Sitting Target

Why did the narcissist choose you? How did he or she go about deciding that you were the ideal target for him to launch his campaign of seduction upon? Did you do something to attract the attentions of this dangerous foe? This direct and comprehensive book will enable you to understand what it is that the varying types of narcissist look for when they are searching for victims. Whether you wish to prevent it happening again or you need to understand why you were chosen, this book will deliver the answers in an uncompromising and straight forward manner. What are the things that various types of narcissist look for? How do they go about establishing their targets satisfy those traits? What are the Special Traits which attract all narcissists? Where are their hunting grounds and which is the most dangerous? Who does the narcissist go after and why are certain people left alone? What does the narcissist mean when he or she is looking for green lights? These questions and more are answered in this hard-hitting and unsettling look into why the narcissist chooses you.

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18 thoughts on “Sitting Target

  1. Why? says:

    Hi HG,

    I read your book. I’m wondering about this would the victim LMRN pick fiesty petite women? I assume not since he is attracted to mothering petite women….

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I believe you are wondering why the Victim LMRN has picked a feisty petite woman, rather than posing it as a hypothetical question.

      1. The individual should be put through a NDC to determine whether they are a LMRN Victim if you have not done so.
      2. If they have been put through the NDC and that was the outcome :-

      a. Is the individual an NISS, IPSS or IPPS?
      b. What else is occurring in the fuel matrix?
      c. There may be other factors you are unaware of with regard to the target individual which mean that they fulfil The Prime Aims.

      More information is required to answer this and therefore the appropriate forum is through consultation.

  2. B says:

    I see. But he said that his girlfriend is distant and he said that he likes distant women. Which i thought it was odd for the victim narcissist or any narcissist for that matter. But especially for the victim narc.

    So, I was just wondering what would a victim narcissist interpret as distant behavior from the IPPS that made him embed her? Would it be the IPPS is not demanding much by not needing the narcissist to reciprocate?

  3. B says:

    Okay I just mean when targeting and embedding a IPPS, why would a victim midrange narcissist choose a IPPS who is emotionally distant because he doesn’t like closeness if he requires mothering and care from the IPPS? It’s just contradictory and he is targeting against what he actually needs. Is it because he doesn’t know what he wants and also the fear of intimacy is overriding his need for mothering?

    I am surprised the he would want a IPPS who is emotionally distant if he requires mothering and care. It’s like he doesn’t even know what he wants.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I suspect he has not chosen such an IPPS. This is why I direct you to consultations so you can provide me with more information (and/or I can elicit from you through the appropriate questions) so I can answer you accurately. The consultations have been created for that specific purpose.

  4. B says:

    Hi HG,

    1. Why does the male victim midrange narcissist choose emotionally distant women and embed as IPPS if what he should look for is what is written in your book, Sitting Target?

    He said that he likes distant women. But he said that she doesn’t call him back and that bothered him. Then because of that, he said that he has to look for somebody else. He also said that he just realized that he is afraid of intimacy.

    2. So, why does he even pick emotionally distant women if according to your book and observations, he wants somebody caring and compassionate to be mothered? He liked that I was caring but he preferred the “distant” woman because he said that I like “closeness” and he doesnt.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello B,

      1. I very much doubt you are the IPPS on a long distance basis. You are more likely to be an IPSS. Of course if you provide me with more information through consultation, I can ascertain your status

      2. He may well be obtaining the mothering from someone closer to him and proximate physically that you do not know about, hence he does not need it from you.

  5. Why? says:


    I read your book sitting target, it’s great! But I am a IPSS, not a IPPS. So, what makes the narcissist choose somebody to be shelf IPSS? Is it because she has some or all empathic traits and some class traits but not all of the class, special, and empathic traits required for the particular narcissist to be the IPPS, so she is just the shelf IPSS instead?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are not chosen to be IPSS rather than IPPS, but instead you did not achieve IPPS status which can be for a variety of reasons. I suggest you arrange an email consultation so you can give me more detail and then I can explain it to you with regatta accuracy to help your understanding.

  6. Ilene says:

    I read this book, and several others from you, Mr. Tudor, and they are unique and immensely helpful learning guides.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you for reading.

  7. Bubbles says:

    Dear Mr Tudor,
    You recommended this book to me, so I have ordered this and 7 other titles (all the others were unavailable).

    After a lifetime full of narcissists, I want to knuckle down and read these so I am never hoodwinked by anyone ever again. I’m so glad I found your blog , it’s been baby steps to absorb all your information, but I’m changing, my radar is on full alert and I pick up on everything now. I feel very confident and with your knowledge, I will achieve this.

    You are the expert and I am following your advice.

    Thankyou so much
    Forever grateful

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you for reading Bubbles.

      1. Bubbles🍾 says:

        I have ordered, Escape, No Contact, Sitting Target, Sex and Narcissist, Revenge, Smeared and Red Flag to start with. Which book would you kindly recommend to read after those? Many thanks

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Fuel and Fury. Thank you for reading.

  8. cheyenne says:

    I would like to get this in paperback
    Anyone know the best most economically savvy way to purchase thiis?
    And what may be another good H G one to pair with it?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Cheyenne, via Amazon. Fuel.

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