The Narcissistic Truths – No 99

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31 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No 99”

      1. Thank you. Would love some further elaboration on the following, if you have time. I know a woman, a rather renowned expert in her field of study, who hosts a group of us at her house once a month to study with her. She is definitely a greater narcissist in many aspects but has several peculiarities I cannot explain to myself, hence my turning to you for your insight. She would never stoop to collect payment for the class herself — she has one the students, a lieutenant , do that. ( mind you, sometimes there are only seven of us there but whatever. I get that it’s a lowly gesture she must not stoop to.) She will provide water, small things to snack on, a beer if you request one but never coffee despite many requests and despite the fact that there is a coffee pot twelve inches away from our table and she clearly drinks coffee but she refuses to make it or explain what the big deal is. Once, when pressed, (her, not the coffee) she grudgingly offered to nuke what was left in the pot from that morning( class is from 7 to 10 pm so this old, cold coffee) but was clearly bothered by the request. I’ve had the occasion to go to the movies with her and it’s always some version of controller every little thing: she will only make plans by email, we must always have dinner before the movie, it must be at her restaurant of choice ( or she’ll find a way to get you back before the night is out on the occasion she’s deigned to let you pick), you must arrive at the movie at her time of choosing and lest I be repetitive you dare not suggest going for coffee after the movie or she will look at you like you just told her you’ve got leprosy. I see this weird shit all the time with smart narcs whose intellect or humor I like and therefore like to keep as activity buddies but honestly when I go home at night I want to poke knitting needles in my eyes from these people. So when I ask you about control, I also am keenly interest in knowing why control all this little inconsequential shit of which coffe is only a symbol? Fuel? For God’s sake she’s already got an admiring room of students for fuel. Coffee and all this other assorted lesser nonsense seems like a throwaway to me. But narcs fight for their way and their stupid must-have preference as though their very lives depended on it. Sorry to go on so long but I want to know more on “Why.”

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      2. I was told a couple of weeks ago that I have trust issues. She was correct. I hated to admit it.
        There is a distinct difference between haveing trust issues and not giving a damn. I have a mixture. But there were times I said I didn’t care but it was that I didn’t trust so I put on a facade.

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      3. HG thank you for your deep 411. Happy Holidays to you. Q-what happens to the supply that mess with the Narc. controlled world of them being untouchable. I have been one of my ex Narc. worst night mares. I figured since they don’t feel pain, let me fuck with him. He emotional fucked with my head and emotions for 4years, he deserves some messing around with his life back. I never did anything of breaking laws or putting anyone in harms way. Just a pest and trying to find out the truth. I started the mess of horrors and then others of supply found out and did their messing with him too. Also, with his girlfriend who protects him. BUT I was exploited and got the wrath of him. E-mail death threats secretly from him or his girlfriend or flying monkeys. I went to therapy and got meds. Threat of a court judgement retaining order came my way. So I paid the price. It felt good, but never lasted. WHY because he is untouchable. His secrets that come out, is looked at as the supply are messed up sick wacky women. His harem. Anyways, 2016 was healing and getting my mind and life back. One thing that sticks with me, is HE IS STILL DOING THIS TO OTHERS. He needs to be stopped. Death, sickness, his manhood doesn’t work anymore. Just my thoughts 4 today of this merry merry x-mas

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  1. I love that picture. My mother came over while I was at work one time and “reworked ” my garden. She is a master Gardner you know. Call her out and say do you hold a masters in horticulture? I have studied (read an article or two) gardening my entire life.

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  2. HG Tudor, I find your videos very helpful. You put forward ideas in a simple and engaging manner. Would love to see a video on your channel about why you do this. You, being a narc, why are you helping us? Is it because you indirectly get our praises and fuel? When did you become self aware? I typically have a repulsive reaction to narcs, except the ones who are self aware. Can a low level narc reach the stage you are at? Thanks.

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    1. Hello Sunny, thank you for your kind words. I do this because I enjoy writing, it is part of my treatment and it appeals to my perverse sense of humour that I am weaponising empaths to go into battle against my kind. The real awareness occurred post university. No, a low level narc cannot reach the stage that I am at.

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      1. Ha Ha of course it does HG .!

        Seriously ….

        Thank you for everything you’ve helped me achieve this year .

        You changed my life in so many ways, something I will NEVER forget .

        See you in 2017 .. !!!*** !!

        Virtual “hugs”

        Not So Sad ( ever again) x

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  3. Cute picture! I think it shows vulnerability. I happen to think vulnerability is very endearing. It brings me to the desire to nurture, heal, help, and give all I am possibly able. And, the man in the picture looks so cute as if he’s struggling so in order to pull the world around by its carpet.

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  4. It is an illusion, nobody can control all own environment, a lot of things do not depend on us. It is important to distinguish what we really control and what not…and accept this reality.

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  5. M. Tudor, do you see a sweet little puppy or a kitten as being ‘cute’? Do ‘your kind’ ever find things ‘cute’ at all, such as certain things that babies, or animals, do?

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  6. Well he trys to, but four kids and a wife giving him the silent treatment? He’s not doing so good😁. But he’s getting his fuel from the grand narc, and she’s getting fuel from him. By aruging over nothing. Weird😬!!!!

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  7. HG Thank you for your words of wisdom. What do you do when you can not control us? We are standing up to you and exposing you. NOT just one of us. Your harem of women who find out about each other. Smear campaign doesn’t really work. You have money, respect among your peers, but you have a secret hidden life. Maybe a moment of OMG shit is hitting the fan. BUT you take care of it. Then life back to normal. Would you hurt someone or threaten to hurt someone of you supply that turned on you??? I was getting death threat e-mails.

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  8. “Controlling or being controlled that`s the question.”
    In memory of Shakespeare
    Or did he say something different?

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  9. us socios always control situations. we have to.
    “Sociopaths control situations. Psychopaths control people.”
    Wait, don’t narcs also control people? Hm. /side eye

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