5 False Promises
The promise is used by the narcissist repeatedly, whether through Promised Gain or Future Faking, it is a mainstay of our manipulations against you, but what are the five most often used false promises that the narcissist is using against you and what does the narcissist ACTUALLY mean?
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I have a question about the promise to repay. This is the second time I have discarded the ex midrange narc and requested that he repay me monies he owed. To make a long story short lol, he provided me with the excuses you provided above and I believed him and have him more time. He has always responded quickly to my demands for payment but provided excuses. It wasn’t until I called and belittle him and his new primary source that he has began to repay. He has now paid over 50% of the loan in three short months after my tirade. In the past few months I have not giving him any fuel but sent reminders of the payments due to which he has paid. The remaining payments are minuscule and could be paid easily at one time. Can you provide insight on why he is dragging this out. What fuel can be garnered from this?
1. He does not believe he should have to repay you – sense of entitlement and lack of accountability;
2. Using the fact of you MAKING him repay to draw sympathy from others – he is a Mid Ranger
3. Using it keep a wedge in place for potential hoovers of you should the need arise
Thankyou!! I appreciate your insight and reply! After the last payment, next month I will block him from all forms of communication.
You are welcome.
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Thank you, Mr. Tudor. This is very clear, concise, straightforward and informative. I find your efforts to self-reflect and your honesty admirable; it cannot always be easy. You are helping many people. Toward the end of our year-long relationship, the “greater narcissist” I was with occasionally shared his dark realities with me (he was younger than me and I made sure I usually had the power). He told me that he liked lying and would never stop. Though he didn’t hurt me, he was was beginning to see the power that physical abuse could bring. He told me the real reason he’d been with his previous fiancée was because “I knew if I fucked her, I could take her money”. He seriously believed he loved me, but it was clear that he only loved the fuel. I left because he was moving into the initial stages of devaluation and I had no doubt he would find a way to steal my money. It broke and still breaks my heart to know how wounded he is, but as you say, he believes he’s fine. Please keep up your fine work.
Indeed Elizabeth, thank you for your kind compliments.
This is the most popular promises but there are a lot of other little daily promises that NP does to maintain the bond with the sourses of fuel (both primary and second-one). With the words everyone can say everything also that donkeys fly… and if somebody believe in this words, in the mind of NP, the responsability is only the gullible. Isn’t it?
I have to you another question about anorher topic: why the prey of a narcissist is more likely to attract and be attracted to other narcissists? In this week i find another one man of your kind… I caught the scent as he heard my scent. He is in love bombing step in this days and I know that I’m attracted to him but I also know that he isn’t the right man for me.
Hello Noah80, indeed that is the case. As for the reasons for attraction they are set out in Sitting Target.
Omg this Scary True and Sick! The more I Read the MORE I SEE THIS IN CLARITY!