The Narc Days of Christmas – No. 2

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20 thoughts on “The Narc Days of Christmas – No. 2”

  1. Why are these violent? I thought only the lessers react with physical abuse. In all my years of experience, I only had 1 episode of violence. That was from a less of lesser Neanderthal.

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      1. How are you typically on a major holiday like Christmas? I know you’ve written about needling your sister, which can really be a lot of sibling relationships. lol But how far do you take it to keep the attention on yourself? I would think there’s definitely a difference if you’re in the Seduction Phase or Devalue Phase with an IP. Now that you’ve disclosed Kim has entered the Devalue Phase, what will the difference be for her from last year vs. this year?

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  2. Every abuser has the potential to become violent. Another sign that we are regarded as objects and inferiors. The holidays are particularly hard for those with narcicists in their lives. Narcicists often will become antsy because it is a celebration that doesn’t revolve around them and often involves other people’s wants, wishes and plans. Thus the increase in anger, resentment and drama. I also believe it is a trigger for some narcissists of childhood issues, especially if they were raised by a narcicist. Often a reminder of what kind of care they didn’t have, wishes not granted (or over indulged in shallow material love). Also potentially a reminder of abuses and mind fucks they went through too.

    So, partners and children of narcissists often suffer more during holidays. Heightened tensions also increase likelihood of physical violence.

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  3. …*and a dog-beating in the garage corner…*

    Also singing along :/

    Lump of (narc)coal clues:
    *hair-trigger tempers,
    *secret-keepers/NON-talkers.

    (stay away from Silent Santa!)

    natural & healthy to want to run away from that ABUSE

    so take the dog & RUN!!

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  4. This is making me thankful that my ex didn’t lay a hand on me. She liked to make people think she was tough and not to mess with her or what was hers but I was never at the end of her fist.
    I’m sorry for anyone who had to experience this.
    She favored using her words to hurt and manipulate.

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  5. Twas the night before Christmas

    Twas the night before christmas and all through the house
    Not a creature was stirring not even Narc spouse
    The stockings were hung by the chimney with care
    In hopes that the morning would still find them there

    The two of us nestled all snug in our bed
    When the asshole decides to turn peace to dread
    He turns to me solemnly, says I must go
    To another location you bother me so

    Then all at once he is up in a clatter
    Says he has to attend to a most pressing matter
    Downstairs he saunters and acting quite brash
    Puts his hand to my wallet to rummage for cash

    Where the hell are the car keys he bellows below
    While I roll my eyes upward and scream I dont know!
    Just like you to lose them he snorts with derision
    Like he needs an excuse to have made this decision

    The one that will leave me alone with my thoughts
    While he visits his favorite of Narc hunting spots
    He’ll be gone until morning if history repeats
    If he’s back before then- well hold on to your seats.

    I used to fulfill him but now I’m in pain
    As he often rebuffs me and treats with disdain
    And me? i still love him and hope for a future
    Though a more likely outcome a cut and a suture

    I wont give up easy- its in me to give
    And a world thats without him not worth it to live
    For I know that my love can heal all thats wrong
    If he’d only succumb to my empathic song

    The one where I sing to that sweet little boy
    Whos stuck in a man like the most broken toy
    And i know when I free him all will be well
    And he’ll see that his life doesnt have to be hell

    No need for facade, construct, or cage
    To imprison his feelings of deep shame and rage
    But I know in my heart he doesnt want healed
    Or his thoughts laid exposed and his secrets revealed.

    And Im kidding myself -I know it down deep
    As my eyes finally close and I drift off to sleep
    I awaken soon after, turn over to see
    That he’s back here beside me right where he should be

    And my heart skips a beat that he’s still in my bed
    But I know what my heart cannot tell my head
    That he sleeps like a child and I hope he sleeps well
    Because when awakens I’m right back in hell……

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  6. Hello Everyone, I am knew this site & I am so grateful I stumbled upon this blog because I am still struggling with the effects of Narcissistic abuse. I’ve been abused physically, emotionally, mentally-hit, devalued with words, really mistreated. However, I played a part in this entire situation. He discarded me for someone else, but still attempts to contact me. I went no contact 30 days ago but he contacts me via email, keeps asking me to call him but I don’t respond. I still cry at times, trying to forgive myself for allowing someone to mistreat me! I was a sucks, really allowed him to have total control over me. Wow!

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    1. Hello Erica, welcome on board. You will now have the information which will help you understand and make sense of what has happened to you which will set you on the path to freedom.

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  7. Hi HG Tudor, thanks! I really need help.My Narc & I was together for 5 years, brojen up for 2. I only saw him 2×’s in thist time period. Emotionally tirn to pieces. I wabt to be done & over rhis

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