The Narcissistic Truths – No. 74
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It is always best to look stunning when you are about to drop a bomb on their ass too lol.
yes, compliments and admiration are positive fuel
I’m going to be concrete for a second lol….
Don’t we all look our best when we want fuel?
Find light in the emotional sea, we choose to be happy
You and I, you and I, we’re like diamonds in the sky
You’re a shooting star HG, a vision of ecstasy
When you hold me, I’m alive
Your’re a narcissist inside
You knew that I was a victim right away
Oh, right away
At first sight I felt the energy of your golden rays
I saw the love inside your eyes
So shine bright tonight,
You and I
You’re beautiful you’re a narcissist inside
Why oh why,
Do you lie?
You’re beautiful a narcissist inside
Shine bright like a diamond
Shine bright like a diamond
Shining bright like a diamond
You’re beautiful your a narcissist inside
Palms rise to strike at me, as you mirror and folly
Feel the warmth, start to die
You’re a narcissist inside
You’re a piercing stab HG, a vision so Dastardly
You don’t hold me, It’s a lie
You’re a narcissist inside
At last i felt the energy start to drain away
I saw the narc inside your eyes
Start to cry
We’re not right
You don’t try
You’re beautiful just on the outside
I’m unwise
Your grips tight
You’re killing me, I think I’m gonna die
No contact i’m dying
No contact I’m dying
No contact I’m dying
Unmerciful you’re a narcissist inside
No contact I’m thrivin’
No contact I’m thrivin’
No contact I’m thrivin’
I’m beautiful I’m an empath inside
☆♡
Or he goes for pity. Shows up unshaven, looking pale and sickly, bloodshot eyes as if he has been crying. He just can’t keep it together without me. He needs me to care for him.
OMG! After a silent treatment he would suddenly show up where I work all clean shaven with a boyish smile on his face. He knows I love a smooth, hairless face and he did it every time. Bastard!
Mine lays on the sweetness and attentiveness after a disengagement. Lots of i missed you’s and ive felt empty. Recently sadness and a tiny bit of tears etc
It feels good and everythings forgotten. Not a good cycle and not a good message sent basically saying its ok to treat me awful and patch it up afterwards with dollups of lovebombing.
Not a good cycle at all. That’s why I went N/C 9 months ago. Especially after learning from HG that they don’t even like being touched, having sex, miss you etc., that it’s all for fuel and power. If he ever pops in at work again he will get a neutral reaction from me and that is all. Not even a smile.
He never did that to me. Good thing as I love to look after someone when they’re sick or sad. He did tell me once that he was having dreams that he had died. He asked his wife to look in on him before she left for work to make sure he wasn’t dead. (after 20 years of his abuse, I’m sure she wishes he was).
Narc Affair, mine pulled that too. He would either by silent or just very casual and impersonal conversation for weeks, and I’d stop going on the app as much because there was no reason to stick around while he was busy with other sources of fuel. Then he would be all “How I’ve missed you” And I would say “for real?” And he would say “Of course! Didn’t you miss me?” And I’d say yes, but think, damn it, if you missed me, really missed me, you wouldn’t have been so cold while I was right here, fuck head! Still, he got away with it.
The cycle and us letting them back in so easily does reinforce their hot and cold behavior, and lets them know how effective their lovebombing is, so if need be the next time, they just ramp up their efforts. It’s sick. But when we are addicted to them, the idea of not having any contact at all seems so much worse than the low moments in this dynamic.
Mary…narcs do sense what boundaries they can cross and which to be tread lightly on. My narc knows if he ever disappeared even for a day itd be over. Id much rather be alone than suffer the anxiety of wondering where he is. No contact is easier to me than that. I dont know how others are able to accept them back after doing this id be afraid when the next disappearing act would be.
Narc affair,
If any man I’m with officially disappears on me for 24 hours I’m single.
His ass better be in prison or in a hospital.
Dr. H …I remember you saying that on a post before lol im in total agreement! For me its from a fear of abandonment i just cant handle that stress. Itd be my breaking pt. If there was a reason that was proven then i could accept that but nowadays its too easy to contact someone to tell them whats going on.
I like a two days of stubble look. Don’t know why I don’t like clean shaven as much.
Omg I love a scruffy man.
A little rough around the edges lol….
Just a little, not too much 😊
Well after a week of not hearing I get a text yesterday saying that he knew I was going to be annoyed with him because I hadn’t heard from him in nearly a week, that he was sorry and had no excuse, he had been off work and time had just disappeared.
I shouldn’t have replied but being pissed said I had assumed he was busy with the current woman and the new one. His reply? ‘No just the usual unreliable me’ followed by a smiley emoji. Teflon coated shoulders – it all just slides off.
Pissed off not pissed, lol.
Why haven’t you blocked him? Why are you still texting him? Go no contact, it’s the best thing you can do.
I know, I know RS. I’m getting there. I guess I wanted to let him know I knew what he was up to.
Day by day I can feel myself distancing myself from him.
The longing for him is starting to fade.
I guess it’s s process with stages.
Onwards and upwards!
It is indeed, stay strong!
ANK,
I did that once with my narc, called him on it. He of course found a way to make me feel shitty instead of just owning up to the fact he was chasing tail other than mine. He said “I’m not doing this right now. Goodnight.” Said his kids are sick which may or may not have been true. When I tried to say “hope they feel better” he shut me down with another “Goodnight.” I didn’t say a word to him for a week, because to me, if he was going to cut me off like that, I figured it’s up to HIM to initiate the next conversation. He sounded pretty done with me at that moment, and I wasn’t going to chase him down later and make him talk to me.
Then a week later, out of the blue he says “So do you want me to delete you?” I said “I don’t know why you would assume that but if that’s what you want to do, go ahead.” He tried to make it sound like I had cut him off for a week, and I did no such thing. All I did was fail to run after him after he ended the conversation. I was right there, if he had said something, but no.
Things were never the same after that. He talked about someone else he was pursuing, but said it was “just for variety, so things stay fresh with you and I.” But then he said “things feel awkward because YOU vanished on me for a week.” Was my going quiet really out of line? I don’t think so. But to him it was. And he used it rather than admitting the real reason he was acting different… He had someone else lined up.
Teflon shoulders is right! They have no accountability for anything or for how they affect anyone else.
Mary,
I just dont believe anything he says anymore.
He didn’t have time to text me although he was on WhatsApp several times a day every day for that week. Whatever!
Could have gone to town and said more in my reply but couldn’t be bothered.