The Ageing Narcissist – Part Two





The Somatic Narcissist
The Somatic Narcissist is one of our kind who places the greatest stock in physical appearances. This is applicable to the narcissist in terms of being handsome or beautiful with an impressive and pleasing physique, well-dressed, hygienic and alluring using all the benefits of cosmetics and cosmetic surgery available. It also applies to the Somatic’s victims in terms of ensuring that they possess the relevant traits which the Somatic finds appealing, so that they too are physically attractive, well-groomed and such like. Furthermore, the Somatic’s peacocking extends to not just what he or she looks like and that their victim looks like, but also material trappings in terms of income, possessions, size of house and similar. Everything about the Somatic should look fantastic and everything around the Somatic should also look fantastic, just not as fantastic as him or her as clearly it would not be acceptable for the Somatic Narcissist to be outshone by his victim. Accordingly, how would the advancing of age affect this particular cadre, when considered also with reference to the three schools of narcissism? There is much information which can be relayed regarding the effects of aging on the somatic cadre and therefore this will need to be broken down according to each school of narcissism and then subdivided further. This article will address the effects of aging on the Lesser Somatic and first of all with reference to the lowest ranking of the lowest school, the Lower Lesser.
The Lower Lesser Somatic Narcissist – LLSN –
. This individual places great stock in wanting to look good but suffers from the delusion that he is better looking than he actually is. One would not describe him as ugly, he will indeed have a degree of handsomeness about himself but in his mind, he is devilishly handsome. His physique may be decent, but he sees it as extra-special and more ripped and buffed than he really happens to be. Everything about the Lower Lesser Somatic is such that whilst he has some physical attractiveness and would never be described as off-putting in that regard, his regard for his attractiveness in the way that he looks, the way he dresses and his lifestyle is such that he thinks he is irresistible.
Accordingly, when the onset of age arrives and the reasonable physique is lost, weight is gained, the muscle definition vanishes and he does not suit the clothes he insists still on wearing, he does not see this. In his mind, he remains the ravishing prospect he was in his 20s and even then, it was exaggerated. He does not see, in the same way that he does not see that he is a narcissist, he also does not see any deterioration in his looks and physical appeal.
The LLSN will still seek to gather fuel from sources based on his deluded physical attractiveness. He will continue to engage in the infidelity for which Somatics are renowned and regards those who have the somatic traits which he desires as fair game still, viable targets and ripe for the plucking. Accordingly, the primary source of the aging LLSN can expect to experience infidelity during devaluation but also scathing comments about the physical appearance of that primary source if he or she is advanced in age as well. The LLSN does not see his own receding hair line, but considers that his hair still suits him and that whilst the locks may not be leonine in nature, they are still attractive, but he will identify a grey hair on the head of a primary source at ten paces and make disparaging comments about the same. The primary source can expect to have their own physical appearance commented on, thus a sagging bottom will be derided, a weight gain will result in name-calling and dressing in a style appropriate with increasing age will be described as boring and frumpish, even though the LLSN will not see his own appearance as diminished.
This will cause the LLSN to pursue younger targets who are far more attractive and quite frankly out of his league. He will not have even the fallbacks of charm and/or economic power which might cause his targets to overlook his balding pate, missing teeth and paunch. Instead he will become a figure of derision as he insists in frequenting those hunting grounds which once worked so well for him a decade or two ago, but have changed beyond his limited powers.
Should anyone rebuff his attempts to seduce, he will react badly. His fury will be ignited and he will lash out at those who had scoffed at his ham-fisted attempts to ensnare them. He will respond with savage comments about the looks of the recipient of his attention, oblivious to how he is no position to cast stones around. He will hurl drinks over people, smash furniture and with his low control threshold he will engage in physical attacks as well.
This deluded behaviour coupled with the anti-social element of this ignited fury will result in him soon gaining a reputation in his locality, become derided as a figure of scorn and considered as a loser of a barfly. His anger will be taken out on those who reject him and his suffering primary source who, unaware of what he is and of advanced age also, will be unable and/or unwilling to escape him. They will suffer the brunt of his ignited fury as he returns from an evening out wounded by the scathing comments.
The volatile nature of the LLSN means that he will rarely struggle for fuel because he will either
1. Draw it from the negative reactions of those who reject him when he interacts with tertiary and secondary sources;
2. Draw it from the positive and/or negative responses of the long-suffering primary source;
3. Draw it from the positive and/or negative responses of an intimate partner secondary source.
The LLSN’s ability to remain effective in drawing fuel means that he will maintain sufficient energy to keep angling for an affair, a hook-up and a one night stand. He will be repeatedly rejected but in true playing the percentage style, he will eventually find someone who is taken in by his approach and thus he will acquire this intimate partner as a secondary source until he unleashes his fury against her and she loses interest.
The LLSN, in common with the school of being a Lesser, only has a small group of family and friends as secondary sources to begin with. He will rely on these individuals to provide intermittent fuel in the reducing interactions that occur, but he will look to the primary source and other secondary and tertiary sources that he meets out and about for his fuel provision. So long as he has mobility, he will continue to frequent the hunting grounds of his prime, even if he strikes a somewhat incongruous figure because of age, dress sense and music choice. He lacks the awareness to seek out his victims in a more age-appropriate hunting ground and therefore would believe he belongs in the mosh pit rather than at a tea dance.
The LLSN whilst relying on physicality to drive his seduction, does not polish and maintain that physicality like a higher school Somatic. Accordingly, the use of drink, tobacco, drugs – both street and prescription – which are all seen as part of the flash and fast lifestyle which he believes is his by right, will be continued and will begin to take their toll. Unless blessed with a particularly strong constitution, there is a risk that the LLSN will not reach the most advanced years and instead will succumb to the relevant fatal illnesses which are linked to such lifestyle choices.
The LLSN is likely to be found taking his last breaths, drunk, in a rain-soaked alleyway as his heart finally gives up under the strain of the demands he has made on it, with the dimming sound of yesteryear’s hits providing the final soundtrack to his last moments alive.
The Middle Lesser Somatic Narcissist – MLSN
The MLSN suffers from the same delusional outlook as the LLSN and therefore much of his behaviour and outcome will be similar to that described above. The slight difference is that the MLSN will have a little more charm, although not masses of it by any standard and will have a slightly improved economic situation so that when he is trawling the bars and fleshpots in order to seduce those tertiary and secondary sources he may have slightly more success in ensnaring somebody.
Whereas the LLSN cuts a rather isolated figure which lurches from venue to venue seeking a fix of fuel from potential targets, the MLSN as he ages is more likely to create a gang of hangers-on and cronies who will supply fuel and reinforce, in order to secure a free beer or a lift somewhere, the MLSN’s deluded view that he is still gorgeous and attractive. The MLSN will seek reassurance from this coterie as to his appeal and if it is not forthcoming, he will regard that as criticism and he will lash out at the coterie to draw negative fuel. Where the LLSN does this and becomes increasingly isolated by people who are fed up of being shouted at and hit, the MLSN has some ability to draw those coterie members back to him and continue the association.
Ultimately however the MLSN will behave like the LLSN and therefore will have a long-suffering primary source who he returns to repeatedly after engaging in sordid engagements with those he is able, after repeated attempts with different targets, to seduce. He will suffer the same ravages of his lifestyle, the same inability to control his fury when he is rejected and is unlikely to see particular old age as he succumbs to illness and disease as a consequence of his rampant promiscuity and unhealthy lifestyle choices. The main difference that the MLSN has over the LLSN is that he is able to attract people a little more readily owing to slightly higher charm levels and slight increased economic ability, but they are not significant improvements by any stretch of the imagination.
The Upper Lesser Somatic Narcissist – ULSN
The final subdivision of the lesser school is that of the Upper Lesser. How does he fare with the aging process when he is from the somatic cadre? Whereas the LLSN and MLSN are deluded as to the extent of their physical appeal, the ULSN is particularly physical attractive. He will have natural good looks, engages in a rudimentary regime of skin care and hygiene which is sufficient but far removed from that of the Greater Somatic and looks after his body. The female equivalent will attend gym classes, eat reasonably well and use cosmetics as far as she is able within the confines of a lower disposal income than the other schools of narcissism.
The ULSN has enjoyed much success through his or her life by relying on being physically attractive with a dash of pleasant charm to boot. They still possess the low fury control threshold but it is not as poor as that of the Lower Lesser, however when that fury is ignited the ULSN being in the best physical shape of the three subdivisions of Lesser Somatic Narcissists is the one more prone to causing damage and with an extended period of fury.
In terms of the effect of aging, the ULSN is not hampered by delusion but rather operates through the cynical exploitation of easily being able to attract people to him and rely on pure looks, sexual expertise and animal-magnetism as opposed to utilising economic power, intellect, witticisms and/or charm by the ladleful. When aging occurs to the ULSN he finds that his muscles begin to waste, his looks start to fade and the march of time really begins to take its toll. Also a devotee of the beer, cigs and drugs brigade so often the hallmark of Lesser behaviour, the ULSN was able to counter the effects of this when younger by reason of stamina, youth and racing metabolism. Not any longer. He actually suffers the worst swing in physical appearance of the Lessers. The LLSN and the MLSN were not ugly but they were never stunning and therefore there is only so far they can fall in terms of physical appeal. The ULSN has indeed further to fall as he gains weight, loses his hair, sees his athletic prowess much reduced, struggles for breath and so on.
Lacking the back-up of intellect, wit and charm which would be seen with an Elite and lacking the cognitive function of the Mid-Range and Greater, the ULSN is taken by surprise by his sudden reduction in attractiveness. He does not know what to do. He is not afforded the delusional capacity of his other Lesser Somatic bedfellows but rather he looks on in horror at the sagging skin, the watery eyes, the stiffness of movement. He is becoming the very thing he has never wanted to be; old.
He will suffer a crisis of confidence and this will result in him shunning those hunting grounds which he once prowled so easily. Instead, he will turn to his primary source and alternate between wanting reassurance that she or he is still attracted to him or her and lashing out because of his increasing frustration at his withering frame. His rancour will increase as he ages, causing those who might otherwise wish to fraternise with him to remain away. He does not become more distinguished with age nor does he retain that small amount of charm he once had as an Upper Lesser, instead it is swept away by his increasing bitterness and hatred. He will retreat into a shell, turning to pictures of his former beautiful self for a reminder of what was once but in seeking such affirmation he only increases his torture and will rail against the unfairness of it all, lashing out at his primary source.
The ULSN runs the risk of alienating the primary source and having retreated from other sources through increasing shame at his appearance – which is exacerbated by his reduced fuel levels – the ULSN really then does suffer a crisis of existence. He risks depression as he loses what he believed himself to be and without the trappings of wealth to cause a diversion as a higher schooled somatic may have, he finds himself lonely, suffering the ravages of his lifestyle choices, isolated and a bitter and irate figure. He cannot deal with the loss of his looks, the departure of his once excellent physique and has nothing else to turn to by way of compensation. He will struggle to attract fuel sources and will embark on ham-fisted and ultimately failed seduction of secondary sources, whereby he will not gain sufficient positive fuel from the engagement but rather will turn to lashing out against them and the primary source. In his quest to gain fuel from both primary and secondary, but having little or nothing to offer by way of seduction any more, he may find himself without either.
Whilst the LLSN and MLSN may shuffle off this mortal coil at a younger than anticipated age, they will do so still believing themselves to be attractive and irresistible and therefore their passing away will be somewhat cossetted by delusion. The ULSN will face the horrible and stark reality of the deleterious effects of aging, in terms of illness, disease and the loss of looks and will descend into an isolated, unhygienic, weakened state. Once the lifestyle has caught up with them and they collapse with diseased lungs labouring for breath, he will be thinking ‘I used to be gorgeous, what has happened?’ With his construct near collapse from the shortage of fuel, the reality will become even more harsh and it will be a terrifying and brutal end as he is overtaken by the effects of age, sooner than it ought to have been.
Part Three examines the effect of age on the Mid-Range Somatic.

60 thoughts on “The Ageing Narcissist – Part Two

  1. wildviolet22 says:

    I wasn’t sure if I should post my comment here, or in the article regarding follow up hoovers that was posted the other day. But sometimes you hear of these stories of people “finding each other” later in life after some long separation. Perhaps there are some legitimate love stories like that.

    But knowing what I know now since doing a lot of reading on this blog, I wonder how often it’s really an aging narcissist that successfully roped someone from the past in with a hoover, later in life.

    I believe this happened to someone I know. A woman from his past blew in, he got all crazy over her and left his family. Ruined his relationship with his children. Ended up dying under some weird circumstances. And this woman (I strongly suspect a somatic, and I’m guessing a mid ranger, but I don’t know enough about her specifics to say for sure) seems to be doing fine. Barely a month after he died, she’s already posting on social media that her relationship status changed to “in a relationship” with some new guy. He ruined his life, and she’s all fine, carrying on and doesn’t even have the sense to be embarrassed by how quickly she did the monkey swing to someone else.

    It makes me wonder how often those rekindling of old flames situations, are really successful hoovers by an aging narcissist. The unaware person becoming delusional about what is really happening; as they are being roped in thinking it’s a “one true love” situation, while the narc has any number of people they could have hoovered, just to see if they can. :/

  2. Lisa says:

    I told my x narcissist boyfriend he was ugly. The reaction from him was priceless🤗. That’s how I put closure on my relationship with him.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      An understandable response Lisa, but one driven by emotional thinking and one which resulted in the Devil´s Pitchfork making a visit.

  3. Cont. And this person seems to be a lesser of the Victim and Somatic Lower Lesser Narcissist.

  4. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    Dearest HG: A.) If a lower lesser Narcissist falls into visible ill health and has to go on a walker and has lost a lot of his looks and people look at him mostly in a mocking manner, will his Narcissism help him to continue to fight and live? B) If so, what could his Narcissism tell him to encourage him to continue on in such a sad state of existence. C) And will he be embarrassed when people catch a sight of him in such sudden and visibly ill health, including discarded sources that he has no longer the charm and attractiveness to ensnare any of them, again?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      1. That is Challenge Fuel.
      2. He will respond in a manner to assert control which most likely would be verbal violence (although he would try to use physical violence too).
      3. No.

      1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

        Thank You.

      2. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

        Dearest HG: What does the Narcissism mechanism communicate to the suddenly visibly broken down lower lesser Narcissist what is happening to him, especially if the person led a life that many would say, he brought this all upon himself by his lifestyle?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          It tells him that the universe is against him, that his family are uncaring and selfish for not helping him, his friends are all arseholes for ignoring him, the doctor is a quack who doesn’t know what he is doing etc etc. It is everybody else’s fault, never his.

          1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

            Dearest HG: Thank you. It is a lot for me to process. Thanks.

          2. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

            Dearest HG: Society is pumping these people out, and no one is concerned when they default. The motto of the day for these people is: Good Riddance, and no thought is made concerning what happened to put a life on the road to self destruction. I am very very distraught at accidentally seeing this person in this state, yesterday. I hope that the Narcissism gets him through it, for the remaining time he has left on this planet. He never had a chance. If I happen to be the only person on the planet that is concerned and compassionate about what is going on with certain people in society, so be it.

      3. alexissmith2016 says:

        I guess their narcissism would prevent them from feeling embarrassed. I’ve started to really pick up on this. I’ve also found it quite helpful to apply myself, the ‘not giving a shit what others think approach’. Obviously I assume in this example, they wouldn’t care what others thought and instead would use it to get attention in a different way. So instead of being physically attractive, now they would seek attention in a more victim like manner and just gain their fuel that way.

        Would that be correct HG?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          It would.

          1. alexissmith2016 says:

            Thanks again HG! I really appreciate it. Its crazy! There is nothing I hate more than sympathy from someone. It’s just plain weird lol. Even though I see it all around me and am/was more than capable of giving it. I used to genuinely feel it for every single person I met – huh I must have been exhausted! Now it is used very wisely indeed.

            That is another plus of the knowledge as an empath. You actually have a whole lot more energy because once you reach zero impact (with HG Tudor – winky face not emoji). not only do you feel a whole lot better, you no longer waste valuable energy on people who are non-deserving of it. I guess a bit like the difference between a skilled boxer and an amateur. Seeing an amateur wasting so much energy needleslly. I’m just thinking aloud and rambling now. But it’s another good reason to push yourself to keep going to zero impact aside of all the other benefits. more time and more energy for yourself and others who are truly deserving!

          2. Lorelei says:

            Is that your master plan HG? To flirt with women in the nursing home but complain about your aching body?

          3. HG Tudor says:


        2. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

          Alex: this person was both somatic and victim even at his best. I am heartbroken. Hopefully, he is not. But, a lack of fuel can destroy these people.

          1. alexissmith2016 says:

            Awww PSE. I’m sorry you’re heartbroken. I didn’t read the entire thread and don’t know your story behind this. I just picked up on how they would address their new life through their narcissism. I’m terribly sorry if my factual style of questioning compounded to your heartbreak. May I ask, was this person an IP or NIP? I’m not sure how far along you are in your recovery?

          2. WokeAF says:

            HG I would have also described my ML babydaddy as LL narcohilic as a victim/somatic cross.ster I realized my b.d was a victim who was only really terribly sexual during the golden period . The LL narcoholic has other somatic traits despite not being much of a looker or being able to afford nice things. He is a LOSER at life, but he’s not a Victim. Can you clear up your view on why many ppl think their narc is a somatic/Victim cross and give some tips to distinguish for those who are confused ?

          3. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

            Alex. This person is not why I am on Narcsite. But my newly acquired awareness of NPD allowed me to see this person in a more clear light of why this person had so much problems in life. This is a person that I know, but have not ran into the past year or so. Not ever an Intimate partner. I always hoped he would find someone that would stay with him, but most females bailed on him. I never asked him why. Alex, but, my words are not able to show you that he was a fantastic creature in many ways, despite the pathos of what I would now say is clinical NPD of the Lower Lesser Narcissist that had a combination of victim and somatic, I would say. Very talented. A talented Barber for men. A Carpenter and he could work with plumbing and electricity, and painting as well. He could draw amazingly well. But, without the higher cognitive function, he did not really have a chance in this life, with the NPD, and I hoped he would somehow make a way, and I am distraught to see such a creature failing, and brought down, like I saw yesterday. I do wish the Narcissism eases the situation for him. It is all so terrible. I am not mitigating the fact that he probably hurt the self esteem of many women as he made his way through life. There is much tragedy to go around on both sides of the coin. But yesterday, I saw the tragedy of his side, and I believe that there are some women that have suffered because of these men, that still do not want to see some of these men destroyed in the end. They just want to escape from these men. Thanks for listening to me, Alex. I am heartbroken.

  5. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for the response, HG. When you say “the death of what we are”, do you mean the death of what you think you are? My narc says he does not understand why anyone would kill themselves and that he has never considered suicide.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Most narcissists would never commit suicide. The death of what we are is that which we show the world.

      1. SuperXena says:

        ….”The death of what we are is that which we show the world” do you mean the façade you show to the world? When/if the façade crumbles down exposing the narcissist ?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          The construct of which the facade is part.

          1. SuperXena says:

            ..I am trying to understand: so a de-construction of yourself would automatically mean/lead to “your death” according to you?

          2. HG Tudor says:


          3. SuperXena says:

            It is hard for me to understand this de-construction process. I interpret it as removing layer by layer of the construct until it is all gone? In that case I understand that you think it will lead to “death” but it will be the death of the outer layers…there has to be something in the core of you that is not the creature…
            Or it could be perhaps a step by step process of removing layers of the construct (but not all of them) and finding out the result of this? Step by step? During the process , you could perhaps find out the reason for the need of fuel? And it would be easier to find some alternative/non destructive ways of acquiring fuel when the construct is not so “thick”
            How “thick” is the construct? Has it become thicker with time?

          4. HG Tudor says:

            This will be addressed in greater detail in The Creature, SX.

          5. SuperXena says:

            Thank you for your answer HG.

          6. HG Tudor says:

            You are welcome.

      2. Anonymous says:

        Thank you for the clarification, HG. I was thinking more in terms of the narcissist realizing he is not as attractive as he thinks.

      3. FYC says:

        HG, Your quote found on an old post of The Aging Narcissist pt. 2, 2017:

        “The death of what we are is that which we show the world.”

        Does this represent the ‘death’ (or suppression) of the true self (the creature) leaving the narcissist false construct as what you show to the world?

        Thanks in advance for your thoughts.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Can you provide the context please in relation to the quote?

          1. FYC says:

            Yes, HG, here is the excerpt in full for context:

            Anonymous says:
            October 14, 2017 at 14:13
            Thank you for the response, HG. When you say “the death of what we are”, do you mean the death of what you think you are? My narc says he does not understand why anyone would kill themselves and that he has never considered suicide.

            HG Tudor says:
            October 16, 2017 at 12:35
            Most narcissists would never commit suicide. The death of what we are is that which we show the world.

          2. HG Tudor says:

            Thank you.

            Our true self in effect died and this is shown by the existence of the false self, which is what the world is shown.

          3. FYC says:

            “Our true self in effect died and this is shown by the existence of the false self, which is what the world is shown.”

            Thank you very much for that clarification, HG.

            I believe your true self lives on, but is so well protected and defended it may never see the light of day. It’s too bad, because if your false self is this exceptional, I can only imagine how amazing your true self would be.

            In any case, I very much appreciate all of the real wisdom and clarity you provide.

          4. HG Tudor says:

            You’re welcome

        2. FYC says:

          P.S. Or do you mean the construct of N suppresses the ‘creature’ in such a complete and protective way that if the construct were destroyed it would be experienced as your death?

          1. FYC: I sense that there are at least 3 structures. The removed Self, the Narcississm and the faint presence of something else that rarely but sometimes pushes against the Narcissism.

          2. FYC says:

            PSE: Can you define what your idea is of the “faint presence of something else that rarely but sometimes pushes against the Narcissism.”?

          3. FYC: I will! I wanted to discuss this very idea with you in particular, FYC, but you were not around for a few days. Please forgive me for not being able to go into it at the moment. It is a bit detailed, and I can not do it right now, and I just came home, but I wanted to talk to you about it a week or so ago, and I still have this notion on my mind, but it is still shaky in development. Hopefully this week, I will work on this observation that I have with you, and see what thoughts you have as well. Thank you.

          4. FYC says:

            No worries. Whenever you are ready, PSE.

          5. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

            Thank you, FYC.

  6. Anonymous says:

    Hello, HG. This may be a silly question, but can a narcissist die from a lack of fuel?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Physically, no, although in certain situations it may result in suicide. The death that does occur is the death of what we are.

  7. Anonymous says:

    Thanks, HG. I have not figured out if my narc is a Lesser or Mid-Range, but he often looks in a mirror and remarks about his good looks. Until I read your information, I thought he must be making fun of himself! Wow, he really believes this even though he is at least 50 pounds overweight, has a double chin, and does not dress that well?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Indeed, the strength of the delusion will depend on his school of narcissist.

  8. Susan Kay says:

    How a narcissist reacts to narcisstic injury is the most important observation the object empath will ever make. Your safety is paramount.
    Somatics are often the quintessential mainstream storybook narcissist. They can be handled and dispensed with more easily than a lessor or greater narcissist and can be very entertaining when their little self is subjected to narcisstic injury. Old somatics are simply pathetic.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      For the sake of accuracy, a somatic is not a different school to lesser or greater, but is a different cadre. Thus you have a Lesser Somatic, Mid Range Somatic or Greater Somatic (and divisions in between).

      1. Susan Kay says:

        Yes. I do apologize. I was speaking specifically of a somatic midranger. I definitely have some difficulty with editing on my end. The site doesn’t always seem to load my full replies at midnight CST

      2. alexissmith2016 says:

        Hmmmm I’ve not thought this through previously about having a greater somatic.

        I accept a greater in general is a rare breed. Presumably though a greater somatic is more rare? I would imagine most would be elite or cerebral? because there would need to be a degree of intelligence in the first place. I appreciate it is not all about intelligence and as you point out in the fuel matrix that the upper greater is not necessarily the most intelligent in his school. But to be a greater there must be some degree of intelligence.

        1. Alexis. I am in a complete mind fog over school and cadres except for perhaps, Lesser Lower Narcissists. One day it will probably click and I will wonder why I could not put all this together, after I have a `Eureka` moment. But, for now….I can not and I just want HG Tudor to understand that some aspects are much more difficult for some of us to master than others. I basically stay with: Narcissist (clinical) or Narcissistic, first of all. Huge Difference! And then I carefully try to take the next step. Plus, I am asking HG Tudor more questions now, thanks to you, and I am pleased to report that I feel more comfortable in doing so. In other words, you are to blame if I overstep. Thank you, Alexis.

  9. Brooke says:

    I agree with this HG. It’s quite difficult to be faced with your own immortality on a daily basis…When that is the very thing you use to survive.

  10. ANK says:

    I need part three!

  11. Louise says:

    How does excessive exercise and muscle building, a toupee, hair dying, tinted moisturiser, Botox removal of grey body hair dressing like a teen. With the ability to be charming to others fit? He is 57. He is also ultra knowledgeable and does not drink smoke or eat anything unhealthy. I can not place him in the categories.
    My biggest attack comes if I mention aging gracefully or mention the teenage look. Please help

    1. ANK says:


      I can see a few similarities to Narchole – he keeps fit through cycling , playing sport, etc he doesn’t smoke or drink apart from the odd piny and eats healthily mostly. He is 58 and looks after his body but not into the hair dying etc.

      He also doesn’t like it if I mention aging. He has called me a bitch for a general comment saying that we need less sleep as we age.

    2. Ivanka says:

      The somantic narc in my life has been using steroids for over a decade. Gorgeous man but so warped.

    3. Erin says:

      His name is Berlusconi 😉

  12. I needed this, HG.

    All week you have been posting articles, that made me think twice before I let my emotional thinking take over.

    Thank You,

  13. Tappan Zee says:

    What are a few clear indicators of determine between ULSN and LMRSN? I look forward to the next read and hope to tease it out. Is the cusp close? What I used to think was this or that (clever, wit, etc) is shifting as I walk out of the fog into the light.

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