One More Chance



What harm could it do to give us one more chance? Like the gambler placing another bet in the hope of winning big, there is everything to gain and not much more to lose really is there? You are down amongst the dead so what could possibly go wrong? Besides, imagine if you did not do so? Imagine that you pass up this opportunity and somebody else takes it? Somebody else benefits from all of your work and they get it right. They do and say the right things so they enjoy the joy of the golden period but this time it lasts forever. It would be like allowing someone ahead of you in the queue and they buy a winning lottery scratchcard from the selection you had your eye on. So near, yet oh so far. Imagine the crushing dejection of knowing that you had it in your grasp but you failed to fllow through and seize the moment. How could you live with yourself thereafter if you failed to act on this glorious chance?

You don’t want to let anybody else gain the advantage do you? Not after everything you have done to steady the ship, to keep things afloat and to steer a sensible course through hazardous waters. You are owed that chance. You are entitled to that magnificent outcome and here it is being offered to you. All you have to do is take hold of it and give us another chance to make things right. Yes, it has failed in the past but did Robert the Bruce give up in his attempts to defeat the English? No he did not, he kept on going didn’t he and I know, I just know that you are made of similar stuff. You have that indefatigable spirit, that is why I hcose you. I knew you would not give up. Too many people let me down, but not you. You aren’t going to do that are you? You have your eyes on the prize. You could not live with yourself if you knew you had given up the chance for us to return to our golden period once again.

I know some people say that past behaviour is the greatest indicator of future behaviour but they are just bitter because they lacked the capacity and the ability to make a change. They wanted to make a difference but they didn’t have the goods. They didn’t have the gumption, the wherewithal, the necessary to do the job. You have. I can tell. I know these things and if you just believe in me this one time then everything will be different. Just one chance. That is all that I am asking for. It isn’t much, not after everything we have been through.

You aren’t going to throw away everything that we have built up are you? I surely do not think that you will do such a thing. You are not like that. You believe in us and you are the one who holds the key to a magical future. Just place the key in the lock, turn it and open the door to me. I will be there waiting. I have all the time in the world. I am not going to go anywhere soon if I know that you are going to continue to believe in me, but if you are going to give up, even though I don’t think you will, well, there are plenty who will take your place. No, I haven’t got anybody lined up, I am not saying that. I am just pointing out that someone as special as me, well, there are people who would be interested, that is all that I am saying. But let’s not talk about them. That is just something which might happen if you make the wrong decision. Not that you will. You are good at making decisions. I know that. You chose to be with me. Oh I know I made it seem like that I came after you but let’s not delude ourselves here, you are the one who made the decision. After all, you are in control of your own destiny aren’t you? I just offered myself to you, you had to make the decision to make that step towards me and you did and do you know why? Because you know. You know that we belong together. You know how we feel about one another. Yes, I know there are difficult times, but that is just what life throws at us but you and I, well, we are better than that aren’t we? I am not trying to influence you because I have ultimate faith in you to do the right thing. You know your own mind. All I am doing is asking yourself whether it is worth throwing away all that we have, all that we can have, just because you will not give me another chance?

I know you are someone who believes in the power of love. I do too. Love is all that we need and what you and I have, well, nobody else really understands it do they? I know what people say about me and you being together, but it is all jealousy. Are you going to let the outrageous comments of others deny you your happiness? I would not think that for a moment you would conceivable allow that to happen. You are your own person. I have always respected that. I gave you what you needed. I know at times I might be a hard task master but I did it for us because it is only when you are truly and sorely tested that you can tell that it is love. Anybody can love like the books and the films. Anybody can be on top of their game when they have no worries and no concerns. A real test of a relationship is when the chips are down, when your backs are against the wall when it is against all odds. It is when somebody else interferes, wants what you have and you have to fight for what you want. You have. I have seen the fire and the determination in your eyes because I know you want me. You want us to be together. We have been tested, repeatedly, but have we not come through it? Have we not come out on the other side and we are better for it? Our love has become stronger because we have been tested and we survived that test. Are you going to let all of that go to waste just because I say some things in the heat of the moment? That is passion for you, you bring it out in me, I cannot help it that you cause these emotions to erupt from me. Would you rather me be a cold and heartless shell? Of course you would not. I am what I am and I am a cauldron which you manage to stir because that is how you and I are. Other people hurl their opinions around, I know they do, I am not stupid, I know what they say, but they do not understand you and me. They do not have what we have and they are misguided at best and jealous at worst.

So, give me another chance. It is easy and we have so, so much to look forward. There is nothing really more you can lose is there by trying again, but if you don’t you will always wonder, “what if?” and it will drive you demented not knowing what might have been if you had trusted your instinct and allowed me back.

Let’s do it. Let’s create our wonderful world again. Just you and me.

Just say yes.

19 thoughts on “One More Chance

  1. Caroline R says:

    Typo HG
    2nd paragraph, 11th line down

  2. Jane hall says:

    Been np contact since February.
    Now the divorce petition has arrived on his doorstep, he is desperately trying to worm his way back.

    Had 2 cards with 4 page letters in – I did not read them, I got my sister to scan them then I posted them back to him.
    I also have had an audio from him, telling me that
    1 – we had so much stress, that’s why things were not good. Anyone would have felt under pressure.
    2 – Read the bible, if you want to go ahead with the divorce then so be it, but I want nothing to do with it, I wont be signing any papers (don’t believe him)
    3 – He bears me no ill will. But I have turned the children against him, why would I do that? he asks. No he did his own evil work with the children.
    4 – I am his wife, I should be with him, for better for worse.

    He was sniffing throughout the audio, talking how he would need counselling, broke down in the drs office, needed antidepressants and prescription sleeping tablets. How he had broke the crown tooth and had no sleep for 48 hours and God took the pain away!!! How he is struggling and finally….

    “I will never love anyone… I loved you”

    Me suspects his recent trip to London (that he texted his daughter about) was maybe a trip to a woman??? One of his tarts on Instagram.

    I have shown the audio to an uncle and aunty and they laughed. LAUGHED.

    He finished with “I love you”.

    No you don’t.


  3. Persephone In Sunlight says:

    Biggest mistakes I ever made!

    What he said vs what he meant:

    “I will change.”
    (You are a fool.)

    “I want to be a better person.”
    (You are a bigger fool than I first thought.)

    Translated by HG Tudor

    Thanks HG.

  4. lisa says:

    HG, this is hilarious !! Not that my narc particularly used these exact words let’s not forget he’s not a greater so his angle would be more humble and victim like. It would always be How he’d Realised !!!
    The only thing he’d realised was he needed to change his tactics slightly , to regain control, which had been lost due to his usual commitment phobia , me dumping him which was exactly what he wanted so he could claim how sorry he was it hadn’t worked (the wedge) then after a silent treatment and me ignoring a few hoovers , this would be rolled out. At first you do believe it, but by , let’s say time 5 when this has been repeated !! it’s wearing a bit thin and then hopefully by then you’ve found you HG as i was lucky enough to do . Can i just add incase it helps anyone out there not to be sucked back in, when i ignored hoovers for 4 months then told him all about being a narcissist , he took it very well and was open to going to therapy , don’t be fooled by this , HG writes very accurately about this , particularly with some mid rangers . I even went along to the doctors with him and it’s all part of the game and it’s loads of fuel / attention for the victim narc, they actually enjoy it , nothing ever comes of it and nothing ever really changes . By this time i was over him and went along with it as a friend , he explained to the doctors that he couldn’t sustain feelings (strawberry ice cream) didn’t feel anything until it was too late and the one he loved had gone. His explaination was full of BUT it’s not my fault . The psychiatrist he saw with me in the room, googled the symptoms 🙄 and came up with a type of Cluster C personality type mainly OCD ( doesn’t like change) This pleased Narc very much ha ha . I found it quite amusing by this point. The first 2 years were not amusing at all.

  5. PostKryptonita says:

    Jajajajajaja NO!

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  8. Leslie says:

    There never was a wonderful world. It was all fakes. Can’t go back to what never was.

    You drag me back because I am real. You use all the sick laws that imprison my freedom to keep hold of me because you want my reality. Except you have destroyed what is me because as you said “you do too good a job”.

  9. BGbunnySusie says:

    “Would you rather me be a cold and heartless shell?” …… hahahahahahaha, this stuff is priceless 🙏😂😂

  10. candleglow2 says:

    I just want you to go away !! ” be gone demon ” ……….. then I can get back to being me FFS .. excuse language but im angry

  11. Tammy says:

    And it pisses me off that I have to go through Facebook to get to the blog. I have to use another name. But I think he found me again.

  12. Tammy says:

    And it really pisses me off I have to go through Facebook to get to the blog. And have to use another name.

  13. Tammy says:

    I may be parinoid, but there was a post from a female about being a preying mantis. It sounds like my ex pretending to be me.
    The last post wouldn’t load on this site.
    I just want Jim to leave me the fuck alone, speaking of chances.

  14. Tammy says:

    No more chances. I want peace in my life. It’s something now that I’m beginning to protect.
    And maybe I’m paranoid, but I think he’s pretending to be me. One comment I read sounds like him as a female praying mantis. He pretends to be both female and male. Trying to take over my phone, like he did last time. He has a burner and can hack phones, use other phone numbers, and take control of your phone. Fuck. I just want to keep working on forgiveness, understanding, acceptance. I want him to leave me alone.

  15. Gina Ortale says:

    No way.

  16. I ❤️ HG Tudor says:

    Just you and me and her and her and her and her and her…

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