The Narcissistic Truths – No. 124

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24 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No. 124

  1. frix says:

    The problem might also be that we don’t want to win. We feel bad if we see someone being sad or diasppointed because we won and he lost…

  2. Patricia J says:

    You can ciircle the Flames for only so lomg…

  3. Diva says:

    But what if you are addicted to “the game”………it’s not about winning for me……..the fun is in the game………that’s the problem!!!!! Diva

  4. Peaceful says:

    HG, this is me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks to your consultation, I’m no longer playing his game, and I retrieved my suitcase!!!!! HG ROCKS!!!
    You are the BEST!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      ‘Tis true, I am.

  5. foolme1time says:

    Needed this post today! Seems that by a miracle my ex is vacationing at the same place I am!! πŸ€¦β€β™‚οΈ! So I have been told it is fate! He is here with friends and his fiancΓ© is not with him! He has things to work out! Not sure if marrying her is what he really wants etc etc! I am not his saving grace and I have to keep telling myself that over and over again! Just another one of his typical narc games! Having the blog and all of you on it really helps!!

    1. Yolo says:

      Wow. What a position to be in, using words like miracle and fate will seal your defeat. Stay strong and remember we never win with them. You have the playbook I hope you use it wisely.

      I apologize in advance if I am coming off as harsh. I truly don’t mean too.

      Good Luck

      1. foolme1time says:

        Yolo you did not come off harsh at all! Honest is something you always are in your comments. Honestly that is truly refreshing! This is my happy place and I shine like a diamond here! Not even he can win here! This is the one place I truly feel like myself! It was me who acted like nothing ever happen between us last night not him! I was in control and I honestly didn’t listen to a word he had to say! His lips were moving but my ears were deaf to what ever was coming out of them! Drinking and dancing ( which I absolutely love to do ) and at the end going back to my own cabin after saying goodnight to everyone. I never left myself get in a position of being alone with him. He had to behave or in other words keep up the facade! I know now it was all fake and every word he ever spoke was a lie! Realizing that made him very undesirable to me! Their was no feelings for the person standing in front of me in fact he made my skin crawl! Thank you for replying to my comment and for caring! Have a wonderful weekend! I know I am! 😘🌹

    2. Windstorm2 says:

      Foolmeonetime
      That would really irritate me to think he was trying to spoil my vacation. Hope you were still able to have a good time. Hugs

      1. Fool me 1 time says:

        Windstorm, He can only ruin my vacation if I allow him to. I’m not allowing it! πŸ˜‰

        1. Windstorm2 says:

          Good for you!

  6. I have to keep reminding myself of this. Sometimes when I think I’m doing better before you know it I got sucked back in to his Whirlwind. It’s because of the four kids that we share. He forces dialogue about the kids and expenses and activities and play stupid and anything he can do to just prolong the dialogue. And next thing you know we’re communicating more everyday than any normal married couple would even though we are divorced. 20 messages one day 16 messages the next two messages one day 16 messages the next and it’s just insane no wonder why I am feeling similar to how I felt when I was married to him not the freedom that I should be feeling. So this new revelation means that I have to somehow tweak how I communicate with him and so I don’t get baited into his little game. But unfortunately I cannot just not play the game because he takes me to court and I get in trouble legally so there’s a fine line between satisfying the courts and protecting myself and not getting caught up in his game in his crazy Whirlwind and being under his thumb again. It’s a delicate balance. But ultimately I will always go for Freedom. Like Braveheart cried freedom!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      William Wallace did indeed cry freedom, though it did not do him much good. That’s why reading my work is the best option.

      1. Ha ha. True. He died… but there is such things as legacy!
        Even though u are evil…i do love u. Just stay on your side of the ocean. Xxoo

  7. Dr. Harleen Quinzel PsyD. says:

    True story.

  8. K says:

    Who would’ve thunk it was that simple? Indifference is an epic struggle but I am getting there.

  9. MyTrueSelf says:

    The ‘don’t play the game’ statement is actually a bit of a paradox- I didn’t even know that I was involved in any ‘game’, until it was too late…But that’s part of the game isn’t it?

    1. Bliss says:

      I agree. It’s one of the things that fuel them, us not knowing. Although we shouldn’t continue now we know I guess. I kept going after knowing and it’s a game that only narcs win. Feeling so numb and bitter now.

      1. GHS says:

        Not so sure… I think I won my narc

        1. HG Tudor says:

          In a raffle?

  10. Salome says:

    It’s true.
    I have to remember about it.
    It will help me to keep No Contact.

  11. πŸ™

  12. Jenna says:

    What if kim is reading this and doesn’t want to play the game anymore? Then what r u gonna do big bad narc? Well, i’m sure u have some candiate ipps’s lined up.

  13. Tappan Zee says:

    War Games.

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