Little Acons – No. 39

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13 thoughts on “Little Acons – No. 39

  1. BurntKrispyKeen says:

    Fair enough… as long as you don’t hang up on me mid-sentence.

    At least say “bye” before you drop the call, okay?

  2. sarabella says:

    I once thought, that when I finally had a child, I might also gain a mother. I didn’t understand at the time, the whole entire picture of what was my life until the last narc blew open the truth of what I could never see, but this was my mother’s support: I was pregnant and she was to come out for the birth. When I picked her up at the airport, she looked at me and the first thing she said was, “How come the doctor let you get so fat?” That set the entire tone. A few days later, I was to head to the hospital to give birth and as I was leaving with my husband, she said, “You don’t want me to come so I will stay here.” It was never ever even an OPTION to have another woman, my mother, by my side. She told me to not expect support. And alot went wrong with the birth but medicine saved the day. Needless to say the visit ended on a really bad note. A few years later, she made it clear she had no intention of visiting me anymore and being a part of my daughter’s life. She really expected me to chase her for mothering. That was the end. NC for over a year.

  3. narc affair says:

    My mothers greatest support was when something awful was happening in my life. That may sound like the perfect mother but it isnt bc she thrived on my downfalls and loved the control of swooping in to be “supportive”. Yet when things go well she devalues me bc she is envious and wants bad things to happen instead.

    1. Windstorm2 says:

      Sounds a lot like my mother. But she also was an almost daily presence in my life, complaining and trying to interfere.

    2. Khaleesi says:

      NA, very similar to my mother. What she loved the most was telling everyone what it was that she did to help and constantly reminding me of it. It wasn’t until I had my own children that I truly realized what bs it was.

    3. Catherine says:

      Sounds exactly like my mother too. She thrives when I’m in trouble, forces me to tell her, and then she’s really “supportive” calling like 5-6 times a day, inquiring about everything, demanding inacceptable space in my life. When I’m not willing to share or when I’m actually feeling better, she gets mad because she loses power and control. Then she starts telling me how bad and stressed out she’s feeling from having to deal with my problems, calls my sister and involves her. It’s the merry go around of my family;)

  4. BurntKrispyKeen says:

    He just texted me 15 minutes ago: “You’re still mine. Whether you know it or not.”

    I came on here hoping there would be some activity. Have you ever considered a hot-line service?

    It’s in these moments that I feel as if I lose a bit of what I have worked so hard to gain.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You e-mail me.

      1. BurntKrispyKeen says:

        I am about to head out of state for a meeting, but I feel I could benefit from a phone consult. I just need a little time to gather my thoughts and arrange my schedule.

        I’m not exactly sure how this process works on your end, but I’ll inquire here before long.

        Thank you.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Very straight forward. You make payment, I e-mail you with certain information and we organise to speak at a mutually convenient time. We speak, you ask questions, I answer, you make progress.

      2. BurntKrispyKeen says:

        Sounds good. However, one quick question: If our conversation should become quite engaging, and we go over, say ten minutes past my allotted time, are you going to bill me like an attorney?

        (Just kidding… sorta.) I have to pop back into my meeting, but once I’m finished… will do.

        Again, thank you for your service.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          We stick to the hour.

  5. thepianist20 says:

    ALL THE TIME! ALL THE DAMN TIME!

    Narc parents want 100% CONTROL but give ZERO PERCENT (0%) EMOTIONAL SUPPORT!

    Stupid shitty empty shells of narc parents!

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