The Ten Laws of Narcissistic Possession


1. You belong to me.

I own you. From the moment I first engaged with you, you became mine. That is the unwritten contract that forms between you and me. I engulf you, I possess you and I subsume your identity into mine. I do not recognise you as someone who is separate and distinct from me, with your own hopes, fears and desires. You have been plugged into me from the start, my appliance which is there to provide me with fuel, obey me and accede to my commands. This mind set is what governs the entirety of our relationship and is what is behind so much of what I do and say to you. By understanding that this is how I view you in relation to me you will realise that once I have begun to entangle you, the concept of you evaporates and you become part of me.

2. What is yours is mine

As part of this unwritten contract I immediately take power, custody and control of everything which you own. Your money is mine to spend. Your friends become my friends and ripe for recruitment into the ranks of my lieutenants. Your house is my house where I shall install myself before you know it, using your utilities freely although never paying for them. It is not your car, it is my car now. I recognise no boundaries and therefore you will find that your possessions will always be sequestrated for my use. You are not allowed to own anything in your own right. From the cake you have saved for later to your shower gel, I will take it and use it. This sense of entitlement extends beyond the material. I will take your dignity, your sanity and your self-esteem too. I have no use for those things, they cannot serve me in any way but I will take them all the same. I am an asset stripper and you will be stripped.

3. Blame belongs to you

I am never at fault. I am never responsible and I am never accountable. Culpability and I are not bedfellows. I escape liability for anything and everything that I do and instead the blame will always rest with you. Even if you have done nothing wrong I will pin the blame on you as this serves my purposes to draw fuel from you, control you and denigrate you. If I forget to remove something from the cooker, it is your fault. If I forget to pay a parking ticket on time, it is your fault. If I forget an anniversary, it is your fault. Each and every mishap, failure and problem which arises will always be attributed to you because I cannot be held to account.

4. I take what I want from whomsoever that I choose

I walk this world as a colossus and it is my right  to do as I please. I will take whatever my eye rests on as I am entitled to do so. I will steal because I can. If I want something then I will take it. I will take the credit for achievements when they belong to someone else. I will pinch the partner of a friend because I want her in my bed and not his. I will park my car where I like and I am not to suffer any consequence. I will borrow from neighbours and never return anything. It is my right to take and you must never challenge or criticise me as I exercise this right.

6. What is mine stays mine

All resources that are mine remain mine and are for my exclusive use. I will not lend anything to anybody, they should go and buy their own. I will not share. I will stockpile money secretly, notwithstanding that we apparently have a joint account. I have my own shelf inside the fridge for my food which nobody else is to touch. Nobody is allowed to sit in my favourite chair, not even when I am not there. Nobody is to play my CDs or read my books. They are not for you, they are for me. My friends are my friends, yes they will pretend to like you, purely for the sake of appearance but they will never actually be your friends. Anything that is mine remains as mine.

7. I go where I please

I own the right to go anywhere that I like. I am not to be stopped or questioned as to where I am going or where I have been. I move in between and through, an unstoppable force in light of my vast sense of entitlement. I walk through doorways marked private, I attend meetings to which I have not been invited, I will turn up at your social occasions even though I was not asked to attend. I will step over the threshold, vault the red rope and penetrate all areas because I must always know what is going on. Besides, my presence is such that I am always welcome, who would not want someone as brilliant as I with them? I am access all areas.

8. I own the spotlight

The spotlight must be trained on me at all times as it belongs to me. It is for my use to highlight how interesting, witty and successful I am. It lights up my podium where I stand elevated and superior and woe betide you should you try to point it anywhere else. You must never interfere with my ownership of the spotlight for to do so will invite my fury at your transgression. It is a device that must be aimed at me so that the world is always to see me, so that I can receive the adoration which I am entitled to.

9. I owe you nothing

I owe you nothing because in the beginning I gave you everything. It does not matter that since then you have given me your all, your love, your affection, your time, your money, your dignity and your will to live. You can festoon me with gifts, run around after me, nurse me, pleasure me, support and soothe me but this is what you ought to be doing as I am entitled to be treated in this manner. I have no sense of needing to reciprocate, someone as high born as me need not deign to fawn over you, not any more, not once I have captured you and bound you tight to me. You are nothing without me, worthless and pathetic and therefore I owe you nothing, despite the fact you gave me everything.

10. You belong to me.

I thought I would remind you of this fact. It would not do to forget that now, would it?

Number 5? Of course there is a fifth rule – You are imagining things. Again.

37 thoughts on “The Ten Laws of Narcissistic Possession

  1. Sleepy says:

    I just divorced a narcissist. 18 years. He had so few possessions, I used to say he kept them all with his second family/secret apartment.

    As many here have said, he collects people, dupes he lies to.

    Anyone who isn’t buying what he’s selling he drops like hot shit. His friends are a compilation of my friends I kicked to the curb for being assholes or his old high school friends who live 4 hours away by plane. He worships his old HS friends and keeps them on pedestals because he wants to be them. He’s so jealous of them he wants to be them but he can only worship them from afar and pretend his life is as picture perfect tad he believes theirs to be. He does not care about material goods, only the currency of looking good and successful and normal.

    He keeps a framed portrait of his mother on his desk at work… his coworkers used to think *she* was his wife and I was his kid (he never ever let me meet coworkers). He would come home and complain “someone thought you were my kid again” and I couldn’t do anything but laugh.

    I laugh a lot now that he’s gone.

    1. windstorm says:

      “I laugh a lot now that he’s gone”

      I Ike this line and can identify with it. I had a coworker ask me once if I was on some kind of drugs, I was suddenly so happy all the time. I told her, “No, I left my husband and moved to another county!”

  2. MaC says:

    Has anyone else noticed that narcs tend to be collectors? I don’t mean collectors of people, but rather, of things?

    1. Lou says:

      None of my narcs (7people) collects things.

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Apart from people, Lou.

        1. Lou says:

          Indeed, all my narcs collect people as objects.

          You seem to have many collections though:
          fuel sources (appliances)
          Hair locks
          Sculptures of formerIPPSs
          Peculiar Star Wars Dark Side Objects

          Any other collections HG?

          1. HG Tudor says:

            Medieval weaponry.
            Depeche Mode vinyls.
            That’s all I am revealing – for now.

          2. Lou says:

            I do not collect anything. I would throw everything away if I could.
            I wonder how you became interested in medieval weapons. Would you reveal a little bit of that?

          3. HG Tudor says:


          4. NarcAngel says:

            Are you a minimalist?

          5. Lou says:

            No, I am not, NA. But I like their philosophy and I do try to keep things simple.
            Are you one?

          6. NarcAngel says:

            No. Not a minimalist, but I like for everything to have a place. A bit of an obsession with organization and storage.

          7. Lou says:

            NA, I have heard our house is a reflection of our mind. If that is true, that means your thoughts are well organized. Lol

          8. NarcAngel says:

            I have a lot of storage COMPARTMENTS lol.

          9. foolme1time says:

            You wouldn’t happen to have Excalibur would you HG? 😊

          10. Renarde says:

            Oh God. The Once and Future king.

            Dont give him any more ideas Fool me!

          11. foolme1time says:

            Ha ha! You got it Renarde! 🤣

          12. Bubbles 🍾 says:

            Dear Mr Tudor,
            I’m revisiting posts and noticed you collect medieval weaponry
            My son plays “medieval games” on the internet and has been doing it as far back as I can remember
            He did an essay on it at school once … the teacher insinuated he plagiarised it (he didn’t )
            My son knows his weapons ! Most fascinating I must say!
            Do you partipate in medieval tournaments or gaming ?

            You mention vinyls…. definitely collectors items (showing your age, haha)
            I used to work in the industry and have a varied collection myself
            My mother’s collection is absolutely massive …. mainly opera, classics n instrumental

            A wine collector 🍷 …. you must have excellent taste
            Collector of souls….. hmmmm, I thought that would’ve been no 1 on the list instead of wine … haha
            You certainly live up to your reputation sir, as a “Greater” would
            I look forward to your future reveal
            Thank you
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          13. HG Tudor says:

            Both tournaments and gaming.

          14. windstorm says:

            Ever toss a caber?

          15. HG Tudor says:

            Easy tiger, have you been running after those bulls again?!

          16. windstorm says:

            Ha, ha! No, my cattle chasing days are long gone, but I do enjoy a good caber toss. I love Highland Games!

          17. Renarde says:

            Creepy hands.

            See? Fixed it for you.

            You’re welcome.

      2. Chihuahuamum says:

        Hg how about collecting money lol The medieval weaponry sounds cool as long as its not torture related. Medieval time period i find fascinating.
        I started to collect vinyl. I love the crackle of records. My fav are older ones from the 50s. Eventually id love a gramophone. Ill have to keep my eyes open for any depeche mode albums im sure theyre very collectible. Now im off to ebay to have a lookie 😄

      3. Sweetest Perfection says:

        HG, I have two questions about your collections: 1) What type of wine do you collect, a specific grape/origin/nationality? You already know question 2.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Wait and see.

          1. Sweetest Perfection says:


    2. marinathemermaid3 says:

      Hoarders maybe. The cheapness factor is high.

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Not here it’s not.

    3. Bubbles 🍾 says:

      Dear MaC,
      Ab-so-bloody- lutely 🤣
      My two narcs are classic examples….hoarders personified
      Hmmm, now that I think of it, so did my step dad
      Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    4. NarcAngel says:

      Yes. StepN was an extreme hoarder and my brother (also narc) is a hoarder as well and ramping it up as he ages.

    5. Mercy says:

      MaC, yes! BS has many collections and they are kept in immaculate order.

    6. Cindy says:

      My ex is a gun collector. It made my escape terrifying.

    7. windstorm says:

      Some of mine are collectors, but more would be hoarders. My mother went as far as to go thru her tenants dumpsters when they moved out and was very proud of what she salvaged.

    8. Chihuahuamum says:

      I cant say my narc collects anything. Hes very frugal aka cheap lol he enjoys flight simulator games so possibly that. Bang on with the collects people yes that he does! Also collects character traits!

  3. Christopher Jackson says:

    Wow to all of these hg this is exactly what goes on…it is just being spelled out kinda freaky how you all think like this but nonetheless keep that most unimaginable shit coming so we can know

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