No Contact No Nos
No Contact is THE key to beating the narcissist.
Most people get it wrong. There are two reasons for this.
1. Not understanding the requirements of a Total No Contact Regime , and
2. The misleading effect of Emotional Thinking.
As part of the first element, the establishment and maintenance of a Total No Contact Regime means not only knowing what you MUST do for your Total No Contact Regime, but also what you MUST NOT do.
No Contact No Nos provides comprehensive information about the fundamental errors and primary risks which exist to your Total No Contact Regime so that you know what they are, how they threaten your regime and what you can do to make sure your Total No Contact Regime is properly implemented and also securely maintained.
This extremely useful and eye-opening guide tackles the weaknesses to your no contact regime in an effective and straightforward manner and is available for just US $ 5.
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First I would like to say Happy Birthday. Second, Do you think you will ever put your books on Audible? I don’t have much time for reading but love listening while I drive. Please advise and Thank you.
1. Thank you.
Yes. I used to think “how can I not talk about it?!” But I forced myself not too (at least not with anyone I didn’t 100% trust) and honestly… it’s been so empowering to not have gotten all emotional talking about it with others. I figure what’s the difference anyways? If they don’t like me… they don’t like me. I can let that hurt my feelings or I can accept the fact that most people won’t believe me and move on.
It took me quite a while to accept and understand this.
But this is fantastic advice.
You are correct and I know I increased my emotional agitation by making fun of him—but he made it so easy! I don’t want anyone mentioning him or anything to do with him to me but it’s natural they may do so. I will never speak to him again under any circumstance even if someone stands and interprets his words to me in an emergency type situation. His entire family can fuck off too. I love the ability to not feel guilty saying the phrase “fuck off.” It’s always been a hesitation for me. My kids have been exposed to enough of his behavior toward me that I don’t even need to defend my stance with an explanation. Adore your work HG!
HG—do you live in your mother’s basement?
You made my watch ding, as did FYC. It makes life worth living.
But why are these people so ‘ill’ for want of a better word? Why are they so evil to us all? Can’t they see what they’re doing, how they’re destroying lives, including children’s lives? I just don’t understand… 🙁
You may find some of your answers in these articles.
I did … thank you. It’s all starting to make sense now. Thank you so much.
Thank you … you’re right. It all makes sense.
H.G. Tudor you’re 💯 correct on calling out steps to the behaviors & comments I’d heard from those who were around me until i was forced to go No Contact w/anyone. now you’ve opened my eyes to My Part in this. i couldn’t stop my thoughts from spinning! questioning myself thru abuser’s eyes & distorted toxic views. thank you 🙏 I never knew how to share my story to those i abandoned thru No Contact, but i didn’t know how to save myself. I literally became detached from certain emotions and couldn’t identify w/any feelings nor knowledge of how to process them in healthy way. when in trauma therapy I went thru 7 months of vivid flashbacks i didn’t know were in pandora box of mine. Sadly i wasn’t counseled on how to process these painful traumas & flood of emotional pain accompanying them 😐 You’ve been huge huge help in my recovery. thank you 🙏
You are most welcome.