The Narcissistic Truths – No 97

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27 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No 97”

  1. HG,
    So my good doctor says today that with narcissists you need to meet and exceed expectation, this you know. Now he gives me an example. If I brought my mother who is Narc coffee everyday of the week, she expects me to do it therefore it becomes a pattern. Now if Narc brother who never would ever do such a task does it once, she gloats and will call people to tell them, oh he is the best etc….my question is this. Do you think this is why fuel runs out? The expectations are continually met so its a given your going to get it and so you see it as mundane and that is the change your IP’s make, they become a given. So fresh fuel must be sought-after because new fuel is really a challenge to see how many expectations they can meet? So you love the challenge of trying to break a person into the mundane old faithful. All based on conditional love because that is the love you were taught, conditions have to be met to get the approval, but then that task was only good for a day or two until another task was given, thus creating a black and white state. You were good one minute as a child bad the next, jumped through ever changing hoop and went back to good until it wore off and then some other chaos had to be put into play to make it exciting again. You hoover back because you recall the fuel was at one time meeting your needs and rechallenge old IP to see if new conditions can be met. Am I getting it?

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  2. This guy and I just barely started dating. I really like him! He seems to really enjoy being around me, and has been very eager about seeing me whenever he can. I hope he doesn’t end up being another Narcissist!

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      1. Thank you, Adele! I will keep my eyes open and ask questions now, and then on here, about is behavior. I am not so sure what a normal relationship looks like, I suppose.

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  3. My sister said you…..
    My friend said you….
    My Ex said you……

    ….were looking crazy the other day….
    …..need to see a psychiatrist…..
    ……were being the unreasonable one……
    …..are abusive…..
    ……cant do anything right……

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  4. HG,
    She left me penniless, fired from two jobs, left me bleeding on the pavement after she ran over me, and I was wanting to ask you Will I ever recover? I have scars to remind me, nightmare every night of the incident. Everything is lost including myself I’m afraid. Tell me professed Narcissist was it her intention all the time, is she not as developed or know what she is?

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    1. Yes you will. It will take time but you will. You have the tools now to achieve it. Her intention was to gain fuel from you, everything else was collateral to that overriding objective.

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      1. Thank you, HG.
        I have read the 50 questions, and the Revenge book, what would you suggest next. I was already hoovered by her before I knew what is was. You have opened my eyes, butt I haven’t improved. The will to to face her and call her out demand an apology has diminished through your readings. Please don’t stop what your doing, so many yet unaware…

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      2. Please file a police report L4D! The clinic you went to has your records. At the very minimum you can file a civil lawsuit. There are lawyers that work pro bono, so it is ok if you don’t have money.

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      3. Contacted every attorney in town. Since I had to move out of state, lawsuits have to be filed in the state where it happened. No body will touch the case without a police report and a thousand dollars in medical bills. If you knew the rest of the story it would blow you away Love, I wrote it on Facebook in November, little did I know it was a hoover and I hot wrote it so I have been told. I did not know about HG Tudor then, so I was blind.

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      4. He whereabouts are closely watched as I wouldnt put anything past her since she is psychopathic. Her family is not aware she is narcissistic but will soon find out. I was hoovered already, I did not know what it was but played right into her hands. She has already taken control of her new relationship, poor fool doesn’t have a clue.

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      5. Who is keeping track of her whereabouts? What will her family’s reaction be? Will her current target be made aware as well? This cat and mouse. I’m confused. I apologize.

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      6. The target is already in her grasp, she is keeping him away from her family unlike me. They don’t know him as of yet. She has changed her game to not involve them. Friends and co workers keep tabs to her movements. I am going to attempt to file the police report and follow through legal venues. I have let her mother see HG Tudors posts and someday they will figure out what she is. I am studying how to deprogram myself through his writings. I am stuck in limbo land and can’t move.

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      7. I hope the legal system works for you. It sounds like you have a network that will keep you updated regarding her shenanigans. I wish the best for you and will read with interest.

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      8. Thank you 1Jaded1,
        Definitely going to file a police report, I wish I could show what happened. There will never be any answers. Her family hasn’t any. Many have asked if I want her back, that questions my sanity. If it wasn’t for HG Tudor I would have never known. Almost everything he has said is a check mark. I hope someday she meets her match and ends up where so many have been discarded, but I don’t think she will be capable of feeling it.

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      9. L4D, big hug to you. Stay strong. Know that everything will come to light eventually. Please don’t give up. See about filing the police report in the town where it occurred. You can use the clinical records as evidence. This is domestic violence. This hotline can help you. Talk to them http://www.thehotline.org/resources/statistics/

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      10. Thank you Love,
        I just found out the previous relationship I was in before the psychopathic narcissist, said she never loved me, six years with her. The psychopathic narcissist was incapable of love so basically for twelve years I gave and got nothing in return. I need help as my core is crumpled. I look in the mirror and see a fool who has been fooled with no reason to move on. Material things are gone and could be replaced, money is gone but could be earned again. The heart has two stints put in last New Years Day, for a 100% blocked main vein, it continues, but the brain is asking why with no answers in sight. I appreciate your help, I sit here writing and barely see through watery eyes, is Life always this cruel? No winning for losing, and why did I try? I just need to laugh again and preferably not at myself, I don’t think I could take it right now.

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    2. HG has been the missing piece in my understanding. I found him at the perfect time. FFS…she ran over you and you have scars. That should lend a bit of credibility to a police report. If she still has the car, even more so. She is looking for fuel if she is a narcissist. The sad part is that she does feel criticism even where none is intended. She has already met her match…the one who caused her false self.

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  5. It’s so exciting to be in a relationship, but so frightening to have to watch the clues to make sure he is not going to turn out to be a Narcissist. I do not want to take normal behavior as a sign due to paranoia, but I also do not want to become ensnared and risk another devastating heartbreak if he turns out to be ‘one’. We really like each other a lot, but if there is a problem, I want to know ASAP! So far, I have not felt any triggers when I am around him, just happiness, excitement, and warmth. He seems very sensitive, and I really adore that.

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