The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 17

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8 thoughts on “The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 17

  1. Dragonslayer says:

    Dear HG,

    Thank you for your insight and advice. Of all the other platforms on narcissm which I have been gulping since my escape 6 weeks ago I find this most helpful right now in my “recovery”. I suppose after a few weeks off being dazed I have moved on to the approach of pulling up the bootstraps and getting on with the hard stuff; facing reality. “Tough love” seems appropriate to jolt me into proactiveness.

    I would be grateful for more information about the narcissist response to a super empath, empath supernova escape and exposure related hoovering etc, since I was fighting tooth and nail for the last 8 months, when I couldn’t leave due financial situation (control) and work situation, until I made my escape without notice and am looking to learn more about what to expect. I have been in no contact since day one and have shut down all social media. Total media block out.

    However, in the last three weeks I have received 4 emails (which I did not read but forwarded to friends and family for filtered information and safe keeping) from two different accounts that by the name or content seem to originate from either devalued SSS or the primary source of supply which replaced me in the immediate aftermath of my cunning departure. First I was told to “let go” by a fake email account and name claiming some kind of relationship to my ex. I blocked that email address but now I received two more emails in the name of a previous SSS, who I never met or had any contact with, apparently referrinb to the previous emails but now asking for my help in overcoming the disengagement… For me this whole situation is absolutely insane.

    I just left the country and shutdown all comms and access and am wondering now if I’m being hovered and if so by whom at 4000 km distance. A friend who meets my ex regularly through work and who my ex approached early on to smear me with recordings of our fights (which I didnt know existed until my escape) and who witnessed my devaluation, including abuse, and isolation is of the firm opinion that the emails from both the unknown and the latest email accounts are from my ex looking for a reaction, supply. Which I have unceremoniously withheld by not responding.

    I’m actually laughing here at this insanity, tucked away in the middle of a forest with my ex having no contact details to where I am, indeed doesn’t necessarily know in which part of the world I am in, and I have circled wagons around me through my trusted family and friends in order to not to have my whereabouts divulged. Nevertheless, I am being reminded by your work that my joy might be premature…

    Would a narcissist (mid range or greater) try to hoover me after escape and exposure malignantly by creating email accounts and pretending to be someone? Or is this too far fetched and is this likely a (devalued???) SSS/flying monkey trying to hoover me or continue the abuse egged on by my narcissist? My contact details are not easily available and limited social media was under an alias.

    I’m not 100% sure that my device was not infected by spyware by my ex through a YouTube music video link pre-media blackout so he might have spied my location, contacts and correspondence before my paranoia kicked in and I “went back to original settings”. I am not sure if that suffices but just wonder if this would be something he could have done.

    I’m gearing up for round two here and would appreciate your advice&opinion.

    Thank you again for your invaluable work amongst “our kind”.

    Kind regards,


    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are most welcome.

  2. SN says:

    Jamiroquai had lyrics for such an event, “It’s automatic baby and it feels good!”

  3. narc affair says:

    This one id not pick up on lol

  4. Julie says:

    I dont get how you could tell since they dont let you see their phone?

    1. SN says:

      Julie, maybe it was a woman’s intuition.

    2. narc affair says:

      Im not very observant bc id probably just think say if it were in a hotel hed entered the wifi password when i hadnt noticed. Thats some detective work lol

      1. Julie says:

        I pay for unlimited usage so I never hook up to other people’s wifi. I guess Im assuming wrongly others do too. Making more sense now.

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