Your World In My Eyes



I want you to look into my eyes and there you will find yourself. You will see everything that you have ever desired in my eyes. Every hope you have will shine from my eyes, everything you have every wanted will be visible to you. However, you will not look on the ordinary version of those things that you covet. You will see the enhanced variety, the shining and gleaming types of those things which you hold dear. I want you to stare deep into my eyes and focus on what you find there. Allow yourself to become absorbed by those deep pools of desire as you begin to lose yourself. It is only natural to want to fall into what you see, to let go of those constraints and inhibitions so that you become consumed totally by what you are looking upon. No harm can come of it for you are only staring at the very things which matter to you. Honesty, humility, humour and desire. Integrity, values and passion. Everything which you regard as a virtue can be seen in the world that I have created in my eyes. What you tell me, both directly and indirectly, will invariably come into your view within a matter of moments. It is like a far flung barren planet which has been discovered by intergalactic explorers who commence terraforming of the planet in order to make it habitable. Everything you want becomes a reality as they are formed in this world right before you. The interests you have appear; the places you enjoy visiting come into view and the events that you like to attend flare up. You are hypnotised as this wonderful world forms in my eyes, all generated by you although you are so taken by the process and what you see that you do not realise that all I am doing is taking the materials that you are furnishing me with and replicating all those things that you want to see. I am skilled in ensuring you tell me everything about yourself to add to all the preparatory work that I undertook before I made my move. Like ingredients in a particularly delicious cocktail I combine all of these things which matter to you and weave my magic to create a drink which you will never want to stop drinking. It is intoxicating and invigorating, an addictive concoction that once you have taken your first sip you will continue to draw deep on. You have no chance to escape because from the moment I cause you to look deep into my eyes I show you all the things that you want. I show you the world where you are queen, where nothing will ever hurt you, where your true worth has been recognised by me. This world is perfect. Everything is in its place and accords with your values. You ever stop to question how is it that I have been able to create this world so accurately and so brilliantly. You do not query how this creation is so magnificent because it is everything that you have always wanted. From the fairy tale existence you promised yourself as a young girl through to the correct treatment that you deserve as the decent person that you are, everything appears on this world which I have tailor made for you. It is captivating, mesmerising and alluring. You want this world more than anything you have ever known. You want to be absorbed by it and to fall deep into its fabric, cossetted by the security that it provides. Nothing goes wrong on this world, it is a clear utopia and best of all it is right there before you. All you need to do is maintain my gaze, letting yourself fall deep, deep into this marvellous world and everything will be alright. Everything will remain wonderful.

What you never realise is that this world will be consumed in an instance. In just one blink, this utopia will be obliterated and it will be as if it never existed. The dark inky pools that are the reality of these eyes will devour this created world, erasing it just as readily as a black hole consuming a planet. Once again the darkness will take hold and annihilate the fabrication which you held so dear. Even when this happens you will go on searching though. You will stare deep into my eyes, trying to find this world again amidst the ink-black darkness. There is no light that can shine any longer which may just happen to illuminate where this world has gone to. The darkness is absolute because it is the darkness that is the reality. Not that it will stop you trying. You will keep looking and searching, trying to find the perfect world once again, hoping for it to emerge into the light once again. You will keep trying and that is why we show you the world in our eyes.



  1. Interesting comments, y’all. I’ve been mostly away for a few weeks and was wondering where the action was.

    Those who speak of dullness – I was where you are about a year ago. It took something real to jerk me out of it because it is just a fantasy and to be honest, narc would get dull too – after all, how exciting can someone so predictable with his silly hoovers and facade be after awhile? And then I began to heal. I’d say out of everything I did during the healing process, including dating, the one thing that shifted me entirely was travel.

    To those of you who wonder where life’s excitement is, but who don’t want to cheat on your partner or get involved in an affair with, god forbid another narc, and are maybe sick of dating too, take a trip. Travel, and not to the grocery store. Immerse yourself in a different world for awhile and you will come out of your funk. Guaranteed.

    MB, special words for you – I admire that you have stayed with your husband even though you are not attracted to him. I found your comment that maybe he is your half brother quite funny! I could never in a million years stick around but I am a commitment-phobe. Not as bad as a narc but worse than a lot of the people on here. Long marriages are a complete mystery to me so I have no advice except what I said above, to go somewhere. It won’t solve your problems with your husband but it will erase the dullness.

    SP, also special words for you – I did not know you were bi. I am not (I don’t think), though I had a bi male partner for awhile (as well as a gay male one). I am not attracted to women except emotionally, but lesbians have this thing for me. Maybe that is connected to the men with only daughters having a thing for me too. Two of the great mysteries of my life.

    Hope everyone has a good day. I finally have a chance to lie down on the sofa and do nothing but wonder if I should get a haircut (comments about that somewhere on here too) before next trip next week.

    1. SMH: I traveled too much in the U,S. growing up with my family (not for any bad reasons) all the way until I was independent after University including attending 2 different Universities in 2 different states. and then deciding to live in NYC and constantly changing apartments a lot, thereafter (common in this city though). All I wanted was to stay put. But, sometimes we outgrow a way of being, without realizing it, but the habit is still there, all comfortable and hiding out. It is time for me to travel, because I want to and not because I have to. MB, you are absolutely right and you have confirmed and underlined something that has been on my mind for a little while, thank you.

      1. PSE, I’ve always thought that travel cures a lot. We got moved around when I was growing up too and I also go through periods of needing to stay put. But like most things in life that make other people feel stable – jobs, partners, etc – staying put eventually makes me feel trapped. It kind of goes with the not understanding long marriages thing. I don’t often think things out – I just do them and let the cards fall where they may. I have yet to find a partner who tolerates my behavior. Every single one has told me that I do what I want regardless of them and it is true. I cannot even sit at the table to eat. I eat standing up or on the sofa no matter who is around unless I have specially invited dinner guests. MRN came close to understanding my restlessness, but even he was disturbed by my freedom and he never would have tolerated it in an IPPS. He described his home life as a snow globe that often felt suffocating, so he would be drawn to it, want to stay awhile, and then bust out. Of course I was outside while IPPS was inside. Talk about compartmentalization and split selves! Anyway, I am already planning my next trip (and I have one next week as well). Glad you are too!

  2. MB, I wanted to share something with you; I hope you don’t mind. Due to high emotional thinking right now, I haven’t been visiting the blog as often or paying attention to many of the comments. Of the ones that I did see, I read your comments about your recent driving experience (I couldn’t remember which article it was posted to; tried to do a quick find to send you this message but am pulled over in a random aisle at the grocery store). I wanted to let you know that I just had an experience at the grocery store that made me think of you. First, I’m sorry you had that experience. I agree with Caroline who said it reflects him, not you, and it has to do with how he handles issues in general not issues with you specifically. On this trip to the store, I was trying to get around a display and a lady had her cart sitting in the middle of the aisle. I said “excuse me” at least 4 times and she did nothing. In my head I was thinking “move your effin a**” but externally I worked my cart around everything trying not to bump her. I thought of your story and how you would have had a different internal dialogue. My internal thoughts weren’t nice, but I’m glad that I did see the comments regarding your story as it helped me realign my thoughts. I hope you are doing well!

    1. Getting There, thank you for reading. I could tell you so many of these same type stories, but you get the gist of the life and times. I have many grocery store incidents too. It is very narcissistic and rude for people to park their carts in the middle of he aisle while they talk on the phone. Obviously not you since you pulled to the side to talk to me. It does irk me and I do think in my head what a jerk they are. But rather that “inconvenience” THEM, or even say “excuse me” you want to know what I do? Please don’t judge! I go over to the next aisle and come back up to where they are on the other side to get what I need. Most of the time they’ve moved at least a little bit in case they were blocking something I need. If not, I will say excuse me if I really have to. There have been times that I’ll finish my shopping and come back to get what I needed that they were blocking. Yes, my needs really arE THAT unimportant. And really DO avoid confrontation that vehemently.

      1. Hello, MB.
        I understand how annoying it is to have people block the aisles or products! I chose an aisle no one was using (apparently not a lot of use for car items during that time).

        I tend to stand there and just wait, unless I am not feeling like standing there. Then I am willing to go after what I need with an “excuse me.” Driving is a different story. I learned how to drive in the US East Coast. I don’t flick off and do my best to ensure other drivers don’t see my frustration. I will honk though if the person is not paying attention and trying to come in my lane with me right there.

        No judgment here! I wish I could wave a wand and you would get the power to know that your needs and wants are important; you are important! One thing i am slowly realizing (sloths move faster) is that so many of us are taught to always put others first; our needs and wants are not as important (“you’re having a bad time with the heat? Oh imagine if you were homeless right now in this heat.”); and putting ourselves at any level equal to others is selfish. I read the book “Boundaries” and that was great for the short term realization that it is ok to think my wants and needs are not always selfish. Someone reminded me that one of the Commandments says to love others as we love ourselves. There is a two-part aspect to that, not just the love others part.

        On the positive side, I’m not sure if you’re an extrovert outside the blog, but I have found that grocery store conversations can be interesting! People tend to tell you all sorts of things just by the initial discussion of a mutual interest item or that initial “excuse me.” One time I was in the British food aisle at a grocery store and based on whatever it was that moment, this woman started to talk with me over chocolate covered biscuits and then shared with me about her and her husband’s life, and then shared that a sibling just died that week in England. I learned so much just because we both wanted the biscuits.

        1. GT, Yes, I am an extrovert. I enjoy talking to people, just not confrontation. Like you, I find conversations nearly everywhere I go. I am on the US East Coast too in the south. (Where ladies are polite.) I only use my car horn in instances where it may truly avoid an accident. I’ll beep lightly if somebody is backing out of a space and doesn’t see me or like you said if they are coming into my lane. Using the car horn as a weapon is a pet peeve of mine. If somebody makes a mistake or even does something stupid. As long as there isn’t an accident, I consider it a success. All’s well that ends well!

      2. I didn’t know where this was going MB, I thought perhaps you were going to say you came back and dropped a few bottles of lube in their trolley or put some of their juicy looking items back on the shelves 😂😂😂

        1. AS2016, that would have made for a better story! I agree. But alas I’m too “nice” for even passive aggressive confrontation. 😩

          1. AS2016, I’m beginning to resign myself to the fact that “bad ass” just isn’t in my DNA!

          2. MB. Please do not worry about it overly much. There is a season for everything. It is a crazy world with a lot of psychos out there. For example, I read also that one out of seven Americans is dependent on drugs, both legal and illegal drugs. So, all these people are going about their day in various altered states of reality. So, it is not the season to carry yourself in a `rambunctious` manner as you go out and about during your daily life. In short, it is not safe to be overly defensive these days. Many people are just dying for a challenge so that they can act out. Your way can save you plenty of trouble in your life, right now. Your personality is in the right season to be of use to benefit you in many occurances. Narcissists also are in their season. They can generally trounce though as many people as they can, and barely anyone thinks it is a problem. Especially in large cities. In fact, the media glamorizes this behaviour. Greed is Good, right? Yes, says The Mean Girls! Once upon a time, only rock stars and actors and athletes, and motorcycle gangs, etc. (mainly the men, of course), were winked at for their repeated shenanigans and mischief, but now women also receive the wink, and any random guy next door also receives the wink.

          3. I also wanted to say I second NA’s advice to Lorelei on same-sex-sex, although I don’t think Lorelei will want to repeat it based on her words. I find oral sex with men more work than the opposite though. And I apologize for using MB as a reply portal but the other option was Getting Out There and the poor thing was just talking about aggressive drivers, I didn’t want to give her a heart attack.

          4. It’s all good SP. I can’t contribute to the same sex-sex convo. It is interesting though. I don’t know any bisexuals IRL. I’ve never been even remotely attracted to women so I can’t relate. Carry on. I’ll look on and learn.

          5. Well you know me now although not in RL. Being bi and saying it is not easy. I think we are the most hated part of the LGBTQ spectrum. Typical things you hear: “it’s just a phase,” “how can you be bisexual if you are married to a man?” “You are really gay and don’t want to come out of the closet” “but what do you prefer?”Not to mention the many times people correlate bisexuality with narcissism.

          6. SP, I’m serious when I say I have no opinion or judgement one way or the other. You’re just SP to me. One’s sexuality doesn’t define them as a human being. My only question (or I guess it’s a comment) is this: obviously, your husband isn’t a woman so either you are squelching your natural desires or there is infidelity in your marriage. Of course infidelity is fluid for many couples and I’ve heard of threesomes, so there is that which could be enjoyable to all participants. Anyway, comment only if you want to. I learn so much here about all kinds of stuff!

          7. MB, that is a legitimate question and I can only answer from my own experience and impressions. Like with synesthesia, the fact I think a letter in a specific color doesn’t mean it’s the same color for other synesthetes either. So to me, accepting I’m bisexual (which is a term I don’t agree with because I don’t believe in gender binary, I prefer “pansexual” or sexually fluid) just means that I don’t perceive gender as a limitation for feeling attraction for someone. Rotten teeth yes, gender no, hahaha. I have also felt extremely attracted to a transgender colleague for instance. But that doesn’t affect any possibility to be unfaithful. I don’t miss being with a woman or being with a man. What I can miss at a given point is feeling wanted, valued, romanced, the mystery of the first flirtation moments, nice gifts, company … notice I only cheated once, and it happened to be with another men! So it wasn’t because I missed being with a woman. We were about to have a polyamory relationship with another woman. Not just sex. I love her and my husband likes her too and she would give anything to be part of our lives and live with us both but I realized she just was in love with me and wanted me alone not my husband and I didn’t want that.

          8. SP, thank you for your reply. It makes more sense now. Love is love. I’m glad you realized about the girl being in love with only you. That triangle sounded like a disaster waiting to happen!

          9. Sweetest my love,
            It has taken me awhile to reply to this comment since I found out about it the other evening, I just didn’t know if I was ready to do this yet? I think I was to concerned about be judged by others on here, but I’m not anymore, I don’t care what they think or what they say. You and Abe are not the only ones on here who have been in relationships with married people. I’m right there with you. You see this is what happens when you are sexually abused from the time you can walk, you find yourself being involved with narcissists time and time again. I married one and I cheated time and time again. Why? I became a co-dependent addicted to narcissists, addicted and chained to the man I thought would protect me, so there would be no more sexual abuse. What I didn’t see coming was he was an abusive alcoholic and ( as I found out from HG ) a narcissist. Whether it was to get back at him or simply to have someone want me and give me attention or perhaps a little bit of both I still cannot answer that question. I do know it wasn’t about the sex, ( even though I am quite sexual ) I used the sex and the things I was good at to please them, in exchange they were good to me ( in the beginning) and gave me the attention that I was so desperately seeking. So I do understand you SP, it’s not about the sex or whether they are male or female, it’s about the feelings you have for that person and the feelings ( if they are not narcissists ) that they have for us. You are right when you say no one else and what they think matters, it’s HG who I work with and who stands beside me and doesn’t judge, that’s something that has always baffled me , here we are all empaths, judging each other, fighting for the spotlight, fighting for HGs attention and approval, jealous if it seems someone is getting more of his attention then the other one is. But it is the narcissist that doesn’t judge or play favorites, always presenting the facts and logic that none of us seem to have. How many times has someone new come to the blog and we welcome them and tell them how wonderful this place is and how amazing the people are that are on here? We should be ashamed of ourselves for acting in this way, we should all look in a mirror and judge ourselves first before we judge anyone else. Sweetest I’m sorry for the way some people make you feel, you are an amazing intelligent woman and it’s been a pleasure commenting back and forth with you my friend. 💞

          10. FM1T, thanks so much for your kind words and for sharing your experiences; I cannot think of a more horrendous way of going through your childhood, I’m deeply sorry some pervert stole that part of your life and I am sorry that made you become a magnet for abusive relationships. I didn’t know you also were part of the club that I have just baptized as ….. Double Dirty Empath or DDE! (just made it up). Dirty … with a twist! I seriously don’t care about anyone’s judgmental opinions or about any pseudo-informed unsolicited analyses of our situation anyone here may want to throw in. I don’t even know why anyone would believe she/he has any authority to describe our entanglement, to even doubt whether we were with a narcissist, or to call us home wreckers. Last time I checked, HG was running the blog and he was the expert, did I miss something? Because I’m not willing to give anyone but HG carte blanche to define my situation. Interestingly, the hypocrisy and double morale is so obvious that sometimes it goes by without being noticed. But I don’t blame anyone in particular, it’s engraved in our society; for example, many commenters here have been unfaithful to their partners with a narc, while others have been entangled with a married narc. But I noticed it is just the ones in my (our) situation the ones that have been asked about our responsibility for the other person’s partner and have been called home wreckers. On the other hand, it is not uncommon to question the bisexual person, however, no one thinks of asking other commenters why they had sex with women in the past. I don’t know if anyone has noticed, but I talk to everyone in the blog, even the ones who are hostile to me. I have not insulted anyone on purpose, I mocked Pamela just because she was being mean to everyone and even in her case it took me a while because I sincerely liked her at first. I read and I read very well because that’s actually a big part of my job. And I’m not stupid. I have been passive-aggressively been called a narcissist, an arrogant for discussing a topic that pertains to my expertise (yes, it does, although I refuse to reveal too much info about my work here) and a person with too much leisure time. But I’m not in this blog for these people, and I’m not in the blog to try to seduce or impress HG either, anyone that has been learning how to use logical thinking would know this is the worst idea ever. I’m in the blog to learn from him, and not from anyone else. Thank you for reaching out, FM1T. You are very loved ❤️❤️❤️

          11. SP,
            You are quite welcome. As I said before it took a lot of consideration on my part before I decided to comment. I wasn’t sure if I could handle the judgment that some might have of me. As far as I have come with all of this I still have a long way to go, on some days like the past few days my ET is extremely high, I struggle with moving forward as I have been doing or simply going back to what I know. I know some do not understand the addiction to narcissists and the hold it can have on a person, I have been groomed and conditioned from a very young age by a narcissist who was just pure evil! People do not understand the addiction and how strong it is, I have just started to begin to understand it. The ones who call us home wreckers simply do not understand that no one or anything can stand in the way of being with that narcissist! They feed us lies upon lies and we believe everyone of them. They are our drug just as the fuel we feed them is there’s. Perhaps it is this addiction that causes some to seduce or impress HG? Maybe they do not realize the addiction they have to narcissists at this time in their healing, and this is what causes them to forget that he has a girlfriend that probably would not like what they are saying or doing, I just don’t know. I am learning to not care so much what other’s think of me and perhaps you should do the same thing SP, you have always been one to step up to help someone and yes you have tried to be kind to everyone on here, but sometimes even that is not enough for some. I don’t like the drama and bickering between us, it takes away from the importance of this blog and the learning that goes on here and that is a shame it really is. There have been times ( especially recently) that I just want to say fuck it and leave here and never come back to this place, the feeling of being drained of my emotions is just to much to handle. But then I receive a comment such as yours or as I’m reading the comments of others I might see someone new to the blog who is reaching out for answers and help, maybe their is someone already commenting and helping them or maybe I am the first to see them, it is at times such as this that I remember why I keep coming back. It’s people like you, Lorelei, NA, MB, Abe, and so many other’s that I would miss commenting and laughing with, it is HG and all of the time and effort not only on here but also through consults that he has spent working with me and helping me to get through all of this. Thank you SP for being the kind and honest person that you are! That love I’m sending right back to you. 😘💞

          12. FM1T, ahhhh I don’t wanna cry I don’t wanna cry… nobody is gonna judge you here. And if anyone does 🖕🏽Sometimes I think this blog is like Orange is the New Black, with treasons, jealousy, clicks… People are people so why should it be? But it is natural to have antagonistic reactions in a blog especially full of hyper-emotional participants. This sentence made me smile “forget that he has a girlfriend that probably would not like what they are saying or doing,” haha to me it’s more like: they forget that he is an Ultra Elite Narcissist Psychopath! I am sure I am not saying anything offensive as HG himself asked a member of the blog recently why would you want to get entangled with a psychopath. Some people here are clearly losing their aim. I have a very clear goal. I wanna get clean of this virus and I want it out of my system ASAP. In the meantime I have met fantastic people like you and a long list that I don’t want to reproduce here for fear of omitting someone. Don’t ever feel judged or inferior, and remember, we will always have mussels (and Paris/ the beach). HG, you may not be aware because your kind doesn’t establish attachments, but not only is this blog a floating device for all the people that are sinking in the residual waters of narcissistic relationships, but also and probably as a collateral benefit totally unintentional, it creates bonds and love links stronger and wider than any narc’s fuel matrix. We won’t ever meet in real life as we will never meet you, (hopefully) but the feelings and the bonds are there. Should we thank you for that? Thank you.

          13. Yes Sweetest we will always have mussels ( and Paris/the beach). ❤️

          14. Well, then…

            I care about you, FM1T, and I know and feel that you care about me! 🙂

            It’s hard for me to say it otherwise (maybe because I’m a man, maybe because of my cultural background, or god knows what else…)

            Don’t judge yourself harshly about finding it hard to comment here sometimes.
            You certainly have been braver than me, and I admire you for that. Seeing someone who’s been through so much in her life evolving and having the guts to speak up is nothing short of amazing. I hope you also feel amazing and free when doing it!

          15. Thank you Abe. Yes it does feel amazing to finally have worked up enough courage to speak up, I have to Thank HG for that one and the way he ( gently pushed me) to do so.
            Abe you mentioned your cultural background, I believe at times people may forget that this blog is like a huge melting pot of people from all walks of life and yes we are going to see things differently then others because of that culture, don’t you Abe? 😊

          16. “Yes it does feel amazing to finally have worked up enough courage”

            MB, where are you? Do you hear this? 🙂

            “don’t you Abe?”

            Yes, we’re all going to see things differently, and this is a good thing actually.

            I guess in this context it is understandable that it’s hard to always keep the good balance between being assertive and being (passive-)aggressive.
            However, we should strive for that and keep our eyes open for when we step over that thin line.

            Anyway, we only have control over ourselves, and this is also one of the most important lessons, I think, whether we interact with a narcissist or with a non-narc. No expectations.

          17. Abe,
            That thin line at times is almost invisible.

            I’m sure MB will be here at any time now. I believe she is out taking care of the unicorns 🦄, now that she has rescued them from HG. Shhhh, don’t tell him! 🙃

          18. FM1T,

            Damn, this time I’m really jealous on you girls here for being able to say “I love you” to each other and nobody even raises a brow or something…

            I’ll stick to “Thank you” and giving you a big hug, I hope this is less inappropriate.

          19. Abe,
            Some of the people on here are like family to me and I care about them very much. We are all so different in very many ways but all have that one connection, narcissists. For me to tell them that I love them is as natural to me as breathing. I have been with the blog almost four years to the day and some have been here with me the whole time. Commenting on here was never easy for me and there are still days that I find it difficult to do, but some on here have helped make that possible for me to do. There has never been to many men that have commented and the ones that have are not as involved as you have been, some simply ask a question or two to HG and that is the extent of it. You have taken the time to not only comment but offer advice as well. For me to love someone the way I do some on here is strictly not just for women. You should not ever feel inappropriate for caring for another regardless if it is a man or woman. Some of us have been hurt very deeply by the acts of a narcissist, being able to tell them how important they are to me and how much they have helped me hopefully will lesson some of that hurt. Abe, do not be jealous or feel that it is inappropriate to say the words that simply mean you care. So without caring if someone raises a brow or worrying about it being inappropriate, I love you my friend and take care. 😊

          20. And thank you for saying to you I’m just SP. Wait till I tell you that’s not my real name 🤣🤣

          21. SweetP
            Comments born of ignorance and in most cases born of imposed morals and societal beliefs. I’m sorry you experience that. It is beyond me why in a world devoid of much of it, why people feel the need to comment or insult anyone exchanging consensual love, affection, and intimacy with another no matter the preference in partner or label.

          22. Thank you, NA. This is an extraordinarily rare occurrence in which you didn’t make me laugh but the opposite. Just a teardrop though. ❤️

          23. Oh! I forgot this one: “Are you looking at me that way?” -No, idiot, you’re my friend. And you’re not my type.

          24. SP, I hope my comment/question wasn’t offensive. I’m ignorant when it comes to these issues and I’m truly curious and want to learn. If it was insensitive, I apologize and forgive me.

          25. MB, it was not offensive at all. Most people are ignorant about it and offensive too, implying bisexuality equals promiscuity. I have a question: if having sex with men is within the nature of most women here, why didn’t you ask any of the commenters that said they were taking a break from dating/sex whether that goes against their natural needs? Many questions I receive have a very logical answer, it’s just that heterosexual people are not usually triggered to see another angle.

          26. SP, I thought the same thing! I even typed that I could have answered my own question if I had thought it through. It’s not about a preference at all. Love is love. Your husband is your partner, you love him so you are with him. Simple as that. Overlook my hetero blinders! 😊

          27. On a funny note, when my narc found out I am bisexual, he wanted to be more bisexual. He started flirting with men on social media and hanging out with gay guys… just to prove he was the king of bisexuality. I guess that was another trait he wanted to take away from me. What an idiot. GAAAADDD what was I thinking!?

          28. Oh I would sleep with Scarlet Johansson. Don’t count me out 100%. Unshaven (just a few days) really hot cologned men though rule the day. And tall men. Sadly I’m behaving for a long while.

          29. Lorelei, I like the aesthetic part of unshaven for a couple of days, but when my husband looks like that I prefer to wait until a) he shaves totally or b) it grows into a full beard. Because it burns my skin!!!

          30. It’s really good to look at though! I only thought of it because I saw one the other day. But at least I have my dental whitening strips.

          31. Lorelei,

            “Oh I would sleep with Scarlet Johansson”

            Yeah, me too!🙂

          32. MB,

            Yes, damn, I’m really jealous now!
            I just lost my chance at sleeping with SJ… 🙁

          33. That’s the point of triangulation Abe! He only wanted her because you did ;)

          34. HG, what has happened to the gravatars? You’ve turned everyone without one into cute little monsters!

          35. In the dreams you don’t have! She is all mine. I’ll even figure out the sex thing.

          36. You all can have her, not my type at all. That is, as long as HG doesn’t show up first …

          37. Sweet P
            Thank you for sharing your heart with us.
            It’s good to have your company here.
            I imagine that it must have been difficult coming out as bi.
            Becoming your authentic self, and finding your voice is an important part of personal growth, and can be an enormous challenge, especially when family roles proscribe any deviation from who they think you are, and this from the N-parent particularly.

          38. Hello, SP.

            No worries of giving me a heart attack. Sexual acts while driving can add to aggressive driving. LOL

          39. Haha, I just thought it would be a very unrelated irruption into your thread.

      3. MB and Getting There

        Here comes NA up the aisle. I have no issue with either of you (not really you two) or both, stopping in the aisle to shop or even to chat. I do expect that manners dictate that you will pull over to the side and not stand like dazed cattle swatting flies in the centre. I also assume that as most people have some peripheral vision and can sense someone in close proximity, so do you as well. I suppose it happens, but I find it hard to believe that people can become so engrossed in the ingredients of mustard that they don’t know you are there, especially given that the carts, my shoes, (and occasionally my thighs) make noise. Therefore, if you make no move I assume you are rude, but in the event that you may be deaf , when I approach, I will pause two Mississippi’s before I wordlessly (but gently) push your cart out of the way several steps away from you and proceed on. God help you if you are on your phone. I will ram your cart forcefully with mine. I see this as you having lack of manners and disregard for others using the facility. I do not see it as confrontation, but as showing you consideration and the restraint required not to take you out at the knees.

        1. NA, you make me laugh. “restraint required not to take you out at the knees”

          I’m not so much afraid to move the cart as I am of their reaction when I do. If they have something to say about you moving their cart, do you engage or walk away?

          1. MB
            I say nothing. Most do nothing, but I have had some snort or say hey! I just keep on walking. With one particularly vocal woman, I put my fingers together like a moving mouth with my back to her and kept walking. Haha, if you are rude to me you are going to stew for a bit yourself. On the other hand, I have also come upon someone who moves out of the way but seems confused. I will ask if I can help, and on occasion have climbed up on displays to reach something for them or read if they’ve forgotten their glasses. I’m not always an asshole. Just if you are, I like to show you you’re not very good at it.

          2. NA, I like your stories. I tend to find myself helping people in the store often as well.

          3. MB
            I usually do as you do and try to go around them or go up another aisle, this morning however was a different story all together. I was in a rush to purchase a few things for a sick family member, now my nerves are shot I’m tired, it’s hot, and I absolutely hate Walmart! I go up an aisle and this women and her cart are parked in the middle of the aisle just standing there, as I approach her she makes no attempt to move over to the side. Instead she gives me this evil look, I say excuse me, she is still staring, so I try one more time, excuse me would you move your cart to the side please? She is still starring at me. That was all I could take! I pushed forward, I grabbed her cart to push it out of the way and to the side, she’s holding on to it so as the cart is going off to the side so is she and it rams into a shelf. Needless to say things start falling from the shelf, I grabbed my cart and push past her and continue down the aisle as she is bitching and picking things up that have fallen onto the floor. I turned and yelled down the aisle to her, you have a nice day now Ma’am and try to stay cool, it’s hot outside. For fucks sake what is wrong with people? That could have all been avoided if she would have just moved her cart out of my way.

          4. FM1T
            Good for you in not allowing yourself to be disrespected. Don’t start feeling guilty either. You gave them the option politely and they declined and decided to test you instead. Boundaries are necessary and establishing your line of being at the very least acknowledged is a good one to start with. Nice touch in wishing her a good day and looking out for her health. That made me laugh.