Being Mobile

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I love my mobile phone (or to our transatlantic cousins, I love my cell phone). Technology is so useful to me and my kind and you will notice it is a theme I will often return to. Today I want to give centre stage to my phone. It is such a brilliant weapon in keeping you on your toes and in a heightened state of confusion.

You will see it repeatedly stuck to my hand as I text away, surf the internet and I will often take calls when I am with you. Naturally, I do this to keep you wondering who I am engaging with and also to show they are more important than you. Other times I will keep the ‘phone about my person, away from your prying eyes. I know you want to look at it and see who has been contacting me so I keep it away from you to increase your frustration. I also don’t want you looking at it and knowing precisely what I have been doing. I will turn it off and claim I could not get a signal so that would aggravate you. I will also say that it is not working and then feign amazement when a call arrives. Other times I have run out of credit (even though I am a contract) so I could not call you. You ask why I did not text. I explain that the texts were not sending for some reason. Other times I pretend to lose it so that’s why I was out of contact although I suddenly find it again soon after. You tell me it just rang and rang (I turned off voicemail and put it on silent) or you managed to leave a message but I explain the voicemail function is not working. It really does provide me with a myriad of methods to infuriate, confuse and unnerve you. My favourite tactic of all however, which really gets to you, is to change my number and not tell you. I usually save that for when I am doling out the silent treatment to you.


38 thoughts on “Being Mobile”

  1. Ah, but Narcs don’t have the monopoly of Technology.

    The internet is doing wonders for Empaths too. 

    When you’re a “no show” at the restaurant, ignoring our worried texts, whilst drinking the fuel of another across town, picturing us depressed and alone at our table for 2, don’t gorge on Thought Fuel for too long. You could choke.

    We know you didn’t forget and we can see you’re “online” on WhatsApp. Our anger has now replaced our concern. 

    As we grab our cell phone, a minion surprises us with a glass of Chablis Grand Cru.
    – “Courtesy of the gentleman at the bar”. 

    We look up and see this 6″3 devastatingly handsome Apollon, blond with azure eyes, late 30s, impeccably dressed in an Armani suit, flashing us his Listerine smile. Delighted, we’re about to gesture him to join us, just as a pretty brunette greets him with a kiss on the lips. We’re unaware we’ve just escaped quite a tendril!

    Degustating our delicious wine, we’re now googling ‘silent teatment’ on our mobile and oopsy! “Narcissism” is in the first 5 results! Yep, it displays even on the smallest of screens.Your time is up. 

    Next, guess where the link takes us to? 
    Oh yes, you’re royally screwed now!

    The Illustrious Leader is flexing the muscles of his feisty “Tudorettes”, weaponizing them with unparalleled knowledge psychiatrists don’t even have!  Your machinations are no match and you don’t stand a chance.

    When used wisely, the internet can become the Empath’s pepper spray and vaporize you away at the first red flags you’ll wave. You won’t even have the chance to say your speedy “I love you” on date two.

    We too love being…mobile.

    1. Too funny, toddler behavior at its finest! Technology is a constantly evolving realm that you Narcs, need to do a better job at keeping up with lol.

      “I haven’t been on a phone or computer for days, I couldn’t contact you or see your messages.”

      …Doesn’t fly when Facebook messenger shows your exact “last active” time was 3:07AM earlier this morning.

      Or when you liked the picture she posted less than hour ago on Instagram.

      Or when you retweeted the highlights of that soccer game that aired just a few hours ago.

      Or when you let me use your iPad and forget to erase the history so I see the women you’ve been searching on Facebook.

      Or my personal favorite… when you posted a snap chat on your story or better yet… viewed my Snapchat from earlier today 😂

    2. Very good! And too true! One of mine never could understand the online notification on WhatsApp!! They love to think they are so superior and manipulative – regardless of their actual intellect and reality!

      1. Thank you Windstorm!! Indeed, though mine was a Greater and intellectually brilliant, he didn’t get whatsapp either! Not that I said anything. Was too useful for me to ‘stalk’ him.

      1. Thank you Jackyewinter for your kind words. ☺
        Yes we can! and with HG’s invaluable help and “Ever Presence”, we are!

    1. Haha! My favorite iPhone feature is the block function, favorite email feature is the “set email address to spam/junk” function, favorite social media features are the “defriend, block, mute, unfollow” options. All the best to go no contact, old friend.

      1. Hi Joanne. I dont know if I have any of those options. I just ignore. I recently received a call from the 313 and it wasn’t from the person i know so I ignored. I hate talking on the phone. I will respond to texts (which recently got me in trouble). I enjoyed your comment about how you evade.

      1. 4 phones, HG? I imagine … 1 for work & normal day to day appointments, 1 for this blog & other Narcissism publishings, 1 for your current appliance and 1 for triangulation/potential new appliances?

      2. We talked about you consolidating those phones down to 1 or 2, Mr. Tudor. I don’t give you my brilliant advice, just for the fun of it ☺

  2. I caught the narcAllister with his phone set to incognito once. I had no idea then what he was up to. I remember asking why his phone was black and he denied knowing why his looked different to mine. I paid for his phone. After I found out what he had done, the location services thing showed me he had stayed at his whores twice overnight, while leaving me and the kids distraught at home, not knowing what the hell was going on.

    I suspended his phone and he so went to Telus and tried to get the device taken off my account, so I couldn’t see what he was doing. All the while using Messenger to talk to the ho. He actually called me from Telus asking me to release the device, so that he could put it on a new account I had no access to! Telus store called me when he left to check I was ok, they were so shocked. I read this as I write, and along with using my laptop to upload and save pictures of his women, I paid for all the technology he used to cheat on me.

  3. I think the mobile smartphone has made infidelity way easier. Before the internet im sure statistics on cheating partners was a lot less. Introduce the smartphone and its at an all time high. It makes it so much easier to stay in touch with people at all times and i could see how a narcissist would use this in their toolbox of control tactics. So many ways to mess with the mind. Seducing or devaluing. Creating ever presence thru messages, photos, videos and shared interests. Such a small device is super powerful. I think back to not that long ago when there wasnt an internet and life seemed caveman days back then. I dont think people realise how much life has changed and how fast. Back then we actually called people and wrote letters to penpals. Its so eerie thinking back to life before a mobile device. I can say im so glad i experienced life before the technology changes. That said im hooked to my device and rely on it just as much as anyone out there.
    Ive had to train myself to take breaks from it in relation to the narcissist. Like in the msg hook blog i was constantly checking for his msgs when we werent together and it got to be compulsive and a very unhealthy addiction. Im glad i seen this in myself and have made it a point to step away from my mobile more.

  4. So funny H.G. everything you mentioned in your article has been said to me by my ex. One time all the pictures were gone, he said he had a virus and the phone reverted to default. Unbelievable. Just curious, why do you have 4 phones? Business?

      1. HG, do you ever get tired from the different lives or is it pure compartmentalization that helps you keep all the plates spinning? I have wondered about this with ex narc. I wouldn’t have the energy.

  5. Firstly, LOL at “transatlantic cousins”. Too funny! 🙂

    Secondly, and as always. Yep! Every word on point as usual. I had to hear excuses of how his phone got lost, or it broke and my all time favorite….I lost all of my numbers I saved to my phone after February 2016…how ironic….the exact time when he began talking with me…

    Yet when I called he still answered the phone. When I questioned him “well if you didn’t have my number, why did you answer? How did you know it was me? It could have been a wrong number you know…”

    Him: (in a light hearted joking tone) ‘Well I would have told them to go to hell!”

    So he knew it was me calling didn’t he?


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