The First No Contact

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The first no contact the empath did try,

Was to certain dire narcs to counter their lies,

The hoovers they used to lure them back in,

But the empath was not fooled by that oh so false grin,

No C, No C, No C, No C,

No contact ends the misery.

The empath stayed focussed and then blocked the ‘phone,

And kept the narc from their email, their messages and home,

They studied hard and they all read HG,

So they understood that his works would give liberty,

No C, No C, No C, No c,

No contact will set you free.

And so the defences were built, both firm and high,

The empath knew not to laugh, smile, shout or cry,

Thus starved of the fuel and feeling beat,

The wounded narc withdrew and beat a retreat,

No C, No C, No C, No C

No contact will secure your destinythe

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30 thoughts on “The First No Contact”

  1. Update I blocked his harem members. Who also was monitoring my page. He has been working on three women. Evidently he told them to block me lol. But yet he continues to monitor my fb page. This dude has a wife to how does he find the time.

    1. Dear ….. little Empath,
      Hi and welcome sweet pea,
      I was using ” silly” in my blog name and the “lovelies” on this blog didn’t like me using it because it’s a win for the narcissist and giving them power.
      May I please encourage you to rename or omit the “silly” because “silly” you certainly are not.
      You are an amazing, intelligent, gorgeous, warm, compassionate, kind, giving, loving person and the narcissist didn’t respect or deserve you and you’re everything he isn’t.
      You’re even more incredible because you’re here !
      ☺️
      💜

  2. HG work.
    Jus now a ” friend” call me to say my exN have a new girlfriend and they look very happy wolking same places we went to show them to everybody..
    And i didnt have any emotion..i feel ok..i dont care..i am not loosing anyrhing..i am the winner of my life
    I know what he is ..what he is doing..and he sell his dick and his charme for fuel..bed and breakfast.. so he is a whore man..

  3. Hi HG… I have a confession to make.. I broke NC with all the narcs (even you now :)) I went to a concert that my last narc gave (he’s a musician in a band). I love their music, got the tickets before we broke up and last week I thought I was strong enough to go there.
    But I was not. I am not sure if he saw me at all, or recognized me, but I think he did and then ignored me all night (did not even look my way once again, which is why I think he saw me).
    Back at home my mind was going in crazy-mode. Could not stop thinking about him and yesterday I’ve been crying half of the day. Pfff.. I really had no idea I would be feeling so sad again, I honestly thought I had it all worked out and I was enjoying my life in narc-free-happyland.
    I know now that no contact really should be no contact, not even watching from a distance. That is hard, because I love their music so much and upto now I could handle looking at their Instagram. But seeing him in real life was different.There is one more concert ticket in my desk, I am still torn what to do with it. I’ll probably think of him for the rest of my life anyway..

    Also I had dinner with nex husband ans our son, because it was nex’s birthday. I did it for our son though. Should not have done that. Nex was gaslighting me all night (nothing ever happened and he completely changed history) and spoiled every conversation with our son by interfering and showing off his ‘intellect’ 🙁 We were in a Greek restaurant, our son and I were reminiscing about holidays in Greece and narc started about the Pythagoream theorem. Honestly… what a ‘perfect’ way to end what could have been a lovely trip down memory lane.

    For Christmas I wish a new life and no encouters with narcs even again.

    Love your poetry HG, really sweet of you to honor my request :).
    Forgive me my NC-sins.

    Merry Christmas, hope there will be love for you all, and if not, love angels instead (it worked for Robbie, so it should work for us as well) XXX

  4. THANK YOU HG! Having technical difficulty blocking via email iOS operating system and he found my address. ( yikes!) guess return to sender unopened? Anyone know how to block email from someone? Thx

    1. Mb
      I have the same problem. I can’t block on gmail either. Apparently everyone in my family has an operating system that is too old. If you find out how to block emails, please let me know too! Thanks and Happy Holidays!

  5. I decided to do something different. I am hoovering my ex narcissistic bf. He is so sweet lol. I thought he would be mean. And I thought he would have blocked me by now. I find it odd hmm why does he let me hoover him

    1. Why would you want to spend any second longer in Lalaland than necessary?

      I don’t want to sound harsh, but why are you purposely ignoring everything you’re reading here?

      It’s your addiction talking to you. It’s making up excuses for you to be able to see him.

      When you know, you go. it’s as simple as that.

    2. Hi sandra dee…why would you hoover him? Hes allowing it bc youre entering his sphere and in a way its him hoovering you by accepting but youre doing the work for him by entering the trap.

      1. Cause of boredom and he constantly monitors my fb page. I tried to block him but I can’t and he won’t block me😞 And he knows I can’t so he won’t for some reason

      2. Hi sandra dee….boredom can be a dangerous thing. It can also disguise lonliness. Fill your time with other worthy activities. Narcs are very slick and find those weak spots and you may not be as over him as you think.

    3. Hello SandraDee,

      Why do you want to hoover him?
      Just wanted to share a quote with you:
      ” “If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.” — Lao Tzu
      That you don’t want to, do you? You were there once and it was not good for you..why would you want to do it again?

      1. Yes Windstorm, that we have in common as well…as I recall ,you like Gandhi as well.. I like the philosophy behind both of them.

        Never mind about some of the comments made by a “Christmas slayer ” about what Christmas represents to you.

        I know you do not care but as you may have noticed it , you are surrounded and protected here by an army of empaths!

        Best, best Christmas wishes to you…

      2. Superxena
        Thank you very much. This blog is very important to me and all of you all are as well. Reading and commenting really has helped (and continues to help) me work thru all the many narc relationships I’ve had and how they have affected me and my thinking. Being here is a blessing!

        You have a very, very merry Christmas as well!!

      3. Windstorm,
        Your welcome! I am glad to hear that this site still helps you. Sure its’ role in our lives changes shape as we go along in the process . It’s dynamic ,evolving and it is moving forward and so are we…
        Merry Christmas to you!

      4. Ooohhh SuperXena – that hit me right between the eyes..

        Keeping these quotes.

        Windstorm – I am among your admirers too. Love reading you.

        SandraDee it takes courage to share.. thank you.. im working too..

        And to all you lovely ladies – Merry Christmas!!

    4. Dear SandraDee,
      You are very honest to admit what you just did
      I’m wondering … if you thought he would be “mean” … why would you Hoover him?
      To quote a wise blog reader here ….. “don’t poke the bear”
      Sorry, my lovely, no good will come of it!

      There’s nothing “sweet” about him. Of course he will let you Hoover him, it’s attention…..FUEL
      He will “take”, as long as you keep “giving”
      Your emotional thinking is still ruling you.
      Stay safe and best wishes 💜

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