The Perfect Ten of Seduction


The Perfect Ten Sentences of Seduction

What is really meant when we say these words.

1. I love you and I always have

My need to seduce you is considerable and therefore I will use language which will appeal to you and be so outlandish that it will blow you away. I do not actually love you. I do not love in the way that you do. I understand that the closest I come to it is infatuation. I am not in fact infatuated with you but more precisely with what you can do for me. My needs are paramount. Yours are largely irrelevant. I write irrelevant because I do take them into account during the seduction but after that they are thrown to one side. I love the fact you fuel me, allow me to steal traits of your for my own use and you give me shelter, meals and money.

2. We are soulmates

I know you are a big believer in emotional concepts such as love, spirituality and the soul. I need to tap into that and I need to do so quickly. I want to suggest that our love goes beyond this earthly plane on which we stand and it is something all the more ethereal and noble. That ought to impress you and cause you to become bound to me. I am not your soul mate, I am here to steal your soul because I do not have one.

3. I have not loved anyone like this before

There will be half a dozen willing witnesses who will testify to the contrary. In my world however I have deleted them from my mind (except when I fancy hoovering them and triangulating them with you for some extra fuel)  and there was nothing like what I feel for you now. They are defunct and redundant, an unfortunate reminder of an abuser who trapped me. They do not matter now, you are all that matters to me now, your fuel, to be accurate, is all that matters to me now.

4. I want us to be together forever

There is no want about it. We are already locked together forever. You may not think this and indeed somewhere along the line you will want to escape me, although quite why that is when you are the problem, is beyond me. Anyway, that is for later. Right now you have agreed (although you will never recall having said such words to that effect) to remain my property for the rest of your life. This means that everything you own, have and are now belongs to me and I will deal with it in whatever fashion I see fit. I will use and abuse you over and over again as this is my right. Just when you think I have disappeared I will be back more. This is a life-long covenant.

5. We have so much in common

What a wonderful occurrence, such serendipity that everything you like I like as well. Even better, all the things that you do not like, I do not like either. It as if we are two halves of one perfect person. That is exactly what I see because all I will do is mirror you. I have spent time watching you, observing you, finding out about you from friends and scouring your internet footprint in order to learn as much as I can about you so that I can present myself as mirror image. I actually cannot stand listening to Coldplay but that isn’t going to stand in the way of my replication so I seduce you with incredible speed and ease.

6. I hate it when we are apart

A rare nugget of truth here. I do hate it when we are apart but for the reasons I have made you think. You think it is because I miss the wonderful, kind, humorous and delightful you. I actually miss all that positive fuel you supply me with when we are together as you are taken in by this illusion that I have created. Moreover I hate the fact that when I am not with you I cannot control your environment and I am concerned that with space to think and breathe you may just see through what I am doing or even worse, you may listen to one of your so-called friends who will be whispering in your ear and briefing against me. I don’t want your head turned elsewhere. I want it looking at me. Always.

7. Nobody can love you the way I do.

Amazingly another piece of truth. Nobody else can love you in this way because none of it is real. This is all made-up in order to attract you and bind you to me because if you saw what I was really like (not that I would ever allow that to happen) you would run screaming and never return. Accordingly, I will love you in a way that you are unlikely to have experienced before by deluging you with desire and then nearly destroying you through malice and vitriolic hatred. Told you I was special.

8. I can’t believe we have only just met. I feel like I’ve known you forever. Let’s live together.

It feels familiar to me because you are giving me positive fuel just like your predecessor and the one before her and the one before her as well. I do not distinguish between you, not really, because you are all appliances to me which I want to ensnare and then drain as you pump out delicious fuel for me to consume. I say this though to make you feel special and because I am obviously so wonderful and brilliant you will be thrilled that someone like me wants to live with you. This will make you grab this marvellous opportunity before you lose it and then I have ensnared you.

9. I need you. I want you. I love you.

Sounds dramatic and romantic doesn’t it? Makes you feel as if everything is focussed on you and I could not live without you. Notice how many times I used the word “I”? That’s because this is all about me and nothing to do with you save for what you can do for me. I really mean that I need your fuel, I want your fuel and I love your fuel.

10. You have saved me.

Yet more drama straight from the romantic handbook. I know your type. That is why I chose you. You like to fix, heal and save. You will have plenty to do in that regard, believe me, but that will come later. For now what I really mean is that you have saved me having to look anywhere else for fuel. Time to feed.


19 thoughts on “The Perfect Ten of Seduction

  1. purpleinnature says:

    None of mine actually said any of these things, except maybe my Greater, he did say “I need you” before we got married. Towards the end, as I was breaking away, he said “No one can love you as much I do. I love you DEEP”, whatever the hell that means.

    That being said, these things were all implied. They made me believe all these things were true without actually saying them. I guess I saved them a lot of work with my imagination. Lol.

    I do remember my mid-ranger marveling several times that I was the first person he’d been with that he was friends with first (we were both married when we met, years before we ended up together). I always thought it was kind of weird that he thought this was so amazing, that we were friends before we were a couple. Isn’t that how most couples start?Now it makes sense. Ugh…

  2. K says:

    Just for the record, all my narcissists have eyes.

    1. MB says:

      But teeth? That’s a different story!

      1. K says:

        Ha ha ha….. it is one of my red flags, along with hoarding, bad hygiene and morbid obesity.

        1. MB says:

          Very unfortunate narcissists indeed with these traits, K. Not at all like the ones I know!

          1. K says:

            Many are lessers (lots of drug and alcohol use), however, a number of my mids are morbidly obese and this affects their hygiene.

          2. MB says:

            I saw where you were counting them up K. Did you ever come up with a figure?

          3. K says:

            4 of my lessers lost all of their teeth to drug addiction. I have 2 male/6 female hoarders, 22 females/10 males are morbidly obese. I haven’t even counted the addicts up. When I figure it out, I will let you know. Their health isn’t really a priority; fuel is (or fuel substitutes).

  3. SN says:

    Sorry, adding for bookmark.

  4. SN says:

    Dear HG,

    It says here that narcissists don’t have souls. Do they also lack eyes? As eyes are the mirror’s for souls (or so some say)
    Thank you!

  5. Catherine Parr R says:

    I’m seeing someone now who declares about 6 of the above 10 points. He is very intelligent, incredibly attentive and gentle. He has some strong narcissistic traits but nothing that concerns me too much except the soulmate part as I don’t believe in soulmates. Time will tell.


    1. SN says:

      Catherine, I also think time is the best medicine. And apples.

  6. wounded says:

    I wrote my letter. I thought I was done. My encounter, though brief, has left me enraged and unsettled. Is this normal?

    1. windstorm says:

      I’d say yes. We do never really get closure like people are always searching for. For me the old, “Time heals all wounds” is true. There just has to be enough time pass after you break off from them for the rage and unsettled dealing to pass. Hang in there!

      1. K says:

        I consider myself very fortunate because once I found HG on YouTube and heard these words, “You were targeted; it wasn’t your fault.” I was so stunned that I kept listening and realized (logic) very quickly that this was something that I had no control over and I was able to “let go”. It took a while for the emotion to catch up, but it did (dissonance).

        Accurate information is the key. Without it, I would not have been able to move forward. I would still be stuck in a morass of emotion going nowhere fast.

    2. K says:

      Yes, although your encounter was brief, rage and anger are normal and will fade with NC and time.

    3. SN says:

      Define normal but I’d say it is what it is and it is normal to go through what you feel, and forget about it.

  7. ava101 says:

    Had to laugh, reading this, thinking of the latest narc candidate. ;D Said several of these things after not even a week. And he wanted to be with me no matter when or where, – but told me he had a free room in his apartment.

    1. SN says:

      Yes, and?

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