Mind Games – Part One



We love to conquer. Nowhere is off limits to our kind. Your mind is no exception to that mentality. The repeated application of mind games and the impact this had are both consequence which live long in the memory of those who have experienced them as a consequence of being entangled with us. I repeatedly state that the games are always being played. I doubt few would disagree with that statement. You ought to be aware however that the deployment of mind games, whilst always a factor in the narcissistic relationship, is not as deliberate as you may first imagine. In the case of the Lesser Narcissist, the mind games are collateral. They are a consequence of his instinctive behaviours, his reactions and pre-determined methodologies. He lacks the cognitive function to engage in the purposeful mental torment, but instead what arises as mind games is side-effect of the way that he behaves. As for the Mid-Range, well the application of mind games will sometimes manifest as deliberate but for the most part, he is similar to the Lesser and that these mind games occur as a consequence of the way he is engineered to think and to behave. It is with the Greater where the true twisted behaviour manifests as not only are the mind games a consequence of what we do, we also purposefully engage in them because we know how effective they are at achieving what we want and also because we are excellent at deploying them.

The imposition of bewilderment on a shattered and exhausted mind possesses a deftness of touch which is far superior to the brutish application of a fist to a cheek. The conjuring of confusion from the use of words alone is a highlight of the Greater’s manipulative repertoire. Accordingly, the mind games which arise from entanglement with a Lesser or a Mid-Range arise because of the various defence mechanisms those types of narcissist deploy. The Greater regards the playing of mind games as an essential part of the narcissistic relationship, one which is considered noble, important and a hallmark of his sophisticated abuse.

These mind games are varied and effective. Anybody who has been on the receiving end of them will testify as to the horrible impact that they have in creating doubt, fear, worry, anxiety, submission and a sense of helplessness. What are some of these mind games?

  1. Second Guessing. The act of making you forget about your own needs because you are conditioned to think about our needs first in order to avoid some dreadful repercussion if you do not so. You apply your mind over and over to assessing the situation and trying to gauge how you should respond, what you should do next, what you should organise, how you should look, how you should behave in order to avoid some other abuse.
  2. Pre-occupation. By making ourselves so central to your existence and the only thing which matters you find that you are always wondering about us. What are we doing right now? Who are we with? What are we doing? This does not necessarily occur just in the devaluation. As the seeds of addiction are sown during the seduction, you find your mind is focused on us more and more. This is the laying of the groundwork to have you forget about your own needs and indeed who you are as the focus of your attention becomes all about us.
  3. Mirroring. We convince you that you are falling in love with the most wonderful and fantastic person you have ever met. This is achieved by mirroring what you want in the object of your affection. By meeting this need on so many different fronts, you become helpless to falling in love with what you believe us to be.
  4. Obsessing. By engaging in the vague, the vapid and the amorphous we have you start obsessing over us. Once again the focus moves on to us as you ask yourself what did he mean by that comment? Why is he late? Why did he just do that? You look for clues which are non-existent and seek answers which are not there, reading too much into what are often innocuous scenarios.
  5. Gas Lighting. The infamous act of causing you to doubt your own reality and is invariably the cumulative effect of many different types of mind game. You end up doubting yourself and accepting our false reality as the true reality instead.
  6. Jettison. The act of having you think that you are about to be discarded. Comments will be made which suggest that we are dissatisfied with you, that we are tired of you and that we have interests elsewhere. Nothing is said outright, there is nothing concrete, but the signs are there that you are going to be discarded. Aren’t they?
  7. Jealousy. “But she is just a friend.” “How can I be having an affair when we only meet during daylight.” “You are reading too much into it.” The appearance of somebody who we talk about a lot, spend time with and appear to admire is designed to bring about jealousy in you and undermine your self-confidence.
  8. Mea Culpa. The complexity and absurdity of our behaviour means that you are unable to fathom out what is actually going on. This results in you needing to find some kind of answer in order to give you piece of mind and therefore since you have no ground to question us, you decide you must be at fault and being to blame yourself. After all, nobody gets furious for no obvious reason do they? You must have done something wrong to provoke us. It is your fault.
  9. Projection. The intentional movement of our faults and unpleasant behaviours from us to you. The accusation that you engage in the very behaviour which we undertake ourself.
  10. Character Assassination. The unmerited and savage attack on you, criticising you for any number of things; how you walk, how you talk, your hair colour, who your friends are; how you made the coffee this morning. Anything and everything about you will be attacked even though you cannot see the basis of doing so.
  11. Blame-Shifting. The defensive step of ensuring that we are never to blame or held accountable. Anything that goes wrong, any incorrect behaviour, any mishap is all down to you. You caused it, you brought it about, you made it happen. Even though you cannot see any factual basis for the accusation that has been flung your way, this will not stop it happening.
  12. Authoritative Denial. We do not just deny, we deny with such conviction, determination and authority that surely only someone who does this is someone who has to be right, yes?
  13. Gaseous Smear Campaigns. You are being spoken about, whispered about and slurs cast against your name, at least you think that is the case. You seem to be receiving strange glances and hear snickering when you walk by certain people, but you never hear anything concrete or certain. You might be mis-hearing, you might be mis-reading, it may just be paranoia. Trying to work out if you are being smeared is like trying to catch a gas with your bare hands.
  14. Silent Treatments. The staple of the narcissistic arsenal. Why is he silent? Why has he vanished? What have you done wrong? When will he speak to me again?
  15. Double Standards. We are so pleasant and wonderful to everybody else. People speak so highly of us, yet when the front door is closed we turn into a monster with you. Is it real? Perhaps you are taking it out of context and exaggerating or maybe you are doing something which causes this to happen and nobody else does?
  16. Amnesia. We deny having ever done something or said something even though you are positive, well fairly certain, okay, at least reasonably sure, we did say it. It works both ways as we accuse you of having a faulty memory as we tell you we told you last week we would be going out tonight, why can you not remember these things? Are you doing it in order to annoy us? Of course you are.
  17. Losing Your Mind. We label you as crazy, unhinged, a maniac who is need of help. Good Lord, everybody thinks it of you and we are a saint for putting up with this behaviour for so long. We tell you often, arrange for you to get help, see a doctor or a therapist and accompany you to explain to them how you are losing your marbles. Are we making all of this up in order to disturb you further, or then again, might you just be losing your mind after enduring all of this?

26 thoughts on “Mind Games – Part One

  1. Kensey says:

    “We label you as crazy”

    Well, I left him & shoved crazy up his ass
    Crazy Rich Empath

  2. kaydiva3 says:

    As a Greater, do you study each fuel source to determine which mind games will work best on that particular person? Or do you tend to use the same ones with everyone?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It is a bespoke approach, please see Sitting Target for more information.

      1. FoolMe1Time says:

        So each one is kind of made to order HG?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Each one of what FM1T?

          1. FoolMe1Time says:

            I’m sorry HG. I really have no idea why I wrote that? If I think of it I’ll ask you again,

          2. Lorelei says:

            I’m making an omelet this morning by the way. I have it all planned out. It’s gonna be like Rachel Ray on steroids in the kitchen.

          3. HG Tudor says:


          4. Lorelei says:

            What is fascinating is that my kids pediatrician is way f’ing hot and he was admittedly enraptured by my perfume. Damn. That was a disturbing appointment. Time for the omelet!

          5. FoolMe1Time says:

            No men until 2020! Hahaha

          6. Lorelei says:

            I’m well aware. Lord help me.

          7. FoolMe1Time says:

            You can do it. 🥰

          8. Lorelei says:

            Better than doing it temporarily is staying free of any entanglements because they are generally a pain in the ass. Normal people or not. F’ing headache they are. Did you know sleeping in the same room with one of them grosses me out? Or sharing a shower facility! I’m better off this way.

          9. FoolMe1Time says:

            Amen to that sister!!

          10. FoolMe1Time says:

            Why??? Lol😘

          11. Lorelei says:

            I’ve been craving it and have seasoning I am excited to try. I’m making a chicken stir fry for dinner to take to work. My culinary skills are substantial.

          12. FoolMe1Time says:

            I’m sure they are Lorelei, just like the skills you has ever when purchasing moisturizer! Hahaha

          13. Lorelei says:

            Just use Cerave (the thick kind in the tub) on your face at night. It’s really good!

          14. FoolMe1Time says:

            Ok I’ll do that. 🤦🏼‍♀️

          15. alexissmith2016 says:

            FMT – don’t apologise. It’s perfectly clear what you meant. You meant whether each of the manipulations were bespoke. Lessers and Mids to a similar extent will have a standard devil’s toolkit. They’ll use different manipulations at different times but their range of manipulations is limited and more of a repeated cycle, same manipulations on different targets.

            The greater would have a standard set of tools (manipulations/mind games) e.g. silent treatment. But then they will have a far broader repertoire to begin with plus they are capable of inventing specific ones for each individual. E.g. HG wrote an article (I forget what it’s called @K may know), where he couldn’t work out how to upset a particular gf of his. Evenutally he worked out that it upset her hugely to be asked what she was thinking (or something to that effect). So he had not ever needed to use this against someone before, but it worked on her.

            Lessers and Mids (to an extent) would not be able to think of different tactics such as this. If their standard toolkit did not work, that person would be jettisoned with lightening speed and a new target found, whereas the greater would put more effort into it assuming the person provided the prime aims.

            Well – that is my understanding anyway.

          16. Lorelei says:

            Very nice Alexis!

          17. FoolMe1Time says:

            Hahaha Alexis! I am sorry but I have no idea what you are talking about! 🤷‍♀️ I think I now understand what HG must go through. Lol

          18. Are playing mind games with me FMT?

          19. FoolMe1Time says:

            Hahaha Alexis! If I am I didn’t know anything about it. Lol.
            This all started when there was a random comment from HG on the blog today. I ask him about it, before he could answer I checked and the comment was back where it belonged. So I’m not real sure at this point who is playing mind games with whom? It is either my phone, word press, or HG trying to push me over the edge! Hahaha

        2. Lorelei says:

          Like a specialty omelet my dear! Coming right up!

          1. FoolMe1Time says:

            You understood Lorelei! I should have figured if anyone would it would be you. Hahaha

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