The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 19

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12 thoughts on “The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 19

  1. Survival - Monika (Nika) says:

    This is a nice hand… I like it.

  2. Blank says:

    Debbie, my last musician-narc’s instagram has a story to every picture, that no one knows of, besides me. It is how he played me. There was always a context to what I’d written to him. The photo’s will look like normal photo’s to anyone, but there are always details, either in the photo, the songlyrics or the text that were meant for me. It was a real mindfuck. I wasn’t following him officially, just found a site where I could watch his Instagram stories. At one point he started acting ‘weird’. I didn’t recognize his behaviour anymore, there was no message for me anymore. Because of his sudden new interests I kept an eye on the SM of certain women and that’s how I found out he was dating/ involved with someone else (both posting the same Instagram story at the same time – a picture of a building abroad).
    After I told him goodbye for good, he has not posted a single picture, no stories either (this is a silent treatment), only continues to add beautiful women to his ‘friends’ list and probably communicates with those women through DM’s, so I’ll not notice what’s going on.

    1. J says:

      I had a similar experience lately where the Ns behavior on social media altered radically. So much so that I became genuinely frightened. Perhaps in the process of “borrowing” traits from fuel sources, a shift in fuel types shifts the personality as well? Just a thought.

      1. Blank says:

        J, but of course! There fake to the bone!

    2. DebbieWolf says:



      Not my last nex but the one before, he was up to alsorts..!
      I do not do social media but I found out through other means and I was absolutely shocked to death.

      Thank god the First Cut is the Deepest.
      nevertheless it took me nearly 5 years to get over what he put me through.
      I can think back now to how it was psychological rape.

      Then I fell into the arms of my last nex.
      it was a different kind of game.
      Softer.. but never the less confusing hurtful… I had to get out and I did.

      I think pain is easier to deal with when you don’t have confusion with it.
      when you have clarity you can just LIVE through the pain untill it heals.

      it’s the confusion that destroys.

      I hope that you will find new horizons.
      I’m honestly sick to death of players.

      Its kind of doable for a while all this roller coaster fiasco and then it just gets really boring…. and that’s when you don’t even know what you’re dealing with!!

      At least we are here …and this is a good thing for us right now.

      This place has sealed the door on ignorance.. we can go forward however we choose with our new tools.

      As long as we can be gentle with ourselves build ourselves up understand ourselves… allow ourselves off days…
      allow ourselves to still be the beautiful human beings we were before they met us and that we are now.

      We are literally like Braveheart now..
      they can’t take our freedom.

      1. Blank says:

        Hi Debbie, thanks for your comment. “Psychological rape’.. exactly what it feels like! I agree, pain I can handle, I could not handle the confusion, the mindfuck. I’ve said it here before, at one point, my mind completely blocked, I could not think anymore, my brain went numb, black, I can’t describe it, it was one of the scariest moments of my life. You are right about the rollercoaster, thank the universe I’m out of that and indeed, it does get boring, once you see the pattern repeating over and over. Today I watched a video of a live interview with N and I noticed I don’t like his voice anymore. That was kind of an eye opener for me, I guess it means I am getting over him now.
        “I hope you will find new horizons”. Thank you Debbie, I hope so too, for all of us. Take care xx

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  3. KittieKelly says:

    Could you explain this statement further? How does the timeline bear this out?

  4. DebbieWolf says:


    Do you mean you have a set routine of stunts that you pull, one after the other?
    Afterall I know your first name is Evil. . .
    Seriously though, a set pattern of manipulations and going through the motions literally A to Z. repeatedly with each new victim, is that what you mean?

    1. KittieKelly says:

      I’m also a bit confused by this. Please explain. The ex-Narc does not appear to follow a sequence or pattern on social media, with the exception of one or two ‘happy facade’ pictures which are years out of date as those relationships have soured considerably (although they are still hanging on by a thread). There have been no new pictures of the romantic relationship for almost two years.

    2. DebbieWolf says:


      in response to myself I’ll pick my own letters


      do-it-yourself answer.


      Hahaha…Mr Busy Pants… well it is Friday and you did say it would be Chablis today. Enjoy if so…
      Today could even be your birthday for all any of us know…if so .
      🥂 …Hope you get all you need.✔️

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