A Glimpse of the Future

 

A GLIMPSEOF THE FUTURE

 

It is well known that our kind operate by the wearing of masks. We have learned how to portray those emotions which we do not feel. We have ascertained that in certain situations we are expected to respond in a particular way. We know that by donning a particular mask we are more likely to charm and seduce you. We are aware that maintaining a certain mask the vicious malevolence that lurks beneath can be kept in check so that we achieve acceptability and the advancement of our agendas. There are occasions when we will give you a glimpse of what lies beneath this mask. I am not referring to when we whip the mask off and subject you to devaluation. That is a purposeful and intended act on our part. I am not making reference to when the mask fractures as a consequence of the ignition of our fury and the lesser and mid-range of our kind are unable to keep the mask in place so that the ignited fury erupts and the malicious beast is unleashed. There are occasions however when we provide you with a fleeting glance beneath the mask as to what lies beneath. This will happen during the seduction period. Sometimes it is as a consequence of the effect of a particular agent, such as alcohol. Sometimes, especially with the greater of our kind, it is done as deliberate act in order to gauge your reaction. In such an instance, we tell you of what lies ahead to see if you baulk at the suggestion, or that more likely you respond in a sympathetic manner of even by way of denial.

“I couldn’t ever imagine you doing that.”

“That won’t happen with me though. It might have with other people but I will treat you better than they have.”

“You’re not like that, don’t be silly.”

“I don’t see you doing something like that, you are too nice.”

If you respond in such terms when you have been given such a warning, then this is a green light to us that we have you under our control and that you will accord with our desires and machinations. It also allows us, when we do eventually behave in the manner described down the line during the devaluation, to throw it back in your face by saying.

“I did warn you.”

“Why are you complaining? I was upfront that this would happen.”

“I told you so.”

“It’s no use crying about it now. I told you what I was like.”

“I told you and you chose to stay with me. It is your fault.”

Not only does this enable us to avoid blame, something we must achieve, it will also result in you reacting and providing us with fuel.

With the lesser or mid-range of our kind, these comments are more akin to thinking aloud. The mask does slip, unintentionally for a moment, through the explanation of a future behaviour before it is realised what has been said and the disclosure is brushed to one side, denied or passed off as a silly comment owing to drink or being tired. Why do these comments arise in such a manner from the lesser and mid-range of our kind? Is it guilt or remorse? No, because those emotions are not felt by our kind. It arises from a lack of control. The “bad” behaviour that will arise at some point is lurking beneath the surface and like a cat fighting to get out of a sack, it is always wanting to make an appearance but is prevented from doing so by the maintenance of the mask that is worn. Occasionally, through the loss of control – it may be drink, it may be fatigue, it may be through inattention – what lurks beneath makes a brief and fleeting appearance before the control is exerted once again. Here are fifteen portentous show and tells of our kind. Should you ever hear these comments you ought to pay heed to the warning that you are being given.

  1. I am a bad person really.
  2. I will only hurt you.
  3. You should stay away from me.
  4. I do bad things. I cannot help it. I always do.
  5. I will make you wish you had never met me.
  6. It will go wrong, it always does.
  7. You will end up hating me.
  8. You don’t know what you are getting into with me.
  9. You shouldn’t do this.
  10. You should leave while you can.
  11. This is going to turn out badly.
  12. I have to hurt people.
  13. I don’t want to hurt you, but I will.
  14. I just want to fit in.
  15. I’m not what you think I am.
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20 thoughts on “A Glimpse of the Future”

  1. I remember sitting at the breakfast table and enjoying a nice breakfast & chatting and having a really wonderful morning then after cleaning up sitting at same table over coffee and he was having a cigarette and i went to swipe a tiny speck of his ash off the tablecloth just absentmindedly and he went from happy to “wtf are you doing , i just cleaned the floor” and it was said in a very aggressive tone And his face was just so angry looking ! I was left speechless in my tracks. Then just as quick as he did that he started smiling again and said he was joking. It was the strangest thing because he had NEVER acted that way . Im guess that is the example of the mask slipping? Can you advise HG? 🤷‍♀️

  2. The cure to narcissism is the virtual death of empathism. Starve them. We’re overly emotional, and narcissists are under emotional. We both are immature emotionally, from one extreme to the opposite. Empaths are the only ones who can change or take control over themselves. I believe being an empath is better than being a narc or a normal, but only when we’re emotionally wise. We have it all, but only if we’re smart enough to stop being victims and start being emotionally healthy.

      1. Lol, that’s so funny! I think I’m just trying to figure out why narcissists default to bad behavior.

  3. Here’s a classic for you: “I treat my friends and loved ones worse than I do strangers.”

    Oh, if only I’d known enough to believe her.

    I got hoovered by the way! Not too bad at all… She talked about herself, her kids, her pets, asked basically no questions and scooted along before her mid-ranger caught on we were talking and got irritated. She knows I’m good for a quick hit of positive fuel but something’s off about me now since I don’t bite on bids for negative. The poor little hungry vampire…

  4. I am reminded of an evening that I spent with a very drunk and tired Narc Friend. He was rolling his eyes at me for how pathetic I was to not walk back to the hotel in the dark and refused to accompany me. He also told other people in the pub about how he used to bullshit people at work until he realized (from watching other people, of course) that there was no shame in looking up answers he didn’t know. The mask slipped that night, and like the empath I am, I made excuses for it.

    The next morning he cheerfully pretended it didn’t happen.

    1. Michelle
      Eye-rolling is representative of contempt and it is done to provoke and this is a nice example of gas lighting: the next morning he pretended it didn’t happen.

      You shouldn’t have to walk alone in the dark; I would have accompanied you back to the hotel.

  5. HG,
    Yes, I heard some of these. To my empathetic self it was a cry for help. My calling… to love and fix. Surely they didn’t mean it! They would never! They just wanted to be loved!
    Wish you had offered this info several years ago. So thankful you do now.

    1. My mistake.

      Maya Angelou: “”When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

      Big difference.

    2. Hi Empath,

      I believe Maya Angelou wrote, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” I certainly wish I had…

  6. I ignored him for 5 days I knew he would contact me because thats the max for him . First he started off kindly but since i didn’t reply in 1 sec he was ready to argue about how much he want to be with me but I’am to busy for him . To telling to forget about all this and still trying to get a invitation as stupid as I’am I did and
    he keep on telling me sorry and that I deserve better and shouldn’t wait for him “Its not you but me” . When I said thats why I leave you alone
    him : not be mad at me .
    Oh god!

    Haha what a mess !

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