Entering the Sphere of Influence

Few people are unfamiliar with the Star Wars franchise. In the first film, A New Hope, Han Solo, Obi-Wan Kenobi, Luke Skywalker and Chewbacca have emerged from hyperspace in the millennium falcon only to find an imperial tie fighter and an absence of the planet that they had hope to reach. Instead as a perplexed Han Solo tries to figure out what is going on, the tie fighter is seen racing towards a small moon that Luke has identified. As the sphere comes into view, Obi-Wan states with a calm dread,

“That’s no moon.”

Indeed it is not. It is in fact a space station and specifically the machine of mass destruction that is the death star. Once recognition has dawned on the quartet along with the fearful consequence of being near to such a powerful weapon, they try to escape but it is too late. The millennium falcon has been caught in the death star’s tractor beam and they hare slowly dragged towards the waiting death star.

We are that death star. We glide along appearing at first to be something benign or at least neutral, our true purpose masked to those we seek to pull into our sphere of influence. Our tractor beam is powerful, unceasing and almost impossible to resist as it attaches to our victims and with our legendary seductive ability hauls them into our world. Like a rabbit caught in the headlights you are unable to escape as we pull you closer and closer to us. By the time you realise what has happened and that we are indeed ‘no moon’ it is too late, you have been caught and escape is extremely difficult.  Our true purpose is hidden from and if you ever do realise that is a ‘death star’ you are sailing towards you will find it so very difficult to escape the iron hold we have over you.

There are those, through the intervention of others and the application of learned knowledge, who do manage to free themselves from the tractor beam’s hold. It is rarely immediate. The escape that might occur usually only takes place after a long period of time subjected to our burning lasers of hurt and our photon torpedoes of misery. If you manage to escape you know by now that you must stay away and keep away. We will continue to drift along, like that death star cruising through space as we take hold of fresh victims along our route and drag them towards us. Occasionally we will shift our path and make towards you once again. You remain in one place at your peril as we will approach you and once more seek to suck you in with our mighty tractor beam. We may plot a course which takes us to pastures new where we busy ourselves with fresh and shiny new victims who provide us with delicious and exciting fuel. This will occupy us but we will never forget about you. You will similarly never forget about us because of what we have done to you and the way we have conditioned you. This conditioning engenders a sense of curiousity in you. You need to know what we are doing, you want to know who we are interacting with now and thus you decide to fly past our death star, just for a distant view of the edifice that once nearly destroyed you. You feel safe watching from a distance as you fly by but be warned. Fly too close and that tractor beam will take hold of you again. If you give us any opportunity to hoover you back in once again we will seize it. You appear on our sensors and we will increase the power of the tractor beam in a bid to capture you once again. It may have been years since there was any interaction between us but if you fly too close to our death star then you will be sucked back into it and subjected to our machinations once again.

When you first try and escape we apply the tractor beam to keep you where we want you, but if you are determined and manage to depart then we set a course for new horizons and new fuel. We may at a later date decide to alter our trajectory again and move back to your solar system in the hope of grabbing you once more. Should you see us coming you need to jump in your space ship and fly somewhere else quick. If you wish to flirt with danger, feel free to follow us to the new galaxy where we are destroying new planets, but if you come too close, we will detect you and we will apply that tractor beam once again. The passage of time does not matter. It might just be a few months since you made your escape or it could be a decade, either way, if you come close to our sphere of influence our tractor beam will take a hold of you and pull you back towards us. You will always be of interest to us, it may be in a week’s time, a year or ten years but if there is a window of opportunity to take hold of you again we will gladly take it because the fuel to be gained is exquisite.

So, if you manage to escape our grip, fly to the other side of space from us and keep that distance otherwise our tractor beam will draw you in once again. That is the only hope you have to remain free of our grip. Unless of course you somehow manage to fire that photon torpedo down that exhaust chute but we both know you are never going to be able to manage that, right?

44 thoughts on “Entering the Sphere of Influence

  1. Debbie says:

    Omg. Thanks HG…I Cant believe how I saw this article tonight.

  2. Broken says:

    Damn was it him?
    In two years I have only seen him twice. Once after a few days while driving and once last fall when meeting up.
    Today feeling stronger thanks to this blog and HGs excellent writings. And then BAM it might might have been the idiot!
    While happily driving to pick up my son a car is driving very close (you know those anal prone drivers). I noticed it but kept my speed limit since it was a school zone. Glanced back and straight into a familiar face and eyes!!! Only for a millisecond so I could not really determine it was him for sure. Still driving very close and then suddenly steered onto another side street! I glanced once more and saw that the car was indeed the model I know he got after separation. I don’t see ghosts nor do I usually pay attention to other cars..
    still not sure but if so … I know what might come …
    I did not know about the spheres before but now I do. I’ll stay away as much as possible.
    Just such an odd experience… No fuel day 12!
    Now back to life!!!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are seizing the power Broken.

      1. Broken says:

        Thank you HG! Oddly enough it did not affect me as much as I thought! I want to be ready to date and have sex again! Just tired of this shit in my mind!
        Thank YOU!

        1. HG Tudor says:


  3. MLA - Clarece says:

    H.G., I am seriously sad about the passing of Carrie Fisher, our beloved Princess Leia!! She was scheduled to be in Star Wars VIII and IX too.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It was inevitable after her recent cardiac arrest. If VIII are IX are anything like VII she is better of not being in them, VII was atrocious and ruined my anticipation. As you might expect, I always wanted the Empire to win.

      1. MLA - Clarece says:

        Lolll, if it’s any consolation, for the 10 minutes Darth Vader is in “Rogue One”, he is a total scene stealer and completely bad-ass. He represents the Empire well!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Indeed he was. Rogue One was excellent.

  4. Leilani says:

    Yes HG, it is.

  5. GodIsAmazing says:

    i have read your book and now follow your blog/postings.
    With every one I read, I learn more and more truth to the man I was with. It’s scary and gut wrenching truth!!
    But my question just keeps coming back to WHY you do it? I know in the book you say to help others. So you are aware of who you are and what you do. So why help people? You know what’s right and wrong, you seem to have a heart, – conscious. So why not change?? I tend to get false hope my ex can change.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello GIA, thank you for reading. I don’t do it to help others. I do it because I enjoy writing, I enjoy the interaction and an audience, I do it as it is part of my treatment which I must complete to achieve my other aims and I also find the prospect of weaponising empaths against my kind interesting and it appeals to my sense of omnipotence to arm people in this manner and know that right now people are applying what I have conveyed to them. The fact it helps people is a side effect, but it pleases me because of the appreciation and gratitude is garners for me. My heart is dark and ringed with ice. Why not change? I have no reason to. Yet.

      1. Snow White says:

        YET is a great word. Better than BUT.

      2. Leilani says:

        What would be “the” reason to cause a desire to change HG?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Now that is the golden question is it not Leilani?

      3. God Is Amazing says:

        That’s exactly what he always said about his heart.
        what is your next aim? Treatment?
        Is it a fix for fuel, The audience?

        There was a perfect response. .. to keep the empath holding on. ” why not change? I have no reason to. Yet.”

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I am already in treatment GIA. Hence why I made reference to the “yet” there may be changes ahead.

          1. Leilani says:

            You may just beat me to the punch HG. Should I start singing amazing grace?

          2. HG Tudor says:

            Ha ha take it away.

          3. Leilani says:

            Done.. I took it away though they were putting make up.. I saw a light HG!?

          4. GodIsAmazing says:

            So psychiatric tx?? If so, is it your own choice? If so, why? Doesn’t that contradict “your kind”?
            But just like an addict, your never safe from relapsing!!!
            The more I learn the more I’m “intrigued” and will ask you many many questions!!!

          5. HG Tudor says:

            No I was compelled to under go it.

          6. GIA says:

            You need an open chat room. Lol. I would pick your brain so much with questions!!
            It’s great to hear your responses.

          7. HG Tudor says:

            If you want to pick my brain in that manner, you can arrange a private consultation GIA to do so.

          8. GIA says:

            Arrange a private consultation.. how do I go about that?

          9. HG Tudor says:

            E-mail me at narcissist1909@gmail.com and I shall explain how it is achieved.

          10. Isn’t there a link at the bottom of the page? Or can I just email you straight up?

          11. HG Tudor says:

            There is a link to two types of consultations – one talking, one e-mail – in the sidebar, but if you e-mail me I can explain the arrangements.

      4. GodIsAmazing says:

        So much of what you do now, is actually exactly what you are telling us to stay away from.
        It’s like a lifetime movie!!

        I appreciate everything you say. It has brought light to my recognizing!!
        I will continue to read. But that’s all part of the empath’s quest to find the answer to x plus y. Right?!

        1. GodIsAmazing says:

          Good response.. YET, is better than BUT.
          Because you can never close the book on tomorrow because there is always hope. There is always a chance until the day you day, that yes.. YOU CAN CHANGE.

      5. Leilani says:

        I believe I may know the golden answer HG.

  6. Super Empath Fool says:

    Great blog. You are a true master of words, HG. Such is your kind :0)

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you SEF.

  7. Laureen C Manyoma says:

    This is what “fighting for you…for us” and “loving you back to me” looks like…
    Wow. Thank you for the confirmation

  8. notvirtual says:

    Hi HG. I haven’t been here for a long time. I came back to thank you again because I finally understood my boss (woman). I used to get hurt by her mean comments or to feel that high feeling whenever she wanted me to adore her and do anything for her.
    There is no “no-contact” possible with her, and I believe there are many more like her in the boss world, so I am not giving up my work yet (I work there for more then a decade). But I feel so light after understanding she has no real feelings and can be manipulated back if I want to – I am just cautious, I need my job.
    I did not use REVENGE with my ex but I might use it with her, even if only for a laugh.
    Or I will just continue hoping she will get a better job and leave this position to someone better.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello NV, yes, once you understand what you are dealing with it is evident that there is a sense of both relief and elation. Suddenly, things make sense, you realise you are not the problem, you are not crazy and you also know there is a way forward. Yes, you need your job, but now you can perform your job with knowledge and understanding. The Narcissist At Work is a book that is in development which is likely to be of interest to you.

      1. Unbothered says:

        HG Tudor. Thank you so much for your insights. I have been educating myself on your kind for I have had more than my share of encounters with them. “Mine” resurfaced a few weeks ago but I ignored him and he seemed to have vanished, hopefully. Now that I am fully aware, thanks to you and many others. Now it;s time to get on with my life and focus on those that will appreciate, love and respect me. Thanks again HG.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You are welcome.

  9. Ms. Real says:

    Planet Narco is extinguished from my sphere. The torpedo hit precise and merciless as it should. Torpedos of truth to tear and wound and destroy. The only thing that still reigns there is disgust. While in my sphere a new star was born it is called healing. I love it here.

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  11. SII says:

    I really enjoyed this blog. I laughed. Truly light hearted.
    Thank you for the reminder. I think my space ship is to fast to catch! I am flying past a lower level narc. He is still looking for his night goggles.

  12. Amy says:

    I fired my shot not once but twice and hit my mark. I believe I have become a liability in his game. I know you’ve said confronting is part of the game but he’s messed with the wrong girl. He was my boss and I am capable of causing much damage to his livelihood and reputation. His words, pictures, history…I know it and have kept it all for my protection against his possible retaliation. He has been caught and has lost the faith of his main fuel line. The others have fled. He is holding his main squeeze (very close, actually moved her in with him to keep her close) who is creating the much needed fuel for him now and keeping him in line for the time being. He is a coward and allows her to do his bidding. He is laying in wait to pounce on me again, I know what he is doing and will not hold my tongue. He cannot win with me. It was the only way to escape his magnetism! I had lost myself to him for 4 years and I am slowly putting my life back together again. I am strong, I have survived so much! I am better than him, I have so much to be grateful for…for this I am thankful to him for showing me what I will not accept from anyone! My freedom will come when I no longer care what he is doing or to whom bc I know he will never change. When he is no longer on my radar, my guard is up bc he is in close proximity and he has influence where I work. It’s why I will keep my knowledge of him and his games close. I can never trust that he will not try to hurt me again since I have thwarted his way of life. I am archenemy #1…I saw it in his eyes and in his smile after the second “confession” to his main fuel. She is his cover, she makes him appear “normal”! She has all the makings of the appearance he wants for himself! I know him, I can read him, I have studied him in a way I’ve never known anyone before. I’ve become a fighter in a way I never thought I could be. This is truly the toughest experience anyone can go through, this is my life and I want it back!

  13. Help me HG Tudor,
    You’re my only hope.
    *dons princess leia chained bikini*

  14. Snow White says:

    Loved the Star Wars analogy. You have so many ways of explaining one topic. That was my favorite explanation of the way the spheres work. It made perfect sense to me.
    I will stay away from Death Stars. The temptation works both ways if I am too close.
    Just ordered my Princess Leia costume. Lol

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