Yeah…they do like praise.. but then they get sick of it anyway they get sick of you…and the praising and whatever else good you attempt to give ..and then when you stop giving it – even if to please them by offering something different.. or because you are obviously hurt or angry…well, then you’re a villain for not trying.
It’s just a game of contrary.
As HG says…they are contrarians.
There is no way forward but out.
They do not appreciate it …the attempts..anything.
They do not see.They do not care.
They must be abandoned.
This pains…
I, as you, am caring and thoughtful, wanting to make things go well..be loving, considerate and warm.
I see now that where hope is deliberately destroyed for its own sake.. denied and turned away from, cruelty wrought no matter what is offered..then all the praise and good wishes on the world are, in the end, not wanted and meant nothing to them.
It is with deep sadness that I must concede there is no hope regarding the destroyers.
None.
Alas I concede..that there is no hope regarding the narcissist.
Save hope for yourselves..your children, animals..for those that can truely benefit and accept it exists, where kindness is accepted and welcomed. And cruelty has no place. Where your actions matter and make a difference to your life and the lives of others. Where kindness and care ‘actually are’ the currency for progress, success and balance.
Turn away from somebody that hurts you and who has done it deliberately to boot!
Is this real or just a reason to abuse? I mean, are you really hurt or just pretend. It felt feigned. Over the top. I was out with my nex. It was a delightful evening. OR. SO. I. THOUGHT. he flipped out on a dime. we left and i got it. like an hour (idk i would zone out during his rages losing all track of time and logic) of fury. i had no idea. took every verbal assault. beat myself up. wondered wtaf happened. knew it was insane. yet i could not, did not get out from under it. had a sane person witnessed it they would have not believed the lengthy harangue. none of it true. it was during the golden (bronze meh) period and felt excruciating. it is effective. perplexed me (control) and programmed me to try EVEN HARDER to please him next time. or not go next time. yet i knew i had done nothing wrong. i loved this man. would take a bullet for this man. did. i think i went numb from shock, trauma. ugg so tragic. what i put myself through with that man. ambushed. sad. and now upon reflection so vile. and calculated. he meant to hurt. it carved out a future with the “friend” whom i gave too much attention to whilst ignoring him (not) and any time he disappeared he would say, i was with so and so. knowing i would not question it because of my “transgression” with said person. who i barely knew and cared little for. brutal. savage. i hate that narcs stripped me of my innocence. naïveté. it hurts so bad. now. bleeding out.
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HOw come I’m unable to view the article?
Just say the magic word Brandy, “meme”.
Instead of “got milk” it should be “got fuel”
ooohh! I like that, Narc Affair!
Hi nuit…lol everytime i see this one i think of the milk commercials.
Dear Mr Tudor,
It’s actually quite hard work for us the keep the narcissist continually happy, we get exhausted too.
Very clever meme
The narc falls apart when they arent being praised and acknowledged. The spotlight has to be aimed at them in some way or directly.
Hello All
Yeah…they do like praise.. but then they get sick of it anyway they get sick of you…and the praising and whatever else good you attempt to give ..and then when you stop giving it – even if to please them by offering something different.. or because you are obviously hurt or angry…well, then you’re a villain for not trying.
It’s just a game of contrary.
As HG says…they are contrarians.
There is no way forward but out.
They do not appreciate it …the attempts..anything.
They do not see.They do not care.
They must be abandoned.
This pains…
I, as you, am caring and thoughtful, wanting to make things go well..be loving, considerate and warm.
I see now that where hope is deliberately destroyed for its own sake.. denied and turned away from, cruelty wrought no matter what is offered..then all the praise and good wishes on the world are, in the end, not wanted and meant nothing to them.
It is with deep sadness that I must concede there is no hope regarding the destroyers.
None.
Alas I concede..that there is no hope regarding the narcissist.
Save hope for yourselves..your children, animals..for those that can truely benefit and accept it exists, where kindness is accepted and welcomed. And cruelty has no place. Where your actions matter and make a difference to your life and the lives of others. Where kindness and care ‘actually are’ the currency for progress, success and balance.
Turn away from somebody that hurts you and who has done it deliberately to boot!
You do not deserve it.
Know that you can and will survive.
Get out. Stay out.
All my love..DebbieWolf.
🐾
Is this real or just a reason to abuse? I mean, are you really hurt or just pretend. It felt feigned. Over the top. I was out with my nex. It was a delightful evening. OR. SO. I. THOUGHT. he flipped out on a dime. we left and i got it. like an hour (idk i would zone out during his rages losing all track of time and logic) of fury. i had no idea. took every verbal assault. beat myself up. wondered wtaf happened. knew it was insane. yet i could not, did not get out from under it. had a sane person witnessed it they would have not believed the lengthy harangue. none of it true. it was during the golden (bronze meh) period and felt excruciating. it is effective. perplexed me (control) and programmed me to try EVEN HARDER to please him next time. or not go next time. yet i knew i had done nothing wrong. i loved this man. would take a bullet for this man. did. i think i went numb from shock, trauma. ugg so tragic. what i put myself through with that man. ambushed. sad. and now upon reflection so vile. and calculated. he meant to hurt. it carved out a future with the “friend” whom i gave too much attention to whilst ignoring him (not) and any time he disappeared he would say, i was with so and so. knowing i would not question it because of my “transgression” with said person. who i barely knew and cared little for. brutal. savage. i hate that narcs stripped me of my innocence. naïveté. it hurts so bad. now. bleeding out.
It wounds thus the ignition of fury follows.
I get that. Ignition of fury. But do you know that there really is no ignoring?
Yes there is ignoring, that is why we are wounded. Remember, we have a different perspective to you.