The Narcissistic Icicles – No. 2


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  1. analise13 says:

    You cannot stop. It is power to you.

  2. Caroline says:

    Oh m’ gosh…I just masking taped my device, and I’m not even kidding!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Good move.

    2. Perse, Queen of Hell says:


      I do this on every device that has a camera, as soon as it is removed from it’s packaging, except my phones.

      I should do those, too, but I use the camera a lot. I have only taken 2 selfies, (one is my current avatar), but I really don’t like, and have uninstalled, apps that ask for access to all your photos, location, and contacts.

      It’s just creepy what we don’t notice we are allowing to cross our boundaries.

  3. Jackie says:

    HG – my MR ex disengaged (literally we were engaged) from me in March and since then he has tried to hoover me three times but I haven’t responded My parents moved since me and him broke up and they discovered that someone came into their backyard and bend the lock on their iron gate and then snapped the volleyball net in half. Do you think this could be my ex or is it just some other random weirdo? If his first 3 hoover attempts were benign would he all the sudden switch to malignant?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It is likely to be him.
      I would not regard bending the lock and snapping the volleyball net as malignant but rather a method of letting you know he has been there.

      1. Jackie says:

        Thank you for your response HG. How would my ex know my parents new address though? They have a PO box and have moved since me and him have broken up. How do you think he knew where to get live? Why come by and not knock to talk to me?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You are welcome. It is easy enough to find somebody’s address.

          1. Jasmine says:

            Is that why you cover your cameras? I heard that mentioned in a podcast. Are we really that easy to find?

          2. HG Tudor says:

            I cover my cameras to protect my identity.

          3. Jasmine says:

            Yes, I understand as much, but unless someone worked for the NSA.. would it really be a concern? Why did you recommend to your listeners to do the same?

          4. HG Tudor says:

            Because it is easy enough to gain access to somebody’s cameras on various devices without them realising and watch them. To render such an act redundant, cover your cameras.

          5. Jasmine says:

            Really??? Someone would do this? Is this common? Yer freaking me out. I already bought mace, practiced my knife skills, installed security cameras, even considered purchasing a gun. What’s it take to be safe these days?!

          6. HG Tudor says:

            Yes. Not common.

          7. Narc Angel says:


            Perhaps its less weapons of defence in the aftermath and more practice of prevention in listening to our inner voice saying this is too fast and too good to be true? Not inviting in charming strangers through unlocked doors and giving too much of ourselves away too soon? Just a thought.

          8. Jasmine says:

            Thank you Narc Angel.
            The weapons are protection from a violent ex -n. During our last encounter i saw the “beast”. He scares the bejesus out of me.
            Moving forward.. yes! I need to learn all of that. I attract them like flies to honey and not realizing who/what i was dealing with.. Has put me out there like a sitting duck. Hopefully Hg will be able to weaponize me too.

  4. Jasmine says:

    He said these very same words in a scathing vm on my parents phone! After cut-off completely, and with restraining order in place.. he turned to attacking my closest family members.

  5. narc affair says:

    Then you remain in dysfunction.

  6. kimmom546 says:

    Scares the hell out of me………..

    1. kimmom,
      I agree!

  7. NarcAngel says:

    Well no one likes a quitter.

  8. MLA - Clarece says:

    But you do stop. You up and decide to stop the formal relationship. On your timetable. It doesn’t matter if you don’t stop the occasional Hoover. It never goes back to the way it was. So yes, you do stop. It stops when you go silent. It stops when you put us on a shelf. Always longer. All it does is make us get used to you not being around. You actually make yourself become irrelevant to us. You’re worst nightmare. Becoming a heap of nothingness.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It doesn’t stop because the impact and effect is always there – it is the intensity which varies.

      1. MLA - Clarece says:


    2. Trisha says:

      Brillant well said they keep going silent and discarding us while they move onto someone else always for someone else, then they come trotting back surprise surprise they bored didn’t see that one coming ha ha, until we just don’t care anymore and move on

  9. J Cricket says:

    The more time that goes by… the more I see how true this statement really is!

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