A Letter to the Narcissist – No. 23




We will not be continuing. I don’t hold anything against you and I sincerely wish you the best. There will be no further communication from this point forward.


34 thoughts on “A Letter to the Narcissist – No. 23

  1. abrokenwing says:

    No 750 words required to deliver this message!

  2. Tanya says:

    Haha! I verbally told the covert narc something similar to the above letter, and the next day….he basically completely lost his shit, he was so furious. He tried to get me fired, failed miserably (since no one except for one jerk believed him), proceeded to hoover/stalk me until the head of my company noticed him stalking me, sat his ass down, and told him to stay the hell away from me. I didn’t see him for months. It was awesome! He tries to stalk me at work now, but I hardly notice him anymore….slowly and steadily I notice him less….and some day, even though he might be standing right behind me, he will disappear completely.

  3. Petals says:

    Wow, this one’s definitely succinct.

    The very succinctness could be seen as an insult to the narc. As in “You’re not worth me even spending a paragraph on you, let alone a full-length letter.”

    1. K says:

      I concur, Petals.

  4. Wavey says:

    I think the missing brick could be:
    1) the word “sincerely” in “I sincerely wish you the best.” I feel that was unnecessary and provides a few drops of fuel. For that matter, so is wishing him the best.
    2) the direct statement of “There will be no further communication from this point forward.” I think that could be read as a challenge to the Narc, as others have suggested.
    When you strip things down to the most minimal words of emotion-free communication, perhaps you need to get rid of the Narc’s name and the comma at the beginning of the whole communication. I remember texting with my narc how the texts where we used eachother’s names with a comma seemed intimate and special.

  5. NarcAngel says:

    To the point, but I think he will only see the second empathic sentence. The first and third sentence will fall away.

    1. Tappan Zee says:

      Excellent points. The only letter to gain (not lose) anything is no letter. Even that back fired. I left nothing when I escaped. His atty asked, why not? No letter. He was worried sick. Of course he rolled out the valiant effort of finding me. Read GH. Or as I like to call it, legal evidence for protection order to be served. Which is why he had an atty in the first place. War games. The only way to win is not to play the game.

  6. Cordelia says:

    I read this differently. This one my narc would’ve taken as a challenge. He would’ve seen it as anything but the end.

    1. Jojo says:

      Same Cordelia, he would blast me about always wanting/having the last word. Then threaten me with “I’ll be seeing you soon, & we are friends whether you like it or not & I’ll give ya some dick coz that’s what ya need bitch.” Smh

  7. Tappan Zee says:

    Best yet. Perfect picuture.

  8. Sillyolperson says:

    Dear Mr Tudor,
    The perfect letter ! Short sharp n to point!
    That’s as much as their “crazy” brain can handle or could soak in.
    The missing brick concerns me however ….. it has to blocked completely, utterly and without hesitation or reservation!
    The letters have been outstanding!
    Thankyou for continuing with them

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

  9. SuperXena says:

    Reading all these letters is very interesting. It perhaps helps getting the closure you never get with the narcissist since just writing them is cathartic but I really hope ANY of these letters is actually send to the ex-narcissist because according to me ( and of own experience) it would be a BIG MISTAKE. It will just open the window for future hoovers. To say nothing is the best closure.

    1. SuperXena says:

      …these typos! I meant of course :” I really hope NONE of these letters is actually send to the ex narcissist…..”

  10. Rico says:

    HG I can’t wait to hear your thoughts about these letters.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you, you shall in due course.

  11. K says:

    Maybe she wrapped the letter around the brick and threw it through his window, that would be a hoover in the 5th sphere.

  12. DebbieWolf says:

    Perfect letter…sorted.
    Good one.
    Needed to be said.

    Note: The missing brick is the letter itself.
    A solid wall is no letter at all.

    1. echo says:

      I think you’re right. A solid wall would be no letter, No Contact and let him figure it out. He can find some other toy to play with.

      The “N” in my life loved to dole out silent treatments. That and threat of abandonment (i.e. giving me the “choice” of falling in line or I could walk away) were his knee jerk reactions to anything I did to displease him. I could envision him reading this and then simply not responding at all, letting his silence do the talking as he has in the past. Or maybe a reply of blame shifting, guilt tripping, and attempted high roading before sticking his own block of ice into that hole like a petulant child. Of course if those are the reactions I’d expect, then probably something else would actually happen. Looking forward to the Master’s interpretation.

  13. Kim michaud says:

    Short and sweet point made better by just disappearing but I know its just an exercise but best not to send

  14. echo says:

    Perfect pic. I may feel like my defenses are up but there will always be the risk of a hoover. Thank you for posting it.

  15. narc affair says:

    To the point. No emotion. No fuel. The end. I think thatd wound for sure and set the hoover bar sky high 👍

  16. LouiseG says:

    Nailed it!

  17. Diva says:

    Short and sweet……this letter sums up my position with one narc at the moment…….congratulations on getting to this stage……it is a massive achievement…..just make sure no more bricks are removed from that wall…..I would have preferred a spy hole or kept the wall completely sealed……the narc could get a slimy tendril through that gap if you are not careful!!!…..Great photo and letter……Diva

  18. E says:

    HG. To my opinion it’s pointless. He will not take it seriously. It will make even worse. He will get furious, get Farewel shucked in and torture her as long g as she lives. I say this because it has happened to me. I write him exact letter 11years ago and he still punishing me. Well… Not much lately but as you said HG, he will try. E.

  19. angela says:

    thats would be my letter too !!!

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  22. K says:

    That was succinct and to the point. I liked it.

  23. I like that letter… It’s nice, short, and sweet. I’m pretty sure the Narc will appreciate it. Lol.

  24. ava101 says:

    I like this one a lot! 🙂

  25. SuperXena says:

    …that’s a clear – cut ,short, concise message! Raising the hoover bar/wall:high,steady built up of bricks( as the image denotes)… but there is just one brick missing…it should be replaced immediately….reinforcing the wall…

    1. SuperXena says:

      besides: why the wall ( hoover bar) is made of bricks? It should be made of steel …

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