The Golden Rules of Freedom – No. 1

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A series of memes which encapsulate the golden rules that you MUST apply to enable you to build your Logic Defences, overcome the power of your emotional thinking and enable you to achieve freedom.

By accepting these golden rules and repeatedly reading them out loud and writing them down, ensuring you do so frequently, you will create one of the many Logic Defences which is necessary to bring your emotional thinking under control. Learn the golden rules, apply the golden rules and remind yourself of the golden rules. These golden rules will lead you to freedom.

When you know, you go. When you know you are entangled with a narcissist – you go. You do not wait around seeking answers from that person (seek them from me instead). You do not try to heal them, you do not remain trying to decipher their behaviour (I will do that for you). When you know that a fresh narcissist is trying to seduce you – you go. When you know that a narcissist is hoovering you – you go. But most of all, when you are already entangled and you finally learn what it is you are entangled with – you go. You have to remove yourself from the toxic influence which is maintaining your emotional infection, feeding your addiction and keeping you stuck, all aided and abetted by your con-artist in residence,your emotional thinking.

Never breach this rule. If you do, you are preventing yourself from achieving freedom. Anything which contravenes this rule is emotional thinking which wants you to remain entangled, seduced or hoovered.

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21 Comments

  1. Hello again. As promised, I’m back to share my synthesis of some BIG ideas that engaging with your psyche through your work inspired deep within me.

    Let’s start with the pleasantries a la Empath. This article is superb. It leverages your clean prose and your sharpened intellect’s capacity to see the truth functioning in different contexts. Your command of your skills is impressive.

    Not much impresses me intelectually speaking.

    So when I praise, I intend it to convey an authentic admiration of another’s mastery of the skills needed to execute their calling. Dedicated craftsmanship is something that never fails to inspire awe in me.

    The way in which you combine your mastery of language and a deep understanding of your audience is fucking brilliant!

    I’m gathering that you had access to academic institutions with high standards of rigor. It shows in your work and the depth to which you grasp a complex system of systems.

    It wasn’t until I met an equally brilliant and skilled cerebral narcissist with strong empathic skills that I ever felt truly challenged by your type. Quite frankly, the other types and levels are mentally weak and therefore almost boring and overly exhausting to make it worth engaging.

    I came to your material as a Zenith Empath, but that wasn’t the entire truth of me. There was something in your material that I needed to learn to gain a more comprehensive, complete picture of me and my calling.

    I’ll spare you the mushy empath lingo and cut to the quick.

    I am not a Zenith Empath.

    I am a Lieutenant Empath and you are a General Narcissist.

    There is a piece of the battle you aren’t getting because your view is myopic.

    It’s not my duty to spar with you to widen your view. It is my duty to point you in the right direction if your passion for the truth nudges you to seek it.

    So the message to you is: If you want to truly free yourself from the forces seeking to control you for once and for all – find the best Jungian Analyst you can afford, use your skills to measure up whether that person’s intellect is worthy of your attention, and you will eventually see where the battlefield truly is and your rather influential position in it. It will blow your mind. The complexity and depth of the root of all truth is quite frankly orgasmic for a superior intellect. It’s the mental equivalent of a complex piece of classical music.

    I am honored to have had access to your psyche and so grateful that our mutual passion for linguistic gymnastics enabled the connection. It was a wonderfully enriching and validating experience.

    This will most likely be my last communication to you. Even though I never met you nor had any bidirectional communication with you, I cannot deny that you are an important figure in my journey. As such, I appreciate and respect you. H. Tudor, from the bottom of my mushy empathic soul, I wish you the BEST.

    Respectfully,

    Lt. HP

    1. It never ceases to amaze how people can write/talk so much without actually saying anything…

      1. Abe! Welcome back! I am glad your back, I hope whatever it is you were doing was most enjoyable. 🙃😊

        1. foolme1time, I’m glad to be back!

          How have you been?
          Did you manage to deal with those issues you mentioned a while ago? Everything settled now?

          It was enjoyable and I could relax away from everything, although not completely narc-free (not my Nx, but still). Dealing with them – easier and quite satisfying now that I know what I know. I was really calm in situations which otherwise would have consumed me quite a lot.
          I also had the occasion to notice myself attracted to some female ones, really scary at some point, because I realized how powerful and awkward this thing can be with the “right” ones. Frustrating… I think now I can stay out of trouble though, and it’s easier as a man because women generally don’t engage casually and persistently. Instead, they tend to retreat or keep a somewhat passive stance (narc females being mostly MRNs) once you give them the cold shoulder. A man does not need to be rude to be repellent, just politely ignore and they’ll keep the distance.

          Another good thing happened recently – I ended my visits to the place where I knew she can come up any time.
          So it should be quite hard now for her to meet me anymore.
          Feels good, it’s similar to blocking her on my phone.

          1. Abe,
            I’ve been good, thank you for asking. I will be working with HG on the issues I have been having, it seems I tell everyone else how he can help them thinking that perhaps my issues are more then he can handle, I couldn’t have been more wrong. So now I’m sure with him by my side, all of my issues will be taken care of.

            I was happy to read that you enjoyed yourself and was able to relax. I’m also very happy that you decided not to go back to the place your ex also goes to, although that doesn’t mean she will not try another way to hoover you.

            You spoke of your attraction to the wrong ones, that is me in a nutshell but I know this about myself now and will always have to be cautious of my surroundings.

            I did have to smile when you said a woman generally doesn’t engage casually or persistently, have you not been witness to some that come on here seeking to attract HG. Lol. Some of them have been pushed away by us and also HG himself and they still persist. I am not a narcissist but I am a woman and I have on many occasion been quite persistent. I can laugh about it now because I understand that I do these things and why ( thanks to HG ) but it was a hard lesson to learn.
            I am just very happy you are back on the blog safe and sound. 🙃😘

          2. Well, sometimes it’s good to follow our own advice… 🙂
            I wish you good luck, FM1T!

            As for the persistent women – I was thinking more about first time meeting a woman.
            I think they don’t tend to be “hunters” from the beginning. Maybe later, after we get to know each other a bit and they see the interest is mutual.
            But, in general, I don’t find persistence attractive in women. Either I reject them, or maybe I just don’t notice.
            Anyway, don’t give too much value to my observations – women don’t hit on me much, so I have low experience in this area.

            I’m not sure exactly what I find attractive in a woman. Beauty is attractive (to any man I guess), but it’s not the main ingredient for me. There has to be some beauty (of course), but I think most important is the woman’s attitude, self-conscious and self-assured, open, relaxed, playful, with a good sense of humor.
            I think not all narcissist women exhibit these. Those who don’t, are just as annoying to me as a narc man.
            An empath woman with the qualities above also adds a certain vulnerability and kindness to this mix, which really makes them irresistible. More dangerous than a narc, heheh. Very few of these though, and they usually have a more cautious attitude, so the risk is really low for me 🙂.

            Again, take these observations with a grain of salt, I am just making small steps in recognizing narcs and empaths, and maybe I get them wrong sometimes.
            I just know there are certain females which attract me quite a lot, and I am now really wary around them.

          3. Abe,
            I am so glad you are back. You always make me smile with your comments.😊 I understand about the small steps when referring to empaths and narcissists, this has always been the hardest thing for me to do, until it is to late. Lol. That is why in the early stages of you and I corresponding I made the comment“ Does anyone else notice red flags!” That was done not just because of comments you had made but also because of the attraction I had started to develop for you. Myself being one that has always been attracted to narcissists had me wondering if you were one, this is one of the many issues I have to consult with HG about. At that time I was to embarrassed to confess that to you, but now knowing you do have an understanding of how we are all affected differently by are ensnarement with narcissists, I feel better revealing this to you now. Have a wonderful day Abe! 🤗

          4. You don’t know me, FM1T… What I said about HG some time ago is valid also about me.
            We only interact here, on this blog, and it can be misleading.
            I’m not saying I am deliberately trying to be misleading, but what we write and most importantly what we do NOT write here, can be misinterpreted or overlooked.

            My logical analysis about myself says I am not a narcissist. I can count many times when I acted as if I had empathy (but also times when I acted as if I had none).
            However, I am not putting this aside because, if I am a narc, then I would not be able to see it. I just decided to no longer think about it. If I am one, so be it, there’s nothing I can change anyway.

            I am not attracted to you (like in a romantic kind of way). But I feel happy when we discuss though. I feel warm in my heart. You make me smile and sometimes you also put a few tears in my eyes. We could have been good friends IRL, maybe.
            Sometimes I also think you overreact (not with me necessarily, but when I see your comments to others). Like being over-compassionate or something. I don’t understand, but I accept some people can be like this.

            A good day to you too, FM1T.

          5. Abe,
            Haha, I don’t feel that way anymore ( the attraction romantic ) you see I am so conditioned throughout my life that physical attraction whether I wanted it or not always played a huge role. Now I am like you, I like corresponding with you, you make me smile and laugh at times and I agree we would have been very good friends IRL, writing that put tears in my eyes. 🤦🏼‍♀️. Which brings us to my over abundance of feelings and emotions, which is something else I’m learning to control, although I have always been very compassionate so this will be very hard for me to do.

            Btw Abe, I thought you would like to know that narcissists do not get warm feelings in their hearts ( unless it’s caused by heartburn ) they also do not have genuine smiles caused by feelings or tears from a simple written comment. They are all empathetic traits my friend! 🥰. Do not ever loose the few narcissistic traits you have, they keep you safe and are also a part of what makes you so very special.
            Talk to you soon Abe, take care! 🙃😘

          6. Oh, I am quite sure a MRN would be very good at rationalizing self-pity and fuel as tears and warm heart or happiness…

            It’s good we put this romantic-attraction stuff aside.
            We shall then proceed casually, as if never mentioned, haha 🙂

          7. Abe,

            You have caused me to have a lightbulb moment with your last comment. When you wrote about a MRN being able to rationalizing self-pity and fuel as tears and warm heart or happiness. I don’t think I fully ever understood the part of the MRN not knowing what they are, and I think I’m still a bit confused. So are you saying that a MRN reading a sad comment about myself to another reader or to the MRN would cause them to tear up? Or is it if I would write something sad and heartfelt to the MRN that would cause the tears? I would have ask HG but he would not have known what comments I was talking about, I confuse that poor man enough already! Haha

          8. 1. The MRN thinks he is happy because of the effects of fuel, but he is not. He does not realise what it is.
            2. The MRN who reads a sad comment on his own, would not tear up because
            a. He has no emotional empathy ; and
            b. His narcissism’s cognitive empathy would regard it as a wasted act because there is no fuel to be gained (he is on his own).
            3. The MRN who watches a sad film with say his IPPS, might tear up, not because he feels emotional empathy for the people in the film but his narcissism’s cognitive empathy determines that he should cry because this will provoke a reaction from the IPPS (Oh sweetie, are you okay?) and he gains fuel (and turns the IPPS’ attention away from the film to him) . The MRN does not and cannot know what he is really doing, so his narcissism ‘lets’ him believe he is sad because of the film which makes it all the more convincing to the IPPS so the fuel flows.

          9. Thank you HG. I had one and two, number three where you write the narcissism let’s him believe he is sad, has me confused but I’m sure I’ll figure it out eventually. Thank you again.

      1. NA

        I was so happy to see that Abe was back, I forgot all about the pretentious persons comment that was written. Lol

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