Why the Narcissist Downgrades
“HG, I am decent-looking, have a good job, I am intelligent, caring, fun and interesting, I dress well, I am a dab hand at cooking and nobody has ever complained about my bedroom skills and he has left me for THAT! Why?!”
It is a refrain I have often heard.
Why, when the narcissist could have you, did he go and choose somebody who is clearly inferior to you in so many different ways?
What is so good about her or him?
Where have you gone wrong?
Why on earth has he chosen her over you?
Why has the narcissist downgraded?
This gives you the answer and it will not only help you understand, it will make you feel a whole lot better too.
13 thoughts on “Why the Narcissist Downgrades”
The narc has married this really low-rent girl he’d only met on 5 occasions before walking down the aisle. She’s completely uneducated, has no career or financial stability, no interests beyond the narc, and seems needy and somewhat emotionally unstable and is, I suppose, average-looking. I’m the complete opposite of this. Yet the narc has married to her so it must be more than a Panic Pick?
Organise an email consultation and I will explain to you what is behind this action of his.
Sure, I’ve been down this route. My shock that one of my replacement was a man (who dumped him) and now a youtube stripper (who doesn’t seem to be drinking the koolaid, as I did). I’m not Asian, so I’ll never be “good enough “.
God only knows what really goes on.
Few of the qualities he valued with me, are true of the new supplies I’ve figured out he was targeting. He drops hints.
But he loses his mind when I slide on out the door. It’s very problematic with my weaknesses in this area
This is great, HG.
I often catch myself laughing aloud when reading your posts (#3 exchanges above had me cracking up). Part of the laughter, of course, is due to your natural wit. The other part comes from realizing how ridiculous a relationship with a Narc really is.
Haha Lisk! I’m amused that you were laughing out loud. I’m not certain I’ve ever used the term ridiculous more than in the past year.
Haha. This one is so humorous. I love all the comebacks in the conversations 🤣
Hmm, my Nex was overlapping so my guess he had time to select someone who meets his standards. Thankfully I have no clue who he is with, but he has always been picky about everything. 🤔
I love this one. I wasn’t discarded for her, not at all. My amusement is well founded but it gives power where power is not due. HG—have you ever gone out with an aging 80’s Miller Lite looking girl?
You cracked me up in a book—a girl used the word photogenic and it surprised you she knew the term. I think that really happened. Hilarious to have such a thought while sitting with someone!
Yep. When my ex MMRN was love bombing me he told me he didn’t like younger women and wouldn’t date them because he didn’t see them as “equal” to him. Yet while devaluing me he flirted with teenage girls and a few months ago he was dating a 20 year old. He also told me he was attracted to me because I was slender but then triangulated me with two plus size women and his current girlfriend is plus size as well (I’m not criticizing plus size women in any way, all body types are beautiful. Just saying this to demonstrate the contradictory behavior).