Please Please Please

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I want you to do your best. That is a noble intention is it not? I want you to try harder each day. I want you to aim high and strive to improve on what you achieved the previous day. Though exhaustion may be clouding your vision and that ache in your limbs reminds you of the strenuous ministrations that you have attended to, I know that you can push through it and do it more, better, faster and stronger. I believe in you. Those other imposters are mere charlatans. Am I not the one who has given you a perfect love? You need to keep that perfect love and earn it. Accordingly, each day I will pull it away from you. On a Monday it might be the case that I do not kiss you. I will not give you an explanation for this withholding as you must work it out. Once you have you need to work hard to recover my kiss. The next day I will not return the hug you always give me when we first get up. Rather than complaining hold your tongue and consider this all part of your on going education. If you want my perfect love to manifest through those warm, safe hugs that you relish then you must please me so that you may have them again.

You repeatedly comment to me that there has to be give and take in a relationship. I am doing exactly what you ask for. I take away in order to make you give more and then you will be rewarded. In order to avoid any complacency on your part you will find that the next time I withdraw from kissing you, your first response which reinstated my luscious embrace will not work a second time. No that would be far too easy. You need to ascertain what different act you must accomplish in order to secure my tender kisses. I know you will do it. Who would not in order to feel my mouth against yours and that soaring sensation inside as the relief floods through you, knowing that you have secured it return. Admit it, the potential loss of my affection at any time for any reason excites you. You do not want mediocrity. You want excitement. You want to feel like you are flying, soaring, bursting and spinning with delight. I am the only one who can supply that to you and thus you willingly engage with me in these games as I push you further and further, pulling back a little more each time so you wrack your brain and strain your sinews to find the answer once again. It would be wrong of me to say I only do this for your benefit. I do not. I do it wholly for mine since I need you to please me. You please me by being the puppet jerking on my strings, doing everything at my behest. The surge of power that I get from this control surpasses anything you might get from our relationship, but are we not both getting something from it, so where’s the harm in pleasing me?

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38 thoughts on “Please Please Please”

  1. Oh HG I am way to familiar with this. The kisses withheld the most. Was it all to punish me or was it because he had someone else that he wanted?

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  2. You repeatedly comment to me that there has to be give and take in a relationship. I am doing exactly what you ask for. I take away in order to make you give more

    HG, I am awarding you the first N’Oscar for this one.

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  3. Don’t give me those puppy dog eyes, HG. It might work on Kate or whatshername, but this is me. I SEE you and I’m willing to play back at you.

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  4. Perhaps you don’t realise, or you don’t care if you do: every time you do that, a little bit of her love for you dies.

    Love that has to be earned is not a love worth keeping alive. She will not try harder. She will withdraw from you and withhold what once was given in abundance. And you are responsible for it.

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    1. The saddest and most devastating part of this type of behaviour from my perspective is that I recognise a non-man. let me clarify:
      1 When reading HG’s please..please..please I hear the echoes of a parent and in his case (matrinarc) howling though his being- and whoever is responsible for the same to my N saying through the passages of time:

      YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH. THE MORE YOU BREAK YOURSELF TO PLEASE ME, I WILL PULL BACK THE REWARD UNTIL YOU TURN INTO SOME KIND OF A MACHINE VOID OF ANY EMOTION BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT I AM AND YOU WILL BE THE APPLE OF MY EYE ONCE YOU BECOME ME FOR I AM SUCH AN EMPTY ICELAND THAT EVEN THE SEALS HAVE DISAPPEARED. THEN WE SHALL BE ONE. YOU SHALL KEEP MY LEGACY AND IF YOU FIND YOURSELF WITH CHILD, WE SHALL BE ONE IN MAKING HE/SHE US AND HE/SHE SHALL TAKE OUR LEGACY INTO THE NEXT GENERATION AND THE RULES SHALL BE PASSED DOWN TO PRESERVE OUR IMPACT AND MARK ON THOSE OF THE FUTURE FOR WE ARE TIMELESS AND WE ARE NOT HUMAN. THIS MUST BE SPOKEN OF SO THAT AFTER WE LEAVE WE WERE KNOWN’, REVERED AS WE LEAVE THE SCARS ON THOSE WE LEAVE BEHIND TO REMIND THEM HOW DEEP AND HOLLOW THAT VOID IS AND HOW WE WOULD HAVE EASILY PUT OUR HANDS UP FOR ANY TASK INCLUDING BEING ONE OF THE ROBOTS AT CADBURY PLACING THE BLOCKS IN THE PACKAGING OR THE ROBOT OF ANY CAR MANUFACTURING PLANT. WE MUST MOVE OUR LEGACY FORWARD SO THAT THE FUTURE HUMAN BECOMES A HUMANOID VOID OF ALL EMOTION BUT THAT WHICH SERVES ALL MECHANICAL PURPOSES. TO DREAM OF BEING THE NUTS AND BOLTS WITH A GLACIAL STARE OF HOLLOW EYES TO CORRECT OUR PEOPLE WHO WERE BORN WITH A HEART AND SOUL SUCH A TASK ONLY RESERVED FOR THE VERY BEST AND WELL FUELLED, IMPECCABLY OILED, SLICK MACHINERY OUT THERE.

      Thanks, I will pass and would prefer to have had my tears spill out into the ocean, wind and sands of time than locking them inward to take my legacy that my non-machine parents passed onto me. Unfortunately my uterus has served MR&MRS X well, their departed souls can relish in the development of another machine, to fullfil their legacy and though they never met him in life, he shall go on to take that legacy into his future and when he causes a young lady to cry I shall protest on her behalf as machines don’t have blood, sweat nor tears.

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      1. Correction: Their discarded (no departed) hard-drives can relish in their legacy of the future. Silly human me, I keep being pulled into the trap that because they look human, they are-

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  5. HG
    Do you have article about the enabler of the narcissist.
    The reason a person don’t stop the bad behaviour its because nothing stop them intact other are praising thats why they keep doing it even more.

    Therefore in a Formal relation is GF or BF is a enabler of the narcissism? or just the secondary source such as friends?

    The fact narcissist discard when the new supply is ready. if he cannot fine new supply he comes back to seduce again. but if he find new supply his ego is boosted and he becomes evil to hurt the ex emotionally.

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      1. I actually like this question, Romeo.

        HG, I see your response and I understand your stance. Coming from a more 12 step tradition, those that stay and those that leave are different. I’d like to see something written about the qualities of victims(hate that label)/enablers that never leave. You see, some DO (I did, many others here have too or have cut off connects with family that abuse or have traits of NPD or APD). Those are not enablers, or they stopped enabling. So, a piece that distinguishes those that stay and those that leave/escape would be ridiculously awesome 😊 Pretty please.

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  6. Matilda that is so true. I gave my love abundantly until he took that desire away by forcing me to earn his Love

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    1. Exactly, WideAwake… he could have had my love for the rest of his days… but he chose to disrespect me… why on earth would he do that? Why could he not be grateful for such a gift, and prove himself worthy of receiving it?

      He must have felt so sure that I would do anything to keep him in my life. I’d rather drop dead…

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  7. Wow…Your posts are amazing and right on the money…I have the strangest and probably one of the most unbelievable N/S cases you’ve ever heard of….Starting to write a book about it because it is so bizarre…Thanks for these…I have your “No Contact” book…in my case it’s almost impossible….

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    1. Oooh, now that’s just mean to dangle that little morsel in front of us and not share a little. Bobby, can you please give us some detail? Pretty please 👏💛

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      1. It is so bizarre a screenwriter said to me “this is so out there it would be the worst movie script I’ve ever read..someone HAS to do a movie about this…probably a black comedy…”.. I’m a somewhat known musician…It would be difficult to put any pertinent information out there because it is ongoing..HG…I believe you would appreciate the depth and craziness…

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      2. Oh Bobby. More teasing. I can’t take it! At least let us know when the story is published. What instrument and genre?

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  8. Mr. Tudor, I truly admire your work. You have lifted all the fog that was making my life a living hell. please tell me. My narc used to send me ogre emoji during our conversations. At that time i thought it is just for fun so i never asked why it is being sent. Was my narc guaging how much illusion or spell that has been casted has affected me? Or was it for latter to tell me that i was told that you are getting entangled with an evil but you never stopped it is all your fault. I believe mine was a mid range narcissist as i was never confronted with fury during golden period and in devaluation, i for the first time experienced silent treatment and than with narcissistic rage and finally again with silent treatment which never ended no matter what i threw at my ex narc.

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      1. Ok this is really weird but mine used the ogre emoji a lot with me too. I asked him and he said it was him being silly. He was the only person to use it tho. what a weird coincidence.

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  9. Hi HG,

    My name is Tsholo from South Africa. I want to buy your books but they are not available for people in my country. Please help us to be able to buy. Narcissistic are all around the world and we need help as well.

    Regards,

    On 13 Jan 2017 10:45 PM, “Knowing the Narcissist” wrote:

    > HG Tudor posted: ” I want you to do your best. That is a noble intention > is it not? I want you to try harder each day. I want you to aim high and > strive to improve on what you achieved the previous day. Though exhaustion > may be clouding your vision and that ache in your li” >

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    1. Hello Tsholo and welcome on board, you should be able to download the books from Amazon, try amazon.com or amazon.co.uk and I should also imagine you would be able to do so in paperback as well.

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  10. And of course, after writing answers here, Please, please, please continue to write those 20 books in limbo. And, dude, where’s my microecxpressions artical, did I miss it (I selfishly ask).
    Waiting semi patiently and somewhat warmly, me. 😉

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  11. Bobby, I too have been told by many I should write a book …if someone told me “my story” I would think they were lying or insane. To be honest I still can’t believe it at times!!!! Get that book out there before she hires an attorney and negotiates a non-disclosure 😀

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    1. I know what you mean, but I also have a new CD coming out about it…:) I know there is never logic associated with N/S, but this is so strange that it could make a great black comedy with jack Black playing me… I have better lawyers…:)

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      1. Been on the receiving end of better lawyers 🙂 What is your CD titled and where can it be purchased?

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