The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 21

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22 thoughts on “The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 21

  1. WriteItOut says:

    It’s definitely a weapon and a narcissist will bludgeon you with it, use it for threatening exposure of whatever lies they want to spread about you. It can also be so targeted and underhanded that only you know what they’re doing.

    It’s also a good weapon against them. They lose their minds if you best them on social media.

  2. Survival - Monika (Nika) says:

    Sometimes Social Media really sucks, with Facebook being at the top of that sucking-list. I am only on there because there are several important people in my life in whom I follow. But, other times Social Media can be cool.

  3. Persephone In Sunlight says:

    It is my weapon now!
    Narcsite articles only posted to the N’s facebook page
    . And I accept all friend requests for him. ; )

  4. MB says:

    Tammy, where are you? You’re on my heart. Sending love.

  5. Gal83 says:


    Why would a narcissist who discarded you and got unfollowed by you on social media suddenly started to “like” your photos with a new BF? He was trying to hoover me a few months ago but I didn’t answear to his texts so we are not “friends” or anything like that.

    Is it a sincere act of kindnes “I am happy that you are happy, you don’t have to no longer worry” or a mind game?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Triangulation. Also see the blog article ‘Derailed’.

    2. WriteItOut says:

      It’s never, ever that they’re happy for you. No such thing with a narcissist.

  6. Rachel says:

    Everytime I read the narcissist’s social media laws, I feel so relieved that that’s not my problem. I can recommend everyone to delete their accounts, and enjoy the company of real friends. You may not have 2000 friends in real life, but at least you’ll discover who your real friends are. Real people with flaws. Not just the fake, happy, super succesful people with their annoying spiritual quotes. And the hastags. Yikes. #lovemyfamily #onlyhealthyfood #havingablast #fitgirl #loveofmylife
    And of course, without social media, the narcissist’s manipulations will not influence your mental health. It’s all fake. If everyone would read a book or practise sports instead of waste time on Facebook, the world would become a healthier place. (And no, I’m not 70 years old, I’m in my mid thirties and I enjoy the internet, I just skip the fake shit, and try to enjoy life offline)
    HG, I like the pictures you choose for your articles and book covers, they’re always perfect. I really like this one. Do you find them in some database, or you have them designed especially for you?

    1. K says:

      Hello Rachel
      You may find these comments helpful.

      Mandy K
      SEPTEMBER 6, 2018 AT 04:40
      I’m sure that this has been asked and answered, but who does your artwork/photos? They are absolutely breathtaking.

      HG Tudor (question of trust)
      SEPTEMBER 6, 2018 AT 18:07
      I describe what I require, a minion offers me choices, I make the final selection. Pleased you like them.

  7. Sarah says:

    Not very social then is it?! 🤭

  8. OhSiberian says:

    Love this image and metaphor, having engaged in this activity myself from time to time – the actual ice fishing, I mean. The power fishing of your kind ruins the ecosystem of healthy relationships.

  9. wolvesinwalden says:

    That you can’t actually delete your profile on Failbook, only deactivate the page, drives me a bit nuts for this reason. Deactivation isn’t enough, particularly where user privacy is concerned, but it isn’t as if the company gooons give the slightest of fucks on the subject of provacy. Reactivation is way too easy, having to rebuild a profile in full is more incentive to not have one at all, at least for my level of laziness.

    Every hoover I’ve experienced has started over messenger. Block ’em on one profile, two more replace the blocked account. If you’re not on the court, the ball isn’t as likely to be thrown your way, so off-court seems like the place to be.

    1. Rachel says:

      You can permanently delete your account, just google it and follow the steps. They offer you to deactivate, just in case you’ll change you mind. But it is possible. And you can save a copy of your data before deleting. 👌🏼

      1. windstorm says:

        You can also just delete the FB apps on your devices. The account is still out there, but you never see it. Sort of like how the narcs out there when you go no contact, but you don’t see him.

      2. wolvesinwalden says:

        Oh snap, thank you for the info, Rachel! You’ve been a huge help. I’ve deleted it now, damn that’s a relief. And a nice way to start the week, to boot. 😁

        Hopefully my family and friends don’t notice anytime soon, I don’t want to have that guilt-ridden conversation. They have a phone, I have a phone… we could, like, communicate directly. Sure, deleting the whole account to avoid one person seems odd and probably a bit dramatic and drastic. I’m alright with odd and can’t deny there’s a dramatic streak in me. Social media isn’t good for my mental health for a number of reasons beyond only dodging unwanted attention, so I’ve intentionally avoided it unless prompted to check something specific for years at this point. Again, thanks for the perma-fix.

      3. Rachel says:

        That’s great, wolvesinwalden! I deleted my account almost 8 years ago (only been on Facebook for a few months) and it felt like liberation day, ha ha! It’s not like you can’t stay connected to family and friends, they can easily visit, call or message you. Enjoy the serenity!

    2. Tappi Tikarrass says:

      Hello WIW
      You can delete your Facebook account.
      Go to the help centre. Follow the prompts. Click ‘let us know’ and it will take you through the motions.
      The cunts make it hard to find how to delete your account but where there’s a will…. I dislike Zuckerbeg intensely and all he stands for.
      Cheers TT

    3. Diana says:

      Facebook does have a way to delete your page. After you request to delete your page, they give you a two week window before it is actually deleted. You are correct, I have blocked page after page and they just keep coming.

  10. Taryn says:

    Can you please explain the different ways in which social media is used as a weapon, aside from flaunting a new relationship My ex blocks me everywhere, even LinkedIn. Everywhere except Facebook, though the only posts I’m privy to are related to technology and sometimes political. Nothing whatsoever about someone else. He denies my friend requests and made it so that I can’t request any longer. He also has blocked all his friends from my view, except the one mutual friend we have. It used to bother me because I felt he must be ashamed of me, but honestly those feelings are no more. I really don’t give a flying f@#% anymore, except the question of why does he block me everywhere else except there when he’s not flaunting some other female on his arm? It doesn’t make sense. I don’t go to his profile any longer. At this point its strictly morbid curiosity.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Taryn, if you search ‘social media’ using the search function in the menu bar this will provide you with a variety of articles which will answer these points for you.

      1. Taryn says:


        Thank you for your response. I will do so..

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