The Rules of Ex Club – No. 26


9 thoughts on “The Rules of Ex Club – No. 26

  1. Kate says:

    Of course, I felt that my son needed to know his father and tried to get him to be a part of our son’s life. He showed up to either see me, mess with my head and/or our son’s, threaten and provoke me either directly or through our son. He tried to turn my son against me even!!!

    At the age of majority (18), my son told his father to stay out of his life and he never wanted to see or hear from him again..

    1. Kate says:

      My son’s decisions and actions regarding his relationship with his father were and are purely his and his alone (I took no part in this, either through words or actions).

      1. Anonymous says:

        We played our role with words and actions. Oh tried not to but children aren’t stupid, on the contrary they ‘see’ things adults don’t, watch body language, most perceptive and take it all in. Even if they look as though they r busy playing off somewhere.

        I told my kids as adults “I f***ed up!!! What more could I say? I chose to have children with NPD. Not knowing, but it wouldn’t have mattered.

        1. Kate says:

          Hi Anonymous,

          My comment was very specific about my son’s actions and how I do not deserve any credit for them.

          He was only eighteen, knew that he needed to do and did it.

  2. Kamika Jina says:

    Thanks for explaining this – exactly what I am experiencing right now as I’m sure many others are. Very timely. Thank GH

    1. Kamika Jina says:

      Any suggestions HG on how to deal with this please especially when the ex manipulates and tries to convince the kids this is the truth? Any advice much appreciated. Thanks again.

      1. HG Tudor says:

        I would need more information about what is being said, the nature of the narcissist, how the manipulations manifest, what the current dynamic is and the age of the children in order to provide accurate assistance and therefore this is best suited to consultation.

  3. Kate says:

    Not all fathers trouble themselves to spend time with their children or care enough to get any custody rights.

    Yes, my ex is that evil.

  4. JENNIFER says:

    Narcs obviously are hollow. Being a true being of light and love your child will know the difference at a certain age of maturity. Mine at 10 has already been able to distinguish the difference between manipulation and pure love. Do not give up hope and keep giving your love, time, and attention to your children. They will know the difference soon enough. Never let your unwarranted insecurities get in the way of your time and affection with your precious children. Xoxo

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