaction and he won’t have it!

  2. Clary says:

    Martyr much?

  3. But it is a gorgeous reflection, HG.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Well indeed it is because you are all looking at yourselves.

  4. twinkletoes says:

    Does Tubby really view himself as brilliant, handsome, thin and charming? Does he not see reality when he looks in the mirror everyday?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      He most likely sees the reality if he looks and contemplates first thing but once that first dollop of fuel arrives to fire things up then the projected image takes over.

  5. nikitalondon says:

    I wonder why cant you just adopt a set of reflected traits then and make them to define a you ?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I do.

      1. nikitalondon says:

        Very positive 😃👍🏻

  6. FataMorgana says:

    I am curious to know what you dream about, HG. Are there people in your dreams? With distinct faces and identities? Or are your dreams populated with amorphous, faceless beings? Would you be willing to share?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello FataMorgana, I don’t have dreams, when I do eventually fall asleep I sleep the sleep of the righteous. If I have any dreams I do not remember them.

  7. steeviann says:

    What is your refelction? I told my narc that I was going to hold a mirror unto him. He said it was an interesting concept.
    He openly, freely, now talks of his disorder with me. I catch him trying to ask questions that will feed him fuel. I answer with the question if he looking for an answer that will feed his ego. He laughed as he knew he was busted. It has become almost at times, parent/child conversations.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Do you mean in that instance or ordinarily?

  8. centauride12 says:

    So you are a vampire??

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Only in the emotional sense.

  9. luckyotter says:


  10. Heather says:

    Hi HG! With that in mind, what happened inside my Narc when I started “reflecting TJE TRUTH ABOUT HIMSELF LIKE YOU ADMIT HERE? Please tell me! He discarded me wickedly when I got really sick and had no choices to go back any more. But I BLASTED him with the TRUTH as His reflection while he blasted me with projections of his evil, twisted mind!! Tell us!! Please! I can’t wait to hear! How does he view me now? He doesn’t have much in the realm of material, youth, good looks or vibrant health at all. Just his many many many faces and images far and wide and some major handy man skills and a lot of charming talents! Although rude, crude and loud! Offensive pig type! He started out protecting me from the likes of these as a respectful friends Friends at work while I was married to another vicious abuser for 20!! He protected me from all the pigs at work and helped me out, earned my trust, admiration and won my heart. 1st person in 33 years that ever inquired about the validity of MY FEELINGS and told me they matter! After he moved me out here in a remote place, far away (I got my own house!) out here over an hour away of more of them, then TURNED on me after a year! So yeah! I have CHANGED the REFLECTION that HE SEES when HE LOOKS TO ME!! HE IS NOT LOOKING TO ME NOW!!! I can’t look at my reflection through his lens unless it’s coming from YOU!! 12 whole years as someone else entirely!! Can’t wait to hear your thoughts! You Rock HG! 😎

    1. HG Tudor says:

      If he is a lesser he will have regarded it as criticism and it will have wounded him causing him to ignite his fury and lash out to gain fuel as I wrote about in The Lesser. Does he accord with the description of such a person.

      1. Heather says:

        I would have to say YES! When he flipped it was Jekyl and the SCARIEST HYDE yet! A total freak show! I was conditioned with safety parameters by him from piggy men at work! He knew I was going home to a vicious a abuser, then coming back to work in a world of piggy men and slobbering wolves! Being a female that men consider a “natural beauty” has been a curse. Men treat me like an object. Woman treat me like the plague. No one is ever happy if I am. The wives of those men hated me and I never met 1 of them! HE got them to STOP harassing me. When the Abusive Narc boss would “punish me” by sticking me in some remote spot to work (taping houses for the painters) and by YANKING my radio! This Narc would SING Led Zeppelin or Whatever ROCK from down the HALL! It was funny! He is gifted in the art of mimicry and can do voices. So he distracted me constantly with his acts and jokes and making me laugh! He liked to rescue me from the darkness! He introduced me as his “little sister” to any new people. ;Instant family!) your kind can sense an orphaned heart like mine! First person to ever tell me my feelings were important. Very respectful of boundaries by NEVER crossing them! So in this way he seems so smart! And when he flipped over and ripped off the mask he is worse than ANY I have KNOWN! So yeah. ANY little deviation from the slightest difference it was a MASSIVE INJURY!! Critised? THAT IS OKAY with ME! Hope he feels disapproved of AND rejected to! 😀 🎧You got this All down to a T! And it’s Free! 🎧 Do you like Rock music?

  11. That is sad HG

  12. So, what happens when someone reflects you?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Do you mean reflecting what I am or reflecting back what I reflect at them?

      1. I mean, reflecting back what you are.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You would not be able to do that.

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