The Narc Days of Christmas – No. 3


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  1. marija says:

    Does every school of narcissists do all that you have written for every day of Christmas,even if he works whole day and isn*t even at home?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Not all will do, there are different forms of manipulation dependent on the school of narcissist and the situation which is presenting itself.

  2. I feel very confused; very severe cognitive dissonance.

  3. Mr. Tudor, is a BPD also a Codependent, sometimes?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Can be yes.

  4. Fool me one time says:

    Hopefully you have a wonderful evening planned! As for me, it has been way to long since I have been out! So tonight I hit the clubs!!!! Have a good rest of your weekend and Christmas! I hope the New Year brings you everything you desire! Good bye HG! Chat with you again in January. ( maybe)

    1. Fool Me, why are you leaving? I am borderline and i cannot tolerate abandonment. Though i do not know you and this is not my blog, i still feel sad to see you go. Please reconsider.

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Fool Me will return PTSD she will be focussing on Christmas for her family as she is big on that.

        1. Fool me 1 time says:

          Not so much big on that! I am the only one that will make sure all is taken care of!!! I will pop in once in awhile after the New Year to make sure you all are well PTSD. Tonight however is my night to be the hunter!!!!! Lol.

        2. Great then! I will welcome Fool Me with open arms on her return!

      2. I am, as well, PTSD.

        1. Forgiven, i thought we chatted and you had reconsidered? But if that’s what you have decided, then all the best to you!
          Come visit anytime๐Ÿ˜Š
          I will be here for sure. This blog helps me to make sense of my narc’s behavior on a real time basis, and keeps me sane!

          1. No, PTSD…I meant that I have BPD, too.

          2. Oh i see Forgiven! I am co-dependent and borderline. I think they co-occur. We’re so alike! Stay strong!

          3. I will try and do so. Thank you, PTSD <3

    2. Snow White says:

      Good luck FM and have fun!!!!
      I miss seeing you around.

    3. Love says:

      Everything is frozen here. I want to go to clubs too. I want to dance!
      I put on a show for my neighbors but nobody joins in. People are too uptight.

      1. AH OH says:

        Come to Vegas. Plenty of clubs.

      2. davita says:

        Frozen here, too, Love… I am moving to warmer weather.

  5. Snow White says:

    More fake stuff! Makes me want to scream.

    I second Bah Humbug Jaded.

    HG, what do you think of Christmas. Do you have any fond memories?
    Do you like the music, decorations, anything at all?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It is a fuel fest.

      1. Snow White says:

        How about a fuel feast? Lol

      2. Not So Sad says:

        Good afternoon HG .

        ” Fuel fest” indeedy !

        For the record my birthday & Christmas fall in the same week . Talk about bad planning !

        Not this year though . I’m narc free & loving it ๐Ÿ™‚

        P.s saw your lieutenant in Lanzarote . You should take their badge away so transparent ๐Ÿ™‚ ” winks .

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Hello NSS, yes my Assessor Lieutenant reported in. There will be a disciplinary hearing for him shortly.

          1. Not So Sad says:

            Good . He should be sacked on the spot . HG .

            You should’ve heard the things he was were saying about you . I saw the photo’s too .

          2. HG Tudor says:

            Ha ha now I know you are telling fibs.

          3. Not So Sad says:

            Moi HG ?.. never .

            Honest Guv . ๐Ÿ™‚

    2. 1jaded1 says:

      Indeed, Snow. I hate this time of the year. There is so much fakery this time of the year. I’ve skipped family Christmas gatherings bc the thought of attending them made me truly ill (didn’t have to lie to get out of going lol). I’m sure the real “loving” bonds exist. It makes me sick to see people who can’t stand each other fake smiles and concern and then backstab when person leaves. Be real to each other 365/366 or don’t bother. /rant. Thank you for listening.

      1. Snow White says:

        I understand completely Jaded!!!! We go through this in high school and I realized that it only gets worse in your adult years. Something I wasn’t prepared for. I am so glad my daughter is out of high school because those parents were the worst.
        And then the family gatherings are another thing to deal with.
        Where do you go for Christmas?
        I will always listenโค๏ธ๐ŸŽโค๏ธ

        1. 1jaded1 says:

          Usually back home. Sometimes I don’t.

          1. Snow White says:

            Do you enjoy the peace and quiet Jaded?

          2. 1jaded1 says:

            When it happens…yes.

  6. HG, did you give kim 3 false friends? Is kim at your home this weekend? What does she do while you moderate the blog? Are you utterly bored of her? Does she disgust you?

    I like her ๐Ÿ˜Š
    Can you introduce her online to us?๐Ÿ˜œ

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I gave her more than three through my coterie.
      She is not her today but will be this evening.
      She gets on with her own life – work, seeing her friends etc.
      Not yet, she provides negative fuel.
      At times yes.
      How can you like her? You do not know her?

      1. Fool me one time says:

        Does she live with you HG? Have you been with her longer then the others? Hopefully before you discard her you will see that perhaps she is the right one for you!!! Xxx

        1. HG Tudor says:

          She is not.

      2. So she does disgust you at times? Since you have revealed your secrets here, i cannot say i’m surprised, but it still saddens me.
        Sorry my question was not clear – what does she do when she is at your home and you are moderating the blog in the study?
        I like her because i just finished reading ‘Sitting Target’ and i know she has lovely qualities. As an elite, i know what you look for now. And i admire her for putting up with your secrecy. There is much about you she doesn’t know.
        ‘An author? With many publications? No, he’s not an author!’ she laughs.
        But there is much about you that she knows which we don’t eg. your profession. Who are you dear G? The mystery continues…

        1. HG Tudor says:

          She does.
          She may be asleep or she is cooking something or yakking on the ‘phone to her friends. She knows she is not allowed in the study.
          I understand now your expansion of your point as to why you like her, fair enough.
          She does indeed know what I do for a living which thrills and frightens her in equal measure.

          1. ‘yakking on the phone to her friends’ lol

            What do you have planned in terms of negative fuel? An argument? A present silent treatment? A cold icy demeanour aka turning off the switch? Poor thing!

          2. AH OH says:

            Are you her superior at the office? Why would she fear what you do?
            I feared my 1st ex as we had heavy equipment ( underground utility company.) I thought he would bury me like he did all things that he wanted to go away. Cars, stuff.
            I would fear dateing anyone in Law enforcement or legal. I have heard of horror stories.
            So why does she fear your profession?

          3. HG Tudor says:

            Because of what it involves.

          4. AH OH says:

            1)Barrister and Soliciter.
            2Porn producer.
            3)Local level politician, which would connect you to #1.
            4) Law enforcement
            5) A Big Bad Wolf

          5. HG Tudor says:

            1. No (and by the way you are either one or the other here)
            2. Only on an amateur level.
            3. Not local.
            4. No.
            5. Naturally.

          6. AH OH says:

            You can have the license for both in the UK. Not common but it happens. Wikipedia.

          7. HG Tudor says:

            No you can’t. You can qualify as both but you cannot hold practising certificates for both. You cannot practise as both solicitor and barrister at the same time, it is against the codes of conduct.

          8. AH OH says:

            Ah, I see. You know the code of conduct and the Brits. Here in the states, well you know.
            Anyway, lawyers, there are a few that live in my neighborhood. I really have not seen to many handsome ones. My personal lawyer is now a judge in the family courts.
            My youngest was going to school to be a lawyer but changed gears and is now going for mechanical engineering. No pun meant. Three years of school and money wasted.
            A friend of mine is the commentary attorney for CNN, Richard Herman. You can imagine his response to me when he realized I am a deployable.
            Oh well.

            So if I come to the UK and I am arrested, would you bail me out? Do you have the connections to bury my naughty deeds.

          9. HG Tudor says:

            Personally I would not bail you out. If it suited my purposes I could make arrangements to assist you in the preservation of your liberty.

          10. I remember reading the following. A commenter asked if you are a local politician. You replied ‘not local.’ So you are a politician? Omg! Aren’t you concerned somebody may recognize your voice on youtube and identify you?

          11. HG Tudor says:

            No I am not concerned about that. I move in political circles as part of my professional role and hold certain advisory roles which have political influence but I am not an elected politician.

          12. Oh ok. You are not an elected politician. But you are in politics, a political advisor. Omg you hold a powerful position! This is the perfect job for a narc, yes?

          13. AH OH says:

            I will keep this in mind. I do not break the law in other countries, so you will not have to lift a finger to assist. But it is a warm thought to know that if you can’t find use for me then you would let me rot in jail. So Narc like.

          14. AH OH says:

            The truth here is no matter what you do, it does not change my life.
            I am very safe from your cold stare, your machinations and your rage.
            I read about all the abuse most have had and I feel damn good about my life. As I have stated, I have been with some real shit heads but nothing like these woman.
            The best thing you have done is help them see and you have replaced and filled the needs for attention. This is what you did for me. It is time I wean off. I have learned many new skills and more about myself then I ever thought I would. It is time I put these skills to work. I do appreciate you for this.
            Happy New Year HG and I hope you have everything you desire.

          15. It makes me think that perhaps you are a Hit-Man, an International Spy, Loan Shark, Weapons Engineer, or part of the SWAT Team.

          16. Even i wonder what HG does for a living. It must be exciting though!

          17. Forgiven says:

            I just thought of it! A Superior Court Judge! This is it! I know it!

          18. A lying, two-faced, biased, hypocritical supreme court judge- we’re dead!๐Ÿ˜ญ
            No offense HG!๐Ÿ˜‰

      3. Love says:

        Kim as well as your previous IPs are all of us. We are all the same – add or subtract levels of empathy. Codependent , empath, or super empath… It really doesn’t matter. We hold on to these titles as a status yet the end is always the same.
        So PTSD, I can understand why you like Kim. I do too. I empathize with her. I have been her. I will be her again.

      4. HG, how is your date going? Do tell…

        1. HG Tudor says:

          No date.

      5. Love says:

        I don’t think so Forgiven. He’s too young to wear the lamb fleece wig. Also, he would have been able to clear his criminal charges much easier as a judge and his family would be none the wiser.

        1. davita says:

          This makes good sense, Love. Too bad on him being too young, though. I like older men- much older.

          1. HG Tudor says:

            I could be a judge if I so chose. Not a Supreme Court judge, I am not that old!

          2. 1jaded1 says:

            From what I understand , HG, you can be appointed. No age requirements to be on SCOTUS. Just need to be appointed by POTUS according to the website…can’t link. And of course i xould be wrong. Trump passed the EC. Now may he your time. Word on the street is that the court is a person down.

          3. HG Tudor says:

            Hi 1jaded, I was referring to our Supreme Court (latterly the House of Lords) rather than yours. Here whilst age is not a factor, legal and judicial experience is (neither of which I have but when would I let that stop me doing something?) and therefore because of those criteria the age of our Supreme Court Justices is north of 55, usually higher.

          4. 1jaded1 says:

            You don’t even need to be a US citizen. Of course that depends on the confirmation hearings. You’d have no issue, right? Then i would need to update my passport.

          5. davita says:

            I imagine you could be so, HG, as you have the intellect for it for certain. I did not know the ages of Supreme Court Judges… On TV, I saw a few that looked to be in their beginning 40’s.

          6. davita says:

            Ohhhh! I just looked up Average Age of Supreme Court Justice and it is 64! No, I did not consider you to be of this age, Mr. Tudor!! I guess that you might be between 43-49. I won’t consider dating anyone under 42! I once dated a man who was 63! He was a Somatic Narc. He was much older than me, but before I knew about his Narcissism and all his games became apparent, I did so love him! He handled a gun very well!

          7. davita says:

            I <3 U so much, and do not believe U r the antichrist. I do not! I believe U r a sociopath who's doing his very best to understand his behavior, and help others. You are still a sociopath, but a more sensitive one than the others. I really believe this.

          8. davita says:

            Older men make me feel more secure <3

        2. davita says:

          I am leaving this blog, now. I pictured him above 40 yrs of age. I am no longer spellbound. [Sigh].

  7. Yin&Yang says:


  8. Lacy says:

    Hey HG, speaking of three, how does it make the narc feel when the tables are turned and he is the one being triangulated? Him – mid narc, me- DLS who was previously discarded or shelved and being hovered over and over and those attempts Were ignored. He finds out that I have been telling his coworker, who doesn’t like the narc, that the mid is a bad guy. Nothing more is said than that. There is also much flirtation between myself and the coworker. Suddenly, the narc is texting me asking me to call him. I suspect that they spoke to each other. What is his plan? What is he thinking? Thanks for your help!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      He wants fuel and he wants to regain control in this dynamic so you can expect that you have been smeared and the narcissist will now lash out at you for your treachery.

      1. Lacy says:

        Treachery because I said he was a bad guy or because I flirted with the coworker? I suspect both. He couldn’t have smeared me too badly or the coworker disregarded it because afterwards, he was sweet to me. Wasn’t I being smeared anyway? The hoovers have stopped. What do you make of that?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Both. The hoovers have stopped because he is gaining fuel elsewhere I suspect.

      2. Lacy says:

        Also, is he wounded or jealous or both? Thanks HG

        1. HG Tudor says:


  9. Isn’t everything given fake or a faรงade HG? I would think the answer to that would be a yes.

    1. HG Tudor says:


  10. 1jaded1 says:

    Three wrench(ing) zens. Five will be interesting. Only one golden period. Five golden hoovers?

  11. Clary m says:


  12. 1jaded1 says:

    Two violent shoves

    And an overnight stay in A and E.

    Bah Humbug, HG.

  13. Love says:

    I like this one. It’s friendly. ๐Ÿ˜€

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