Little Acons – No. 31
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She was diagnosed with depression at the age of 12. She was an accidental birth (different mother), her father has another 4 off spring he doesn’t get along with.
He made her his carer, (huge responsibility and pressure). She’s all he ever talks about and her photos dominate his place. She loves and defends him to the hilt. I had to bring them back together a number of years ago,as he pushed her to her limit. She loves attention and is in the limelight. Her attitude is “if you don’t like the way I am, rack off”. She has a lot of her dad’s traits now. Is she not the golden child. 🤔
Very confused, Mr Tudor
Appears that she is.
Dear Mr Tudor,
My narc friend’s daughter, the golden child (an adult) is now suffering from anxiety, depression, panic attacks and PTSD. She’s having 20 min uncontrollable crying sessions, waking at 4 in the morning and reliving his heart attack (which was over 2 1/2 years ago) and has broken out in pimples on her face and has issues with food and excercise.
He’s prancing merrily along, fit and healthy, doesn’t know and wouldn’t care less!
Would this be normal behaviour from the golden child?
Many thanks
From the golden child? The behaviour does not sound normal unless she is repeatedly anxious, depressed and has been this way for many many years, so in effect it is normal for her.
When you cry? Earth moves.
We cry? Earth stops.
Mentally healthy people cry. Its detoxing and cleansing of pain from the soul.
So long as you cry because we caused it, keep detoxing.
Lol this made me laugh but i know it to be true and now i know why bc narcs need to know they matter and can control that persons emotions. If theres no reaction they fear theyre losing that grip of control.
Detox in private away from the narc. Otherwise what made you cry in front of them theyll keep doing!
Something i thought about yesterday is if you study the narc like they study us youll start to see patterns and use it to your advantage. If you do something and it causes a wanted reaction do it again when needed. If you pull back and they start to behave then do that same thing when they start to escalate their abuse. I noticed when i pull back or go grey rock and no positive fuel at the same time my narcs more loving side comes out. It happens every time. Dont over use tho bc it becomes ineffective.
Use their same tactics against them if need be. The more obvious answer is to disengage and go no contact but theres something to be said for studying them like they study us.
Ridicule and lack of empathy rolled into one. I always heard, “You’re too old to cry.” Once I was grown, I realized how ridiculous that is. No one is ever too old to cry when crying is what’s needed. And sometimes crying with someone or by yourself is the best thing you can do to promote healing.