Ghosted and Gilded


The opportunity to understand the way that the narcissist thinks and behaves is a rare occurrence. Here you will find an array of explanations across different topics and scenarios which will give you unrivalled insight into this dark and destructive individual. Gaining understanding of how this person regards you and the world around him or her is the key to unshackling yourself from the confusion, bewilderment and distress that accompanies any entanglement with a narcissist. This book provides a multitude of observations which will illuminate your understanding and assist you in gaining comprehension of what you are dealing with.




13 thoughts on “Ghosted and Gilded

  1. NarcAngel says:

    Do you actually enjoy whatever you do as a profession for what it is in itself? Or do you regard it merely as a place/method to gather fuel (I’m sure there is much focus on you and your skills) with the usual residual benefits of eating and sleeping indoors? A necessary evil so to speak.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I regard it as a place and method for the gathering of fuel which it is excellent for. My profession is indeed a necessary evil, but not in the sense that it is a necessary evil for me to do it.

  2. Snow White says:

    This is my vacation read HG.
    I was reading it on the plane.
    Your books are informative, and reminders of why I will need NC forever. I do enjoy your personal stories.
    I know “you” are your favorite topic but what do you enjoy writing about the most?
    Re writing fiction or non fiction?
    Something that brings back memories/ sessions with the doctors?
    What are you most proud of?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you SW, interesting questions. I enjoy decoding the way we behave in a way which is easy for people to understand.

      1. Snow White says:

        That truly is your greatest gift. I have been able to understand your perspective, motives, and the reasons behind all the manipulations. And then when you add in the interactions that just makes it an extremely unique experience.

        Some concepts are a little more difficult for me to grasp but with you right here to explain things a little further and a secoond time for me that’s when it sinks in. I consider myself very lucky to have found you.

        Some day the whole world may know about you.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Thank you SW. The world ought to, I agree.

  3. MLA - Clarece says:

    With more books on the way and now your collection of audio YouTube videos, do you foresee a point in the future of traveling and holding workshops for counselors, therapists, doctors etc., for education projects? Also be available to the victims?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It has been suggested Clarece. I would find doing that interesting (and to be honest it would provide good fuel). I would mean halting my professional career and ensuring identity issues were appropriately catered for.

      1. MLA - Clarece says:

        I just see a growing demand for it coming down the pike…

  4. I am reading everything you write, as well as several other authors, and I’m a member of several support groups, but the message isn’t sinking in. I just can’t understand this madness no matter how many hours a day I devote to studying this subject. I’ve been reading up to 8 hours a day for a year now. I’m exhausted!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello BWB, it indeed can be hard to comprehend. Is there something specific which you are struggling to comprehend?

    2. Snow White says:

      Hi BWB,
      I would have never gotten to almost one year with NC without HG’s explanations and knowledge. He talks about the big key is to look at things from his perspective and he is right. That was a big one for me. I know some people may not like it but I could see why and how my ex did what she did. That helps with the healing.
      Stick around and everything starts to make sense while the fog clears.

  5. Tld says:

    I really liked this book. I have read several although I am still uncertain which one my soon to be ex is. We were together 15yrs. I had the majority of control (not that I wanted it but he is very immature) until we had our daughter 8 yrs ago! The past 3 yrs. He completely change i was in the devaluation phase that’s when the constant cheating w/ prostitutes leaving me for other woman. Letting our daughter and I getting thrown out on the streets and he didn’t even care but he kept coming back. And I let him because of our daughter and I was a stay at home mom. Till I finally had enough of the cheating. That was bad enough! But the way he treated me after we ended it was WORSE! Plotting w my ex best friend to get me thrown in jail to take our daughter when he never really been involved in her life now he wants to be a “dad” right! He won’t even drive an hr to see her now! He still hoovers me back in playing all nice but now once again “he done talking to me” I know he was a lesser but I believe he is now a mid grade. But he so calculating and master manipulator sometimes I wonder if he not a greater. He defiantly plays the victim he quiet and shy. But has the arrogant attitude like he a god.

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