Outnumbered But Not Outgunned

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12 thoughts on “Outnumbered But Not Outgunned

  1. ava101 says:

    Hi HG,

    when I have provoked a lesser narc (because I stupidly hadn’t realised what he is at that time), and he know engages in full on passive aggressive behaviour (and also lying, blame shifting, etc.), so much that it’s almost funny (only it isn’t) – what is the best strategy to deal with him?

    Just ignoring him? Not showing him how much he annoys me? Can I shout at him? When I do the same stupid passive aggressive things, he will only get worse, right?
    When I show any reaction, it’s to my disadvantage?

    Will not talking to him and ignoring him work?

    Thank you. 🙂

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Ignore him, any reaction provides fuel or challenge fuel and will result in increased hoovering (all else being equal) or the assertion of superiority through further manipulation.

      1. ava101 says:

        Thank you so much, master!

      2. Twilight says:


        Ignoring….I remember the times I would ignore him, he would go elsewhere. Yet if he pushed the right button with me things could escalate and I was the one balancing things from becoming violent.
        I am trained in the art of welding a frying pan and not just for cooking. Anyone ever breaks into my house it will be a memorable experience for us all.

  2. DoForLuv says:

    idk if my reply got send so I try again !!,,, awwwwwwwww I could feel this all in my soul you are sweetest person ever just beautifullll!!!! my Narc Spray just came in thank you MOM haha 😀 😀 much luv

    1. Bubbles🍾 says:

      Dearest DoForLuv,
      When the “light bulb” finally switches on regarding narc awareness (some are a bit dim others are bright ….that is also a “power” urge for us
      Now and then we have blackouts (unavoidable sometimes) we forget where that switch is because were in the dark and fumble hopelessly to find it

      When we finally turn it back on … omg we can see clearly again ….. what a relief … we can now go back to doing things for ourselves again

      You ….. my lovely, have found your very precious light switch …. you are in control …. you can now go solo … or solar….it’s cheaper …haha

      If you can stay and pass on your knowledge that would be such an advantage …… because I would miss you otherwise
      You’re family here my precious….. never forget that

      Luv hugs n kissses
      Mwah Bubbles xx 😘

      Ps …my iPad is having a huge hissy fit and I can’t use half of it …. Mr Tudor will be rubbing his hands with glee …. no emojis …haha ….except one
      PPS …. narc spray, never leave home without it …I’ve bought out the supermarkets …haha

      1. DoForLuv says:

        Yes indeed thats exactly how it felt and feels . Hahaha ! You so funny .

        Yes I would miss you as well you are light and beautiful soul filled will love is felt from a longgg distant and thank you for the wise and kind words !! I’ll most definitely stay And I’ll never forget .

        I hope your IPad will work act right again I love the emojies LOL … I’ll work on my english and typo’s 🤣🤦🏽‍♀️ .


  3. DoForLuv says:

    I had to make a return to your blog . Just to read again about this all . I had a good break so I could see the “normals” again . I was narc spotting obsessed haha ! . Now every narc experience became a blur to me . I can’t even imagine anymore how and why I was willing to take my own life because of the abuse they were applying on me . And even the brief return off my Ex couldn’t stop my growth .

    But your work did help me HG . I was just observing him he was the only narcissist left I couldn’t resist. But that changed quickly . At first I tried to keep him satisfied because now I know what he his funny how that didn’t work either . Maybe he knew I was acting to keep the “ creature“ in place just like him .

    Now I feel free without that heavy guilt that I should love them all Unconditionally .

    DoForMe Bubbles ; I will never forget that dear Bubbles 🙏🏾❤️

    1. Bubbles🍾 says:

      Heeeeeey ..gorgeous DoFoLuv,
      Did someone mention my name .. 😱…. 😂

      You’re comment has made me ecstatically happy, over the moon and I’m jumping up and down for joy (any more jumping and I may have a wee accident .. 😂)
      Sooooo proud of you my lovely … amazing achievement
      The only one to luv unconditionally is yourself sweetheart
      Your journey has begun my precious …. may it be safe and narc free
      I have happy tears for you and you feel like my little girl has grown up and you’re leaving home ….make sure you brush your teeth and keep warm and always keep a spare bottle of narc spray in your handbag 😂
      Many mwahs and hugs to you brave and courageous one
      Please bob in and say Hi (highly likely I’ll be still around…much to Mr Tudors dismay…. haha)
      Hugs n kisses sweet pea
      Luv Bubbles 😊🤗😘xx

      1. MB says:

        Bubbles: “narc spray” made me laugh!

  4. foolme1time says:

    I learned so much from this book! At times I wish my narc was still around so I could use the information in this book against him! He would of never seen it coming! Such great insight! Thank you HG for the help you’ve given so many! 😊🌺

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you for reading.

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