Further Confessions of a Narcissist

Further Confessions SolidFurther confessions from the dark-hearted narcissist.

Learn more about the world of HG Tudor and his background.

Why does he exhibit his attitude to money? What is his response to the question of your needs? Did he ever actually love you? What was that which he showed you during your dance with him? How does he know so quickly who will provide him with the most potent fuel? These questions and many others are answered in this unforgettable foray into the mind and behaviours of a narcissist.

 

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6 thoughts on “Further Confessions of a Narcissist”

  1. I have been thinking more about ‘achievement’ since my reading of the same chapter in Further Confessions…

    When I see greatness or great achievement in others (in relation to my personal pursuits and otherwise) I recognize it but I am not envious of it. I reflect on it but I have no wish to denigrate it, nor use it to my advantage, nor even copy it – why would I? It has been done already.

    In fact, I admire it; I hold it up to the light and examine it from different angles and say yes: ‘This is an achievement. I can clearly see the time, skill and dedication invested in it. For me it then has an inspirational factor where I am inspired to perfect my own pursuits – or at least push them to their limits. It is not a race to the top however but more a partnership (not necessarily acknowledged or conscious) where there are definite benefits if only as means to gage one’s progress.

    For me, where the envy comes in is where/how that individual must have been free to fully engage that pursuit. When I see, on the surface, someone who has it ‘all together’ and  seeming overall success (in general societal terms); I wonder how is that possible?

    No one is that good – that…balanced. Something, SOMEWHERE, has had to suffer or be sacrificed. (This dynamic between empath/narcissist has shed some light on this for me, thank-you.)

    So then, my curiousity (and in some instances this can/does turn to envy but it is ameliorated by reaching understanding) turns to what choices/sacrifices did that person make to give the time, energy and dedication to reaching that goal?

    Or what things were present that allowed them the ease or single-minded focus to pursue that goal? And then, is the goal as sweet if one didn’t have to struggle to reach it?

    I’m rambling now…but we all make choices along the way. Some of us make attachments along the way, remain there and that is enough. (It is matter of perception and judgement whether or not that is a valuable goal.) Some of us use those attachments to move ourselves forward at the expense of those attachments. That is not to say either attaching or not attaching is good or bad – but is it the level of consciousness of the choice in our decision making?

  2. HG,
    I’m in the middle of Further Confessions of a Narcissist – very interesting read, by the way – and was struck by the section ‘Rise and Fall of an Empire’ and how it reminds me of my fascination with the Festival of Las Fallas in Valencia, Spain.

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Falles

    I’ve always been enamored with the investment of time, attention to detail and the craftsmanship dedicated to designing the beautiful, elaborate sculptures – that they then burn the end of the festival.

    THEY BURN THEM!
    The thought horrifies me – but then I do know, should I ever have the chance to see such an event myself – that in my horror I would still be transfixed by the spectacle.

    The Valencians usually create these works of art around a theme and events happening in the past year. And then in the burning of these creations it is like saying goodbye to those events. I like this line in Wikipedia: “The burning symbolized liberation from living in servitude to the memory of these events…”

    Your chapter on the illusions that the narcissist creates – and then *destroys* – is to me an in-your-face backlash to the fact that natural cycles of increase/decrease, succor/hardship are, for the most part, no longer acknowledged. We don’t want natural rhythms; we want everything to be buoyant, happy, passionate and progressive…none of which is a reality all the time, nor is it healthy all the time – in the end.

    Both empaths and narcissists have their part or role in maintaining the facade…only when *you* build and create it is from nothing, with nothing…again and again…and then in the end you have ‘nothing.’ *We*, on the other hand can lose everything – hit rock bottom – and still, with almost nothing, start to rebuild something tangible and lasting – if only we could stop feeding into a fake reality.

    No wonder we are horrified by you; and no wonder you despise us.

  3. HG- there’s plenty of female narcissists out there too. I notice it’s always from a male point of view-which makes sense because you’re male..but I believe there are just as many female narc’s out there. I believe men just do not seek therapy and report on them, and men are conditioned early on to think women are ”a lot of work” and just don’t realize that crazy woman was a narcissistic disordered person.
    I also believe that the visible overtly and grandiose are more likely to be male than female due to the power structure of the world. Men rule – they physically dominate and they dominate the world.
    We have Trump as a prime example. Does he seem to be melting down? I saw him on TV clip the other night this past week and he looks totally like he’s insane. Like INTENSE negative energy and fury boiling up. Argg.. don’t get me started.
    Just thought this book description- i thought it was about you personally..because it says..’by HG Tudor’ then it says…why did HE do this and that….I was like..is this in particular about HG??? But I believe you’re meaning …’he’ the general N.. anyways.

  4. And what about when it’s done to you? When we don’t fall for your calls for attention instead just opting to stay silent ? If you show up in group places we just leave. There is no blocking no antics nothing but silence as if we see you but don’t see you?

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