Igniters of Fury – No. 14


18 thoughts on “Igniters of Fury – No. 14

  1. Caroline says:

    This is so true! I was on-and-off taking care of a sick friend for three days when I was in contact with the (ex BF) narcissist, and he seemed annoyed. Instead of listening to what was wrong with my friend, he brought up what good care I took of *him* when he got really sick once, and then he parlayed the being in bed thing into talking sexually to me (I’ll spare you). I chalked this up to him not thinking clearly because of his impending divorce and laughed it off.

    But the subconscious never lies, because while he was being like this over the phone, I pictured him pushing my friend out of bed and getting in himself. I could feel the anger.

  2. alexis2015s says:

    Great meme HG. They all are, everything you produce is of such quality. It’s so rare to engage with anyone who really understands any subject inside out and back to front, whatever their specialism.

    It really does !

    I’m currently caring for a very close relative at the moment and this is also my reason give to the N that I’m unable to go out with him.

    At first he was caring and understanding, although I could feel the fury being contained. But he told me I must do the right thing. He loved the fact that this truly shows my empathic traits. I don’t always display them so he is a little confused.

    He’s now changed his tactics, but trying to convince me that I should make time for myself and get a carer in to at least share my burden 😂 I have made it quite clear that I’m coping well and all in hand. I just can’t meet him at the moment. He still keeps trying.

  3. ThePianist,
    All “igniters” cause flames of fury….Plus having to care for ANYONE else will likely cause the narc to want to torch em to get it over with.
    not that they would overtly set fire to their sick relative.

    1. thepianist20 says:

      Yeah Perse,

      These narcs are pretty dangerous when it comes to tending someone. They play caring, but plot only to scorch the other person. :/

    2. Caroline says:

      Not only did your video crack me up, but it helped me in more ways than one, Perse. Now every time I see you on here, I think “Stop it.” It’s become a very efficient deprogramming method!

      1. Caroline,
        Glad you are enjoying it and I hope it works for you, too.
        I was just thinking I need to apply it in more areas of my life. Hopefully I won’t have to go to “10 words”. LOL

    3. Caroline R says:

      “want to torch them to get it over with”
      Ha ha!
      Reminds me of ‘the episode of Absolutely Fabulous’ when Patsy’s N-mother is croaking and wheezing slowly to her end. Patsy sits impatiently by the death bed, and irritated by her mother’s continued raspy breathing hisses at her “OH JUST DIE!”.
      Ha ha!

  4. thepianist20 says:

    Tending to a sick relative by burning them??? 😱

    1. DebbieWolf says:


      Haha…you are on a roll today ..
      😂😁😀 I can tell my shoulders are gonna be heaving with the chuckling as the day goes on now.
      Good to see the funny side of things..even more so when it isn’t funny how the narcs get over stuff and we end up suffering.

      Nice one TP20.

      1. DebbieWolf says:


        See? Youve put me in such a humourous mood with your comment on the other article about secrets…that I see your comment here as a funny quip..
        Though it occurs to me now that it may not have been your intention.to make one…so.just to say no offence meant..I just saw the funny side because you made me smile earlier. X😊

      2. thepianist20 says:


        The narc was pretty malevolent actually, but now since I know what he is, I just laugh at his bad attempts and how pathetic he is,

        I pity him, but that doesn’t mean I excuse his bad behavior one bit.

        He knew that I would find out and expose his bad behavior, so he ran away. Pity.

        But endgame, I’m over him, thanks to HG.

        Thank you DebbieWolf 🙂

        1. DebbieWolf says:

          And thank you too TP20..I am glad you are heading away from the narc toward your bright new tomorrows..
          They are ahead for you.

          1. thepianist20 says:

            My YouTube channel and my WordPress site is a “work in progress”

            I’m now 22, and I’ll be moving out of my parents house soon(both my parents are lesser and mid-ranger narcs).

            I’m going to aim at being the pianist that I always wanted to be 🎹

            Have a narc free day, Debbie!

          2. DebbieWolf says:

            Oh wow TP20..

            Im glad you found HG while younger too…as it will help you with all the new beginnings.

            Go girl!👍👏

            And yes…narc free here..
            Fly the flag!
            No red, no blag ones flying today..
            just the one with our names on! ✌

          3. DebbieWolf says:

            *black* not blag…phone typo hell. Lol

    2. thepianist20 says:

      By the way, Debbie, no need to apologise,,

      I did mean my above “sick” comment as funny,, 😂

      Narcs mentality is always so messed up that they mess up themselves! 😂😂😂

      1. DebbieWolf says:


        Ahh..good to know…😊
        My first thought was the right one..💡

        1. thepianist20 says:

          Yes, your first thought was the right one😁😎

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