Twenty Deflections of a Lesser Narcissist


The lesser of our kind is a creature of instinctive reactions and knee-jerk responses. In common with all our kind, he or she must always avoid blame and swerve accountability. Denial is often used by the Lesser Narcissist to achieve this with a blunt rejection of the comment that you have levelled against him or her and if you persist you will invariably find yourself on the receiving end of some heated fury in order to beat you down from asking your questions and apportioning blame. The Lesser Narcissist will offer denial with little or no supporting evidence. It is not a topic for discussion any longer. The lesser will also engage in the art of deflection. He or she does not think carefully being launching these phrases and comments in a bid to deflect the nature of your questions and accusations but rather they are an immediate response. Indeed, they will often appear to be raised out of context, appear to be non sequiturs and even almost nonsensical. They are not to the lesser. In his world these are instinctive responses which he or she has to come out with on order to deflect your questioning of them. Your questioning creates unease and discomfort and the lesser will issue these phrases from a stockpile he or she keeps. They lack the higher function to think of a high-calibre response which brings about deflection but instead utilise these phrases below in a “one size fits all” approach. They will be hurled back at you, often with venom attached, a standard response to what you are saying to the Lesser Narcissist. Expect to hear them may times in the course of your dance with the lesser. He is not capable enough of conjuring up new ones and relies on these “old faithfuls” to deflect the force of what you are trying to achieve. The deflection at this level works usually by causing disbelief and confusion on your part. You like everything to make sense. You like things to follow an order and be logical and therefore these stock responses will make you stop in your tracks as you try and figure out either what is actually meant by them or if you understand the thrust of the comment how on earth they are applicable to what the discussion is about. This is the beauty of these deflecting comments for the Lesser Narcissist. He cannot think up clever or articulate responses but he does not need to because there are just as effective in halting you in your tracks. They may not always result in your behaviour being questioned (as is more the hall mark of the deflecting comments of the Mid-Ranger of the Greater Narcissist) which then takes the conversation of discussion in a different direction. These comments however fulfil the aim of stopping the discussion going in the direction it was and indeed cause it to veer off at an improbable tangent into the reams of confusion and bewilderment. That does not matter to the lesser, as long as the attack, the criticism and/or the questioning stops goes elsewhere and his accountability remains unaffected. So long as your response provides him or her with a fuel, the comment need not be magnificent or well-constructed. Here are twenty stock deflecting comments used by Lesser Narcissists.

  1. You’re nothing special yourself you know.
  2. Why do you have to use dictionary words with me? 
  3. I’m not stupid you know. Why do you have to make me out to be stupid?
  4. I don’t care what other people do, they are idiots for thinking that way.
  5. You’ve been reading too many books.
  6. You think you are so clever don’t you?
  7. Why isn’t my dinner ready?
  8. Been listening to her again have we? I can always tell when you to two have been talking.
  9. Can a man not get some peace in his own home?
  10. You sound like your mother.
  11. I’m going out.
  12. Why aren’t you ready?
  13. You should know your place.
  14. You talk too much.
  15. You never listen to me properly.
  16. Never mind me, what have you been up to eh?
  17. I know what you’ve done.
  18. You can’t judge me.
  19. Fancy words don’t make you right you know?
  20. Since when did this house become a court room?

8 thoughts on “Twenty Deflections of a Lesser Narcissist

  1. EmP says:

    Looking forward to the day when your classification will be found on criminology books HG!

    “…According to the Tudor Classification System, we can group narcissists in three categories: Lesser, Mid-Range and Greater….”.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Fucking A!

  2. RJ says:

    I like the “you can’t judge me”. It rings a similar tone with “you don’t own me”. The difference being, that they judge you constantly and think they own you. Dummies indeed! I know I don’t own you but excuse me for expecting too much from you like honesty or integrity, considering we are in a relationship. Also too bad on the judging you, it is just a natural reaction dealing with your antics Narc.

    1. RealitySetsIn says:

      I said both of those….mainly the you don’t own me! Because of controlling behavior and bossy behavior used towards me. I must have said you don’t own me lots of times.

  3. HG Tudor’s #1 fan says:

    The Lesser is nothing but a dummy.

    #2 Why do you have to use dictionary words with me?

    Hilarious HG, but spot on.

  4. Yolo says:

    Who’s always been there for you? Me…and you have never been there for me not once. Amnesia😂 They are worst, but are the best to play whack a narc with once you are informed as long as the person isn’t dangerous.

  5. H. says:

    I don’t think there is anything worse than a Lesser.

    There are no words for his shallowness. I am disgusted at myself that for some reason I wasted 6 years on the dolt.

    I can only think it relates somehow to my childhood. My father and mother were abusive. At some deep level, I think I must have found something comfortable about it.

    Now it just makes me want to vomit.

  6. RealistySetsIn says:

    Lol….I have actually said the court room comment. I have said….wow I feel like I am in court and being cross examined….or I feel like I’m on the stand here and this is like court! Putting me on the stand….however I myself am a great prosecuting attorney and I can and have put people on the stand in arguments and when I’m trying to prove a point. I am not an actual attorney by the way. I’m just saying I can act like one lol. Another phrase I’ve used and had used against me was well I can’t remeber what it’s called but it’s when they are trying to make a criminal confess and they use tactics to bring about a confession. But I forgot what that’s called lol. Anyways!

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