The Igniters of Fury – No. 5


A series that allows you to understand what are the different things that you do which are likely to ignite the fury of a narcissist. Keep in mind that different schools of narcissists have different levels of control over their fury. Use this information to understand why you have been treated to heated or cold fury and to use this information to further your own position post escape.

15 thoughts on “The Igniters of Fury – No. 5

  1. W says:

    My lesser (or LMR still it sure) collapsed, I suspect, narcoholic…wouldn’t let me speak if we were with ppl. He’d accuse me of “going on and on” and interrupting him. Even our friends would testify it was HIM doing this not me

  2. Tappan Zee says:

    HG. i have listened to you with a headset. you do it. rawr. =^..^+

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thanks TZ, I certainly do.

  3. geyserempath says:

    I was shocked when I first witnessed my Narc “growl” under his breath so I could hear it when his mother (his NIPS) would talk over him. I was sure she heard it, too. Do all Narcs do this “growl” noise?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Not all.

  4. Sophia says:

    My narcissistic parents never let me speak. I have struggled to find my voice in certain situations.

    Do narcissists get so angry when they are interrupted or shut down because their narcissistic parents believed children should be seen and not heard as well?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Being interrupted usually ignites the fury because it wounds us since it tells us we are not important. The behaviour of the person interrupting us is a reminder of the behaviour we once endured.

      1. Tappan Zee says:

        unless it’s cutting across:)

  5. Nuit Étoilée says:

    Ooh the irony of this one…

  6. K says:

    My lessers talked over me, very loudly, and used the word “irregardless” often; I couldn’t get a word in edgewise if my life depended on it.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Well the use of such a non-word speaks for itself!

      1. K says:

        They bandied “irregardless” about as if they were Rhodes Scholars. They were all so bombastic; in retrospect it is quite humorous.

    2. geyserempath says:

      K, mine did too. He would only call me when drunk and then talk over me repeatedly.

      1. K says:

        Yup, I had some cousins in my family that used to call at two in the morning and ramble after a night of boozing.

  7. Kimi says:

    I love this series HG! You are putting into words what I have subconsciously recognized and experienced. Very helpful! Thank you!

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