The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 8

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18 thoughts on “The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 8

  1. Bubbles🍾 says:

    Dear Mr Tudor, your posts of brilliance have stopped appearing on my Facebook page since 29th August The Virtual Fuel Matrix…..your
    narcsite appears to be current

    Just wondering what’s happened
    Luv Bubbles xx

    1. Bubbles🍾 says:

      Dear Mr Tudor,
      Update …
      Since my enquiry as to no posts being featured on Facebook since 29th August … two posts have appeared “why the narcissist wants you dead” and “the narcissist’s social media laws -no 19”
      Many thanks
      Bubbles xx

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Yes, I managed to overcome the security issues which has allowed the postings to appear again. It was a verification procedural issue.

      2. Bubbles🍾 says:

        Dear Mr Tudor,
        Thank you very much and most courteous of you for your explanation of the Facebook security and verification difficulties ….I’m relieved and happy the problem has been rectified
        Thank you again
        Luv Bubbles xx

  2. Presque Vu says:

    All your posts are headfucks deliberately set to draw fuel.
    HG you’ve taught me a lot, especially about the social media aspect of what is posted and what is meant.

    I could not get my head around why he would hurt me so much. It would seem now, I fuelled his engine right up and more!

    It is totally depressing to me to think he has shaped me, to never ever trust again.

  3. Kiki says:

    HG , I don’t know what you have done ,but this is the absolute first time I have the strength to have cut off the narc.
    I have done it completely there is no crack open .Normally I would start panicking but what if he ( insert excuse) .I just feel strong .
    I have read so much on other blogs but never got to this stage , in such an unwavering manner .
    The turning point for me was reading Exorcism , the way you described the wrong focus and mixture , that is what had me trapped .
    No one else could show me that .
    Thank you

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Well done and you are correct.

      1. Kiki says:

        It’s great , I do need to stay here on the blog though as I am aware the emotional thinking will kick in at some point .
        I will also be going for. GOSO consult in the next few weeks to keep me strong .I might actually start moving on now instead of being stuck in rejected misery .

        Thank you again HG and promise I am in Real No Contact .

  4. Fuel on the Shelf says:

    Oh such truth!!! From all 1600 of his FB followers!

    I have a question though. Why would a narc purposely set all FB wall posts to private during his birthday? But then outside of that timeframe turn off that privacy setting?

    Why wouldn’t he want all that social media attention fueling him during his birthday?

    Just something that was noticed as FB was a ghost town during the Birthday when it usually bustles! Now, after the deserted birthday it’s bustling again.

    1. Lori says:

      Read. BIrthday blues. Birthdays are intimate and they hate all forms of intimacy. Also he doesn’t want the ipps and ipss all seeing each other’s comments.

      FOTS I assure you that you are not the only ipsss

      1. Fuel on the Shelf says:

        I do recall that article Lori. However that thought conflicted with the other thought that I thought they WANTED the attention.

        The day after his birthday he posted a pic of him and his daughter. He tagged the IPPS in the picture and “thanking everyone for the birthday wishes yesterday” (none of which were not posted publicly on his FB wall). At that point he garnered his 200+ likes and 50+ comments from his FB group. In years prior the wall was wide open for individual posts. So very odd.

        If there are more IPSS’s I can only guess how many there are. He frequently mentions his former coworker to me. I bet she is one of them. She is after all banging tons of guys on the side too. (so he says whenever he talks about her to me). I actually asked him once if he had been with her and he laughed and said “no way”. Why talk about her then?

      2. Lori says:

        Birthdays are intimate ocassions they don’t like the ickyness of it. They don’t know how to respond and it causes discomfort. Some of that goes away when it’s not their actual birthday anymore hence the Facebook post

        He’s been with her and many more

        FOTS try and take the focus off him and put it on yourself. Ask yourself what can I do today to start getting myself out of the grips of this addiction. I hate what this guy has done to you.

        FOTS you can do this. You can but you are going to have to work at it. Please get away from this guy. I just see you slipping further and further down the hole. Please try. He is eventually going to shit you out everywhere. It will happen. Do it to him before he does it to you

      3. Lori says:

        I’m not judging you at all FOTS this is really tough and you have a deep addiction. I just want to see you trying to get better so you can find someone who can love you

        It’s ok to fail as long as you are trying

  5. Leslie says:

    So here it is. Some of your own advice plus a little. And you can also use it to escape from a narcissist….yourself and your personal narc prison. Or not. Of course staying a sad pathetic dependent is an option. Oh? Forgot about the fact that for every codependent there is a dependent. That would be you. The core dependency is yours.
    Just like you said, you have to break the addiction. You are addicted to fixing every time you become aware of your chronic fear, anxiety, and agitation. Fixing (attention seeking behaviours, other narcky fuel guzzling addict behaviours) keeps you forever trapped in the loop. You know that. You count on others to chase the fix. You chase harder than they ever do. What did you advise for breaking the addiction? Allow yourself a certain amount of time to obsess then move on. Reduce it over time.
    Coping with anxiety without a fix is extremely challenging. Your whole mind a body are going crazy to relieve the discomfort, the pain. Play loud music. Eat chocolate. Scream (by yourself). Then breathe. Slowly and deeply. Make yourself smile. Now here’s a tricky part. Don’t reach for the negativity fix in your thinking. Reframe to the positive. Repeat the positive over and over.
    Write. You’re good at writing. Write everything down that’s going on inside you. Don’t filter it. Then go back through and reframe it to the positive. Counter all negativity.
    Follow all your own excellent advice for dealing with what is in your mind.

    I have never seen a narc kick any addiction. I think you are all just cowards. You all scurry for cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, sex, anger, blah blah blah blah. It’s so bloody predictable. You all dish it out but not a single one of you can face the anxiety and agitation inside yourselves. And if you start on the path, you make it about 2 steps before you go belly up because you warp out on shame. Get over it. You did it all. It can’t be undone. But you can have a different future. You narckies collapse under personal accountability. Back to fixing. Cowards all of you. You are all cowards. Empaths are far stronger. We survive and thrive. You fix and die. Stay stuck. Stay delusional that you’re all that and a bag of chips. I’ve sailed away. I’m free. You are dead stuck in fear, anxiety, and addiction. Cheers mate.

    1. Lori says:

      While in theory this is great advice it easier said than done. Most of these behaviors for both the Narc and the Codepebdent were learned in childhood. They have become part of their personlity not just habits it’s who they are so while both may be able to cease the addiction for awhile (a narc in therapy) they will usually revert back and it is the same for the Codependent

  6. Lori says:

    lol is that before or after they stalk our profiles

  7. Valkyrie says:

    *insert irrelevant sh#t here*

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