Why Is The Narcissist’s Facebook Page Silent?

WHY IS THE NARCISSIST´S FACEBOOK PAGE SILENT?

Of all the various social media platforms that are available, Facebook remains a clear favourite with our kind. Its titanic status and near ubiquitous nature appeal as does the fact that it remains the demographic social media home of the majority of our victims. Facebook is used extensively but there is an occurrence whereby it appears that our once vibrant Facebook page has fallen into disuse. The profile picture never alters whereas it once changed several times a day to allow us to show off the latest snapshot of our brilliance. The timeline remains mournfully empty. There are no posts about our latest achievements and accomplishments. There is no sharing of the latest video we have uploaded or the link to YouTube for the same purpose. The only things that can be seen are the annual birthday well wishes from those reminded by the automated feature on the platform. There are never any replies to these salutations. There are postings from years ago but everything appears to be silent. Your friend request may have been accepted but nothing more has happened and now our profile drifts silently through cyberspace like some ghost ship. Why do we let this happen?

  1. Bring out the spyglass

Just because there is not anything happening on our profile it does not mean that there is nothing happening. We are using this profile to spy on you and others. We utilise it for the gathering of information prior to the seduction, we use it to keep an eye on what you are doing on your profile page during the devaluation and we utilise it to keep tabs on you in readiness for that hoover. Silent and looming we use the profile to watch you, waiting and calculating our next move. As you churn out the comments, posts and likes, we are watching, that small smile playing across our lips, forked tongue brushing those sharp teeth as we lie in wait.

  1. Triangulation

“Yes I am on Facebook, you can send me a friend request if you wish, but I never use it. I haven’t in years. I am too busy you see; I prefer to do my living in the real world. It is being with people that matters to me. I don’t need to herald what I achieve on an electronic platform, I let my actions in real life speak for themselves. That is what matters to me. I prefer to be face to face with people, seeing them hearing them speak and watching them.”

An earnest speech designed to impress you and con you into thinking that there is nothing to be wary about with regards to our Facebook profile. We triangulate you with a supposedly dead Facebook profile in order to cause you to admire us for being so “real”. Oh the irony. All of it is tripe. Made-up for the purposes of making us sound good. Apart from the last sentence. That one is true though not for the reasons most people would expect. That personal interaction is required because that is where the best fuel is.

2. Deterrent

You are less likely to block us if you think we never use our Facebook page which comes in useful for keeping an eye on you post discard for the purposes of organising a hoover. If we are unlikely to use our profile or even read it then you are dissuaded from posting anything there which might upset our carefully crafted façade. Why bother when nobody reads it? By conning you that this profile is never visited you will similarly keep away from it and thus we reduce your chances of interference and also those of your supporters. This means fewer people to tackle online when the smear campaign is rolled out.

3.Ever Presence

If there was no Facebook page, then you could obviously never look at it could you? By keeping it and not blocking you, you will keep returning to it post escape and post discard because you cannot help but want to know what we are doing, whether we are saying anything about you. You may not be minded to post anything in accordance with the point above (you do not of course want us to know that you are sneaking these looks) but you will look nevertheless. You always do. You keep returning to it in the hope of some posting, some development and some news. This keeps you linked to us and keeps us in your mind as each day you conduct your obligatory tour of our social media platforms.

4.Cover Story

The lack of activity on our Facebook profile allows us to maintain plausible deniability. How can we be engaging in flirting online if we never go on Facebook? Look, nothing is happening. Here, check the messages. See there is nothing there and hasn’t been for months. I hate you being so controlling like this; why do you treat me this way? We use it to assume the moral high ground and provoke you into responding to our jibes.

5. The Action is Elsewhere

You cannot seriously expect us to lose one of our main weapons in our game playing can you? Whilst our “real” profile may be dormant, the real action is taking place using a fake profile where we are gathering legions of prospective targets, engaging in flattery, flirtation and fabrication as we suck fuel from these individuals and look to identify potential targets for a closer approach to them. Do not think that the fact we use a fabricated profile will stand in our way to converting the seduction to a real-life interaction. We have a thousand lies to legitimately explain away why we did this and the intrigue will make you want us all the more.

6. Resurrection

At some point we will crank the profile back into life and the proliferation of likes, postings and comments will begin again. We operate through contrast and this difference between dormancy and vibrancy will be used to our advantage and to your disadvantage. You can rest assured of that. We will suddenly engage with people and allow you to see it, but not engage with you, in order to continue our devaluation of you. We may spring into life and seduce you through the profile proclaiming that you are so special we wanted to tell the world all about you and use our Facebook profile (free from being cluttered with less worthy individuals) about it.

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11 Comments

  1. HG,
    Would a Narc ever “filter” certain individuals from seeing his Facebook profile? Not block or unfriend… But just apply filters so that only certain people can see certain things? If so, I’m just wondering what the reason would be for doing this.

      1. Yeah, makes sense I guess. Whenever I would like or comment on a picture that he would post he would either delete it, text me to tell me he had to delete it because his wife would ask who I was, or ask me to “stop stalking” his page (aka: stop liking and commenting). Then there were times where he would “Invite” me to look at his new music projects that he posted on his page. There was also a time when I mutual friend of ours reached out to me to ask me if I saw the news about his second child being born on Facebook. When I went to his Facebook there was nothing there. He later admitted to me that he was “scared” and had to filter me out. He apologized and then changed his settings. Although lately I notice that many months have gone by and there have been no posts at all except for one post about his music so I guess he’s back to filtering me out again.

        I guess I should feel better knowing that he takes me into account before he posts anything. However this is got to be an exhausting way to behave for him, don’t you think? All for “control”. I wonder how he keeps up with this for everyone else that he has to “filter” away at any given moment. What a moron he is.

        1. Gabby. He does NOT take you into account. He takes HIM into account. He gives 2 shits about you. Sorry but it is true

          1. I meant it as in he has to think about who gets filtered each time he posts. I’m sure it’s exhausting to keep track of all of that.

          2. Gabby. Ok. Let’s review.
            “He has to think about who to filter. It must be exhausting”
            That statement alone should tell you everything you need to know about him. He has so many that he does give a shit about that you are just one of many.
            I am altering my first response. He does not give a shit about ANY OF YOU
            I hate being harsh Gabby but I have been on this site since I believe 1/18. You were in the same boat then….slowly sinking. I know it is hard. Proof being I have been here since 1/18 and am just now getting to a point where I feel NC working. It is harder than any thing you will ever do….no lie. But you need to start doing something in the way of baby steps or you will be destroyed. Mentally emotionally physically. You owe it to yourself as I believe in you.
            I also refuse to call you any name you give yourself other than YOUR name. Don’t let him take that away from you too

          3. Gab

            If it was exhausting he wouldn’t do it as they only do what benefits them. Quite the contrary – it energizes and empowers him to know that with so little effort you are under his control. You are actually so exhausted from the manipulation and control that you think he’s the one expending the energy when it’s actually you.

        2. Save him the trouble Gabby, block him. You do the controlling now. Cut the puppet strings while he isn’t looking!

  2. This is exactly what my Narc is doing. I had to search for another friend and my narcs profile was in the search list even though I hadn’t looked since May. He had changed his profile picture ..and of course, you know what curiosity did! Bang! Trigger and a day of tears. But I cleared my search history and brushed myself down (and also read your “Three That Got Away”) OMG HG! I have escaped!!! ..and I am now in a position to never go to that dark place ever again…today, my only worry is..Will my Liverpool beat your Manchester City tomorrow😂😂😂YNWA!! x

  3. HG sometimes my husband deactivates and then reactivates Facebook his account. It does this alot and says he doesn’t like Facebook .

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