The Narcissistic Icicles – No. 6



10 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Icicles – No. 6”

  1. The worst is when the victim really believes that the abuse is her fault and responsibility. In this belief there’s not only misplaced shame but also toxic hope that things can be better if the victim changes this or that, etc.

    It’s really very manipulative and messed up.

    In the refusal of the abuser to accept any responsibility or accountability there is always the highlighting of this terrible toxic hope, which is indeed the very last thing that dies.

  2. Isn’t it true that the narcissist makes up scenarios to try to make the Previous PS fit whichever of the examples he might want to fit. For instance, he could behind the scenes decide to call the ex the harpy oil spouter, but he may be stonewalled or receiving indifference.

  3. Congratulations on reaching over 8 million hits! This is a remarkable achievement in such a short time.
    I appreciate your insights from the narcissist’s perspective, the valuable tools you give us to help us deal with them and the possibility to look inside ourselves, to change and to heal. Thank you, HG.


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