Ten Seductive Sentences Used By The Narcissist

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The Perfect Ten Sentences of Seduction

What is really meant when we say these words.

1. I love you and I always have

My need to seduce you is considerable and therefore I will use language which will appeal to you and be so outlandish that it will blow you away. I do not actually love you. I do not love in the way that you do. I understand that the closest I come to it is infatuation. I am not in fact infatuated with you but more precisely with what you can do for me. My needs are paramount. Yours are largely irrelevant. I write irrelevant because I do take them into account during the seduction but after that they are thrown to one side. I love the fact you fuel me, allow me to steal traits of your for my own use and you give me shelter, meals and money.

2. We are soulmates

I know you are a big believer in emotional concepts such as love, spirituality and the soul. I need to tap into that and I need to do so quickly. I want to suggest that our love goes beyond this earthly plane on which we stand and it is something all the more ethereal and noble. That ought to impress you and cause you to become bound to me. I am not your soul mate, I am here to steal your soul because I do not have one.

3. I have not loved anyone like this before

There will be half a dozen willing witnesses who will testify to the contrary. In my world however I have deleted them from my mind (except when I fancy hoovering them and triangulating them with you for some extra fuel) and there was nothing like what I feel for you now. They are defunct and redundant, an unfortunate reminder of an abuser who trapped me. They do not matter now, you are all that matters to me now, your fuel, to be accurate, is all that matters to me now.

4. I want us to be together forever

There is no want about it. We are already locked together forever. You may not think this and indeed somewhere along the line you will want to escape me, although quite why that is when you are the problem, is beyond me. Anyway, that is for later. Right now you have agreed (although you will never recall having said such words to that effect) to remain my property for the rest of your life. This means that everything you own, have and are now belongs to me and I will deal with it in whatever fashion I see fit. I will use and abuse you over and over again as this is my right. Just when you think I have disappeared I will be back more. This is a life-long covenant.

5. We have so much in common

What a wonderful occurrence, such serendipity that everything you like I like as well. Even better, all the things that you do not like, I do not like either. It as if we are two halves of one perfect person. That is exactly what I see because all I will do is mirror you. I have spent time watching you, observing you, finding out about you from friends and scouring your internet footprint in order to learn as much as I can about you so that I can present myself as mirror image. I actually cannot stand listening to Coldplay but that isn’t going to stand in the way of my replication so I seduce you with incredible speed and ease.

6. I hate it when we are apart

A rare nugget of truth here. I do hate it when we are apart but not  for the reasons I have made you think. You think it is because I miss the wonderful, kind, humorous and delightful you. I actually miss all that positive fuel you supply me with when we are together as you are taken in by this illusion that I have created. Moreover I hate the fact that when I am not with you I cannot control your environment and I am concerned that with space to think and breathe you may just see through what I am doing or even worse, you may listen to one of your so-called friends who will be whispering in your ear and briefing against me. I don’t want your head turned elsewhere. I want it looking at me. Always.

7. Nobody can love you the way I do.

Amazingly another piece of truth. Nobody else can love you in this way because none of it is real. This is all made-up in order to attract you and bind you to me because if you saw what I was really like (not that I would ever allow that to happen) you would run screaming and never return. Accordingly, I will love you in a way that you are unlikely to have experienced before by deluging you with desire and then nearly destroying you through malice and vitriolic hatred. Told you I was special.

8. I can’t believe we have only just met. I feel like I’ve known you forever. Let’s live together.

It feels familiar to me because you are giving me positive fuel just like your predecessor and the one before her and the one before her as well. I do not distinguish between you, not really, because you are all appliances to me which I want to ensnare and then drain as you pump out delicious fuel for me to consume. I say this though to make you feel special and because I am obviously so wonderful and brilliant you will be thrilled that someone like me wants to live with you. This will make you grab this marvellous opportunity before you lose it and then I have ensnared you.

9. I need you. I want you. I love you.

Sounds dramatic and romantic doesn’t it? Makes you feel as if everything is focussed on you and I could not live without you. Notice how many times I used the word “I”? That’s because this is all about me and nothing to do with you save for what you can do for me. I really mean that I need your fuel, I want your fuel and I love your fuel.

10. You have saved me.

Yet more drama straight from the romantic handbook. I know your type. That is why I chose you. You like to fix, heal and save. You will have plenty to do in that regard, believe me, but that will come later. For now what I really mean is that you have saved me having to look anywhere else for fuel. Time to feed.

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25 Comments

  1. My N always tell me that nobody can love me the way he can, BS he doesnt know how to love. When we argue he tells me to leave and that you will never find someone as good as me. HG I guess this called manipulation on his part?

  2. My female, Christian Narc told me as part of my seduction, that I was an Archangel; her Saviour. Some week’s later she abruptly told me over email ‘OK, so I do love you, I do adore you; there, I’ve said it!’. Very unemotional, of course. Another tactic was to tell me that she thought that we were soulmates – I then excitedly researched into all of it and came back with so much positive evidence that we were, and her response was ‘Look, I only suggested we were; I didn’t need you to spend hours researching it’.
    On one of the last occasions we met – well into the Devaluation phase – when I told her that I loved her, her response was ‘I can see that your love is a pure love’. So many red flags, and so much humiliation. But I am a much better person now.

  3. The sentences he gave me were different :

    “You’re so intelligent I’m becoming addicted to you.”

    “We need each other; we’re symbiotic.”

    “You see me.” (as in “you understand me”.)

    “It’s nice to talk to someone who doesn’t think of me as a twat.” (Poor tortured misunderstood man, how could I not want to be there for him?!)

    “You deserve to be happy.”

    “I trust you completely.”

    “You’re so rare. It’s so hard to find someone like you.”

    “You’re stunning.”

    “You have an amazing face.”

    etc. etc.

    He actually made it crystal clear that it wasn’t love… (and I quote) “I can’t give you love or romance.” But I attested that to the fact that he had a wife I think.
    But he made me feel as though I was special nevertheless.

    It was the line about me being intelligent, oddly enough, which hooked me in more than anything. I felt as though I was appreciated. The true irony is that he didn’t mean a word of it, clearly, and he must have been laughing at me behind my back for my sheer naivety and stupidity at lapping up all of these lines he was feeding me!

    Once he had me hooked with the intelligent line, the symbiotic one sealed the deal.

    I don’t feel intelligent now. I feel like a complete plonker.

    1. TPOT
      I can completely relate. I lapped up the lines day after day. Some of them were so over the top that I had to shake my head – but it was so irresistible to hear these things so I readily accepted them. The clincher for me was also, “you’re so intelligent and interesting.” He made it seem as if he were really seeing me beyond my appearance. These lines made it feel deeper than just a superficial, physical “crush.”

      1. That’s exactly it. It makes you feel as though there’s a more significant connection, and that they appreciate you.

        It’s a very manipulative move on their part. I see that now.

  4. Hello I am new here! A question. Does a mid range Narcissist leave a target alone permanently after the target left him/her shortly for a new relationship/ commitment? The narc claimed to be religious if that makes any difference. Thank you 😊

    1. Welcome to the blog Asia,

      Good to know that Asia now reads my work! No, a MRN will not leave you alone based on what you have stated. What you must do is put in place a solid no contact regime so the narcissist has no choice but to leave you alone and seek out other appliances instead. If you require assistance with this, do organise a consultation.

      1. thank you! Nice work! I might… in the future.. but there hasn’t been any contact on their part for months. Just a curious question. So I suppose there shouldn’t be any concern at the moment? )

          1. I left the narc shortly after I’d received a manipulative threat to break up which ( I believe) was caused during the golden period or During the first signs of devaluation stage in response to my concern to the narc’s lack of boundaries. Their attempts to communicate had stopped after my current partner has reached out to the narc and made a request to stop the communication. It’s been 8 months. Thx. )
            What’s the best book for understanding MRN’s behavior and strategy’s you’d recommend? )

          2. As stated, please organise a consultation so I can receive specific information and assist you further.

          3. Reposting. Didn’t seem to go thru the first time.
            I guess it was still during golden period or very early signs of the devaluation stage.( there have been subtle threats and manipulation)
            I left a narc for my previous partner( not a narcissist) who is my spouse now. The communication/ attempts to reach out on the narc’s side had stopped after my spouse has contacted the narc with the request to stop trying to communicate with me. It’s been about 8 months.
            What’s a book you’d recommend on the behavior/ strategies of the MRN? Thank you. :)

          4. Ok..i left narc for my previous partner( empath). It was still during a golden period with first signs of devaluation( a subtle threat to break up, following a concern expressed by me). I went back to the ex who is now my spouse. The narc stopped trying to communicate with me after the request by the spouse to stop all communication.
            It’s been almost a year now.
            Which book would you recommend for a better understanding of MRN and their strategies? Thank you 😊

          5. Sorry about long comments. It was supposed to be the latest comment. There is no way erase an extra comment. Technical issues :)

          6. Whoa, how come my comments got deleted HG Tudor? I thought you wanted more details? Nvm then. Didn’t think it was possible to leave a narcissist first before they do? Well that’s possible. I did it. You are ( narcissist) not as great as you guys think you are:) you are delusional. there is someone greater than you who can see you through. God is :) adiós amigo. I am out of here.

          7. They are not deleted. They are in moderation, like everyone else’s. Read the rules.

      2. I have been told that N’s are actually atheists in hiding because there is no one greater than themself ever existing anywhere, anytime. They may be pillars of a church but that is for the supply of appliances present in religious organizations. I saw Christian and Religion mentioned twice in the comments so I have to ask what you say about this, HG. For years I have tried to figure out how my N mom could be so religious and use it so against me to convince me that I was demonic. I would fall back on the bible verse that says many will call on me Lord Lord but I will say I never knew you and I figured maybe that was it. That they are actually atheistic seemed to make more sense and gave me some kind of relief. But I would like to know what you say, please Sir.

        1. 1. We are not atheists in hiding.
          2. Do read “Holy Narcissist” to learn more about the role of religion and narcissism.

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