Ten Seductive Sentences Used By The Narcissist



The Perfect Ten Sentences of Seduction

What is really meant when we say these words.

1. I love you and I always have

My need to seduce you is considerable and therefore I will use language which will appeal to you and be so outlandish that it will blow you away. I do not actually love you. I do not love in the way that you do. I understand that the closest I come to it is infatuation. I am not in fact infatuated with you but more precisely with what you can do for me. My needs are paramount. Yours are largely irrelevant. I write irrelevant because I do take them into account during the seduction but after that they are thrown to one side. I love the fact you fuel me, allow me to steal traits of your for my own use and you give me shelter, meals and money.

2. We are soulmates

I know you are a big believer in emotional concepts such as love, spirituality and the soul. I need to tap into that and I need to do so quickly. I want to suggest that our love goes beyond this earthly plane on which we stand and it is something all the more ethereal and noble. That ought to impress you and cause you to become bound to me. I am not your soul mate, I am here to steal your soul because I do not have one.

3. I have not loved anyone like this before

There will be half a dozen willing witnesses who will testify to the contrary. In my world however I have deleted them from my mind (except when I fancy hoovering them and triangulating them with you for some extra fuel) and there was nothing like what I feel for you now. They are defunct and redundant, an unfortunate reminder of an abuser who trapped me. They do not matter now, you are all that matters to me now, your fuel, to be accurate, is all that matters to me now.

4. I want us to be together forever

There is no want about it. We are already locked together forever. You may not think this and indeed somewhere along the line you will want to escape me, although quite why that is when you are the problem, is beyond me. Anyway, that is for later. Right now you have agreed (although you will never recall having said such words to that effect) to remain my property for the rest of your life. This means that everything you own, have and are now belongs to me and I will deal with it in whatever fashion I see fit. I will use and abuse you over and over again as this is my right. Just when you think I have disappeared I will be back more. This is a life-long covenant.

5. We have so much in common

What a wonderful occurrence, such serendipity that everything you like I like as well. Even better, all the things that you do not like, I do not like either. It as if we are two halves of one perfect person. That is exactly what I see because all I will do is mirror you. I have spent time watching you, observing you, finding out about you from friends and scouring your internet footprint in order to learn as much as I can about you so that I can present myself as mirror image. I actually cannot stand listening to Coldplay but that isn’t going to stand in the way of my replication so I seduce you with incredible speed and ease.

6. I hate it when we are apart

A rare nugget of truth here. I do hate it when we are apart but for the reasons I have made you think. You think it is because I miss the wonderful, kind, humorous and delightful you. I actually miss all that positive fuel you supply me with when we are together as you are taken in by this illusion that I have created. Moreover I hate the fact that when I am not with you I cannot control your environment and I am concerned that with space to think and breathe you may just see through what I am doing or even worse, you may listen to one of your so-called friends who will be whispering in your ear and briefing against me. I don’t want your head turned elsewhere. I want it looking at me. Always.

7. Nobody can love you the way I do.

Amazingly another piece of truth. Nobody else can love you in this way because none of it is real. This is all made-up in order to attract you and bind you to me because if you saw what I was really like (not that I would ever allow that to happen) you would run screaming and never return. Accordingly, I will love you in a way that you are unlikely to have experienced before by deluging you with desire and then nearly destroying you through malice and vitriolic hatred. Told you I was special.

8. I can’t believe we have only just met. I feel like I’ve known you forever. Let’s live together.

It feels familiar to me because you are giving me positive fuel just like your predecessor and the one before her and the one before her as well. I do not distinguish between you, not really, because you are all appliances to me which I want to ensnare and then drain as you pump out delicious fuel for me to consume. I say this though to make you feel special and because I am obviously so wonderful and brilliant you will be thrilled that someone like me wants to live with you. This will make you grab this marvellous opportunity before you lose it and then I have ensnared you.

9. I need you. I want you. I love you.

Sounds dramatic and romantic doesn’t it? Makes you feel as if everything is focussed on you and I could not live without you. Notice how many times I used the word “I”? That’s because this is all about me and nothing to do with you save for what you can do for me. I really mean that I need your fuel, I want your fuel and I love your fuel.

10. You have saved me.

Yet more drama straight from the romantic handbook. I know your type. That is why I chose you. You like to fix, heal and save. You will have plenty to do in that regard, believe me, but that will come later. For now what I really mean is that you have saved me having to look anywhere else for fuel. Time to feed.

8 thoughts on “Ten Seductive Sentences Used By The Narcissist

  1. Santa Margiotta says:

    I have been studying your kind for a few years and what I’m hearing is that you do love but just in a different way, without loyalty, honesty and commitment because that is what you think LOVE. Don’t fool yourself, you do love!

  2. Sara says:

    H.G., so do they just jump from one fuel source to the next and back and forth between them all etc until they die? They will never have long term relationship but will spend their life always searching for fuel, manipulating, cheating, lying and feeling empty inside?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      There can be long term relationships,yes, but not in the sense you would regard them and certainly not in a sense that you would regard as healthy or beneficial. Others of our kind ‘jump around’ as you state.

  3. Mary says:

    Not sure where to post this dilemma, but it involves seduction so here goes…. I’m concerned that a close friend has possibly been seduced by a narc. At first, he didn’t seem like a narc, because he didn’t pursue her heavily at first, also he is older and has not been known to have any relationships except one in his youth. They developed a friendship first. He has several female friends and she is fine with it because she has strong friendships with guys too. He is able to talk about feelings and acknowledge his weaknesses and insecurities. However, once things did become intimate, he was very persistent and they spent every night together. He said “I love you” after a few months (that’s prob normal), and they discussed moving in together. She kept saying how eerie it is that they are SO ALIKE! Now, however, she said they argue and she always feels like it’s her starting an argument. She said he stays respectful when arguing, no yelling or insults. What starts the fight is he will say something that implies they are just friends, maybe in front of others, and in context she thinks okay, we ARE friends, but not just friends, and it’ll upset her a little. When she asks him, he says that’s not how he meant it, but she kind of feels like it is, then gets mad at herself thinking she’s ruining a good thing. I’m thinking if this guy is a narc, he WOULD be triggering her insecurities on purpose and then saying he didn’t mean it that way. Of course, a nice guy who is clueless could do that too, but her guy is very sensitive and attuned to feelings. He had to know, didn’t he?

    I haven’t told her I think he could be a narc. She and I talk about narcs all the time. She was a great support in dealing with my online narc. I have shared some of HG’s writing with her in the past. If I told her he may be a narc, whether she agreed or not, she would listen and not take offense. However, what if I’m wrong, but she takes it to heart and starts distrusting her guy? I don’t want to mess up something good. Just curious what you all think? Should I just stay quiet and excited for her and supportive? I don’t want to inject doubt if there is no reason for it.

  4. Joanne says:

    “I will use language which will appeal to you and be so outlandish that it will blow you away.” Yes, this is why it was so effective. THESE WORDS coming out of THIS GUY. It was SO unbelievable, which is kind of what made me believe it πŸ™

  5. Butterfly says:

    “I love the way you make me feel”. “I see myself in your eyes” “I had never met someone so complete before”, “I had always dreamt of finding someone like you ” ” we will trust each other” “this is unconditional love”… I could go ahead with 1.000 more

  6. blackunicorn123 says:

    I love the image!! Reminds me of Saint Sebastian by Gerard van Honthorst.
    Anyway…definitely No.s 2 and 3. πŸ™„

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