The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 15

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18 thoughts on “The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 15”

  1. HG,
    Why would a narc unfollow a Shelf DLS on one social media platform but not another? For example unfollowing on Instagram but not unfriending on Facebook? The reason given to me (by him) was “I got tired of seeing the negative posts which I felt were directed towards me, it became too much for me to handle”. Okay then fair enough (and I di did not confirm nor deny they were directed toward him) but then why not unfollow me on all platforms? Most of what I post is cross-posted anyway. What gives here?

      1. To make you feel insecure and be concerned that you will next be removed across the board, so you react and provide fuel.

      2. Okay I guess that makes sense. So essentially what is going through his mind is…..”I cannot take the posts anymore but I do not really mean that. I won’t totally unfriend you because I want you to post about me even though I tell you it is too much for me to look at so I tell you I cannot take it anymore even though I want to take it because I am a contradiction factory”

        I hope my interpretation is accurate.

        And I continue to post stuff that is a knock at him because I want to challenge and test him to see if he will get “annoyed” and unfriend me, or say something. (neither of which he has done but I know he still trolls!) I often question what is more important to him. Pretending to have his panties in a twist over what I post or deleting me across the board but then being unable to keep tabs on what I am doing.

        I know your kind need to be in “control” along with your fuel. Is “social media monitoring” an important form of control for you? As in you need to keep tabs on what is going on with someone? For example making sure no one is speaking badly about you? Or is it mainly to create insecurity fear or confusion for some fuel? I guess what I am wondering is aside from the fuel, is it also about control too, right?

      3. A warning shot to step off with the daily memes about betrayal and broken hearts, daily texts, calls and or voice mails. He had reason to believe (then) with all of that going on, maybe you would decide to go to his wife and he will not risk that. If you are able to be contained, he’ll throw you breadcrumbs. If not, he will be capable of blocking.
        You know this.

      4. Yeah that may be so but the fact that he had to lament about it being “omg so utterly unbearable” but not realizing that IG stuff can easily be cross posted to FB with a tap of a button is just preposterous. Utterly unbearable my ass.

        In simple terms, he’s an idiot.

      5. Then stop chasing the “idiot”. He brings nothing but grief and anxiety to your life.
        You have said yourself, he’s barely posting on FB anymore, hence why he didn’t block there. He may focus more on Instagram. Many people have shifted to Instagram for social posts and look to FB as the “old people’s” social media or for business, marketplace and closed group networking.

      6. Yeah, he has not posted on Instagram since last July. He unfollowed me over there before Christmas but he did not block me so I can still see his page. I did not unfollow him, however he can no longer see my page since he unfollowed me. This has to be why he has kept the FB channel open because if he unfollowed me there he would not be able to keep tabs. His last FB post was in March. I know he still trolls me on FB. Anyway the point to my long winded overthinking is that I guess that is just his way of leaving something open. Still no formal announcement of the “pregnancy” being made either on his page which is really odd given his usual attention seeking posts. I am guessing he needs to keep that off his page so that he can move along with possibly seducing others.

  2. Tbh i find it annoying having them on my lockscreen and ive set them yo be off. We live in a world with no privacy at all. Theres no reason why all notifications need to be displayed for everyone to see on the fronts of phones.
    I can see the meaning behind this from an infidelity standpoint but even aside from that i like to keep my notifications to myself.
    Thats a huge pet peeve with facebook as well you are never 100% private even with settings.

    1. I am the one who should have probably be born a few centuries before because my locksreen only shows that something is there, not from whom and what it is.

      And no FB for me on the phone – I assume people can wait until I get back home.

      I even know some people who don’t use email on their phone (while running a business!) – and they recommend it. No pressure. Relax. I have to get back home, eat something, then think and let you know.

      I may try one day as well.

  3. ”I have never lied to you. I have always told you some version of the truth”
    ~Something’s Gotta Give

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