My mid-range/ victim narc could really turn on the water works. Took me a painfully long time to realize that every shed tear was only a prop for his manipulative, sobbing, poor me episodes.
He will never realize the damage he has done to a once beautiful heart. I hate him for that.
The Victim Narcissist was constantly crying. The Histrionic Narcissist would cry, too, because it needed center stage at all costs. Of course, back then, I didn’t know about these disorders, so I gave him loads of fuel, 24/7. He wouldn’t let me out of his sight, or even walk outside the front door without his permission, and when he allowed me to take the trash out, or whatever, I was timed. I’m not exaggerating.
I listened to you in the video…thank you! It seems I was lucky enough to find not one, but two (you and nex) honest narcissists talking about what they are not able to experience/feel (sexual intimacy) and to have simultaneous orgasms with my husband. I didn’t expected none of the above, maybe good things happen without expectations.
Yes and I learnt to believe these tears were true. As a child it was better for me that way. There was no other to rely on. I would have been all alone. And I knew I was too little to be independent. And when I saw his faked sadness, I fell into my long practiced role and believed him. I mistrusted him sometimes but I did not want to see the truth. Of course – he never cried. I only saw tears in his eyes, when I exposed him. Tears of incredible fury and powerlessness. At that moment he had no possibility to strike back. One of his coterie (who faked her friendship) said to me: “Never forget this moment.” And I do not.
In your case, HG, you will never believe, that tears can be true and an expression of real sadness. You will always believe, it is an emotional blackmail.
Love that picture HG! I can’t tell how the blood got on the woman’s clothing.. but i imagine she’s just about cutting her eyes to bleed….LOL.
Seriously though HG…I sometimes wonder if my ex narc injured herself one night. One night she went back to Hoover her ex while I was in devalue-and she again was rejected (as I found out much later from the ex she was back hoovering)…her and I were on a ”break”…i saw her at a dinner with friends and somehow ended up with black eyes, and a cut on the nose..seriously looked like she’d been punched out. Myself- i would NOT have gone out in public…it was bad!
She said she fell out by her garbage cans in the dark, I asked her ex if she’d been drinking heavy..she said no!
I’m like how the hell would that happen–those injuries from a few garbage bins?
I have since wondered if she was so enraged and falling apart that she hit herself in the face in hatred of herself/anger at being LOW on fuel.
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My mid-range/ victim narc could really turn on the water works. Took me a painfully long time to realize that every shed tear was only a prop for his manipulative, sobbing, poor me episodes.
He will never realize the damage he has done to a once beautiful heart. I hate him for that.
The Victim Narcissist was constantly crying. The Histrionic Narcissist would cry, too, because it needed center stage at all costs. Of course, back then, I didn’t know about these disorders, so I gave him loads of fuel, 24/7. He wouldn’t let me out of his sight, or even walk outside the front door without his permission, and when he allowed me to take the trash out, or whatever, I was timed. I’m not exaggerating.
Your new YouTube video on how your kind regards sex was brilliant, per usual, Master Tudor.
Thank you.
I listened to you in the video…thank you! It seems I was lucky enough to find not one, but two (you and nex) honest narcissists talking about what they are not able to experience/feel (sexual intimacy) and to have simultaneous orgasms with my husband. I didn’t expected none of the above, maybe good things happen without expectations.
Yes and I learnt to believe these tears were true. As a child it was better for me that way. There was no other to rely on. I would have been all alone. And I knew I was too little to be independent. And when I saw his faked sadness, I fell into my long practiced role and believed him. I mistrusted him sometimes but I did not want to see the truth. Of course – he never cried. I only saw tears in his eyes, when I exposed him. Tears of incredible fury and powerlessness. At that moment he had no possibility to strike back. One of his coterie (who faked her friendship) said to me: “Never forget this moment.” And I do not.
In your case, HG, you will never believe, that tears can be true and an expression of real sadness. You will always believe, it is an emotional blackmail.
Love that picture HG! I can’t tell how the blood got on the woman’s clothing.. but i imagine she’s just about cutting her eyes to bleed….LOL.
Seriously though HG…I sometimes wonder if my ex narc injured herself one night. One night she went back to Hoover her ex while I was in devalue-and she again was rejected (as I found out much later from the ex she was back hoovering)…her and I were on a ”break”…i saw her at a dinner with friends and somehow ended up with black eyes, and a cut on the nose..seriously looked like she’d been punched out. Myself- i would NOT have gone out in public…it was bad!
She said she fell out by her garbage cans in the dark, I asked her ex if she’d been drinking heavy..she said no!
I’m like how the hell would that happen–those injuries from a few garbage bins?
I have since wondered if she was so enraged and falling apart that she hit herself in the face in hatred of herself/anger at being LOW on fuel.