Christmas Angel Update


*** This is an additional  update to demonstrate progress in terms of donations received. ***

In light of existing and unaddressed demand, I am not adding additional applicants to the list, until such time as the existing queue has been removed. Thirteen of 29 remain desperate for assistance. Remember, these individuals have already been screened and approved pending availability of assistance.

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  1. Angel BB – requires How To CoParent AP – single mother with one son to a narcissist

2. Angel KM – requires an audio consultation to understand how to recover property from former boyfriend. Property is needed for KM´s business. (contributed $ 40) (ASSISTED)

3. Angel GVV – requires How to CoParent AP – has been through custody battle with ex spouse who is providing very difficult with regard to contact arrangements (contributed $ 30) (ASSISTED)

4. Angel HD – requires How To Handle Narcissist at Work AP – being bullied at work by manager (contributed $ 70) (ASSISTED)

5. Angel STM – requires email consultation to understand dynamic involving her mother interfering in arrangements for Christmas with her grand children (ASSISTED)

6. Angel BR – seeks How To CoParent AP – part time worker/part time study mother who is trying to prevent the narcissist from hampering her efforts in her studies through providing difficult with shared parenting (contributed $20) (ASSISTED)

7. Angel TY – seeks Narc Detector Consultation with regard to mother in light of years of difficulty and abuse (contributed $ 50) (ASSISTED)

8. Angel HDS – seeks Narc Detector Consultation with regard to boyfriend who is controlling financially

9. Angel PL – seeks How To CoParent AP and audio consultation to assist with handling the narcissist who has made allegations of abuse and poor parenting, with social services now involved (ASSISTED)

10. Angel TDK – seeks Divorcing a Narcissist AP and audio consultation for the purposes of negotiating ongoing divorce with a narcissist (Contributed $ 50)

11. Angel HH – seeks Divorcing a Narcissist AP for the purposes of handling ongoing divorce which is causing financial problems

12. Angel YN – seeks an audio consultation to gain assistance with regard to abusive neighbour who is suspected to be a narcissist. Neighbour is embarking on campaign of harassment against YN. (contributed $ 45)

13. Angel ER – seeks an audio consultation to understand options with regard to implementing no contact in order to leave her abusive husband

14. Angel PP – seeks an email consultation to understand behaviours of boyfriend with have left her ill and unable to work (ASSISTED)

15. Angel BRT – seeks How To CoParent AP to handle narcissists interference in medical decisions and education of two children

16. Angel ES – seeks an audio consultation for the purposes of understanding options to prevent narcissist taking children to different country for Christmas (contributed $ 75) (ASSISTED)

17. Angel HY – seeks an audio consultation for the purposes of gaining information to handle father at Christmas time, during family occasions. (contributed $ 50)

18. Angel JL – seeks an audio consultation for the purposes of knowing how to manage two family narcissists over Christmas (ASSISTED)

19. Angel TF – seeks Narc Detector Consultation with regard to former spouse with a view to then taking action concerning his behaviour towards children (ASSISTED)

20. Angel KY – seeks Narc Detector Consultation and an audio consultation to understand why former partner has abused their children (contributed $ 35)

21. Angel NMB – seeks audio consultation to gain assistance with regard to handling contact arrangements between narcissist and children over Christmas period (contributed $ 40) (ASSISTED)

22. Angel TT – seeks Narc Detector Consultation and audio consultation to gain insight with regard to husband and his frequent infidelities

23. Angel HB – seeks Narc Detector consultation with regard to boyfriend to understand what is driving his unpleasant behaviours (contributed $ 60)

24. Angel TWS – seeks Divorcing Narcissist AP to assist with ongoing divorce with a narcissist

25. Angel HR – seeks Narc Detector Consultation, Divorcing Narcisisst AP and audio consultation to understand the school of narcissist she is involved in a divorce with and what steps she can take to achieve a positive outcome. (ASSISTED)

26. Angel JH – seeks an audio consultation to understand how to combat narcissist´s behaviours with regard to their children over Christmas

27. Angel ETR – seeks a Narc Detector Consultation and Divorcing the Narcissist Assistance Package. (ASSISTED)

28. Angel VG – seeks a Narc Detector Consultation and an audio consultation to understand what she is dealing with and to make arrangements to go no contact for her and her children prior to Christmas (ASSISTED)

29. Angel CD – seeks a Zero Impact AP to drive the impact of the narcissist from her life, as it has adversely impacted on both her physical and mental health. (ASSISTED)

78 thoughts on “Christmas Angel Update

  1. FYC says:


    ANGEL supporters who use PAYPAL:

    Today only, you can claim a USD $5 credit on your PayPal account for making a purchase. This applies to DONATION TO THE AAF. I made a small donation of $10 as a test and it worked! I received the $5 credit.

    Therefore, if you make a donation to the AAF TODAY ONLY VIA PAYPAL of any amount, you will be credited back $5!! That is free money for the Angels! I encourage everyone to take advantage of this special offer.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Good call FYC.

  2. FoolMe1Time says:

    Yay HG it worked!! I purchased another card and made sure it was exactly like the cards I purchased before and it worked!

    Please just use the money for which ever angel you’d like to. Thank you HG.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you.

      1. FoolMe1Time says:

        You’re welcome Sir.

  3. FoolMe1Time says:

    ANM it was wonderful to read that the Angel assistance fund helped you. Of course it’s great that it helps everyone who is trapped by a narcissist, but it is especially heart warming to learn it has helped someone who has been a part of this family for a very long time. Merry Christmas beautiful Angel. 🥰

    1. Anm says:

      Thank you, foolme1time.
      Merry Christmas to you!

  4. MB says:

    HG, can you tally up the number of dollars it will take to clear the queue please, Sir?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      1930 for existing as per update, 1400 for those not yet added to the update.

      1. MB says:

        Thank you, HG! This is helpful.

        1. NarcAngel says:

          Oh the numbers are for a tally! I thought he was finally providing his birth year and address.

          1. Kim e says:

            NA……ROFLMAO. Which would be which?

          2. FoolMe1Time says:


  5. Mercy says:

    FM1T, I missed all of the gift card talk. Is there a reason you won’t use PayPal? You could set up a PayPal account and attach it to a separate bank account/email address that is only use for this site. When you want to donate or purchase something, you can just transfer the amount into your account and pay with PayPal. Or instead of purchasing new gift cards, can you reload the existing card?

    I keep reading about invoices and gift cards. I’ve always used PayPal. Makes me wonder if I should be cautious of something.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Those who use PayPal are able to do so swiftly, conveniently and securely. People may use gift cards but there appear to be compatibility issues between them and PayPal. There is no point asking me about it because it is an issue with regard to the type of card selected and PayPal. However, if you use PayPal in the usual way, you will not have any issues.

      1. FoolMe1Time says:

        I’m sorry HG I cannot use PayPal in the usual way, which I thought you understood by the information you gain from my consults with you? It doesn’t matter I’m done trying.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I know you cannot, the point I was making however is that the usual way is the one which does not cause any problems.

    2. Chihuahuamum says:

      Hi mercy…some are using gift cards for privacy reasons so it wont show up on a paypal bill. I havent found any issues using a visa gift card.

      1. Mercy says:

        Thank you HG and Chi, I was just wondering if there was a security issue with PayPal that I wasn’t aware of. I’ve never had problems so I was confused. For those that don’t have a bank account hooked up to PayPal for privacy issues, FYI you don’t have to receive a paper bill. You can view all of your transaction online and through a private email. Just a suggestion for anyone looking for an alternative.

        1. FYC says:

          Mercy, I have zero concerns of anyone seeing a bill so no worries there. Virtually everyone I know knows I read HG and respect his work and openly speak about it to all. I am more concerned with data privacy in general and practice caution accordingly.

          1. FYC says:

            Mercy, I should also say I agree with you regarding PayPay, it is an excellent choice. If any one worries about a N accessing their computer, you can use a fingerprint access or you can simply require standard log in for every access (use a unique password) and you would have excellent privacy from that perspective.

      2. FoolMe1Time says:

        That’s what I always use Chi., the Visa gift card. I think FUC was correct and it is whoever is issuing the cards that makes the difference.

        1. NarcAngel says:

          I know you’re riled up but no need to name call lol (FUC). Laugh. Everything looks better when you laugh. I’m going to purchase 2 of the Creature intros if HG would be kind enough to forward one to you, but please don’t read it before Christmas if it will upset your holidays.

          1. FoolMe1Time says:

            Oh NA! Thank you so very much! That is so kind of you. Ok now you have me balling my eyes out! When I get this all worked out with the gift card I will buy the next round.

            There is no possible way I can keep it until after Christmas to read, I’m addicted to HGs writing and I’m going to read it this afternoon!

            I noticed the FUC, and you all know it was suppose to be FYC! Wasn’t it? Lol

            Thank you Sista!! You are the best!

          2. FYC says:

            Haha NA, and you are the most kind. No surprise there.

          3. Renarde says:


            How kind! x

    3. FYC says:

      Hi Mercy, I hope you don’t mind the intrusion. I don’t think you have anything to worry about. I also use a separate PayPal and I fund it with gift cards and have not had a problem with this method. The more I read about the meta analysis of all of our available data (and those who have access to it), I am pretty sure privacy is dead anyway, but one can still make an effort not to feed the beast.

      1. Mercy says:

        FYC, of course I don’t mind your comment. Speaking of our available online data, there was a couple years that the ex N and I used messenger as our main way to communicate. I’ve been wanting to delete the thread but there’s too much evidence in those conversations. On Monday I researched getting my online info from FB. I did not realize you can download all of your FB activity. Every pic, comment, like, conversation can be downloaded. It took me 10 minutes to get a file. It was eye opening that every key stroke we make can be saved and we are unaware of it.

        1. FYC says:

          Hi Mercy, Exactly. Every key stroke. And then there is your meta data from photos and any permissions you give to apps such as location, camera, sound, keystroke entry etc. (I strongly urge everyone to review their current settings as many are not opt in they are opt out.) FB and Google and MS and Apple (and others) keep your data, forever. That includes any email, video, VoIP, messaging, photo, attachment, and accompanying its meta data you send or keep on their cloud. Your data is then analyzed and used to create a meta data profile that you never see even if you request it. Further they own your data residing on their cloud. While this may not seem important, consider this data in the hands of a N. What might they do with your data? Or a hacker (likely an N–lack of empathy, lack of boundary recognition, entitlement, lack of accountability). Privacy is a human right and needs provision for protection, but the opposite offers too much control to those who desire it as well as tremendous profit and power. Of course there are legitimate reasons to access data (crime prevention/apprehension), but a good portion of data access is not for such reasons and instead is used to manipulate, influence or control you. Sounds a lot like HG’s warning that a N gathers as much data as possible before his approach to gain your trust, then manipulate or malign. The same can be done with all of your data by those who have full access.

          1. Mercy says:

            FYC, with all of this technology, you would think they could figure out a way to frost the whole Pop Tart! Seriously what is that about?

            I’ve been thinking alot about what you wrote lately. The way technology changes so often it’s hard to keep up with your settings and for those of us who are just casual users, it’s very confusing knowing how to set securities. I think cloud is useful in some things but I prefer to have files I can save externally for the important stuff. Just like the file I was telling you about from Facebook. Now I have to figure out how to convert it to a PDF. As of now, it’s a web base file.

          2. Lorelei says:

            Frost the whole pop tart!! That made me smile:)
            Mercy—your spirited nature is a joy.

          3. Mercy says:

            Lorelei, Thank you. My daughter sent me that meme. I thought no truer words have been spoken.

          4. NarcAngel says:

            Forget the Cloud. I’m sure there’s something at the container store you can save your files in. And by files I mean Pop Tarts. Ok, that was just a way to say that I hope you take some time out for yourself over the holidays, de-stress, and have fun playing with your pantry. Your spices are running amok.

          5. Mercy says:

            You’re speaking to my heart. Having time for my projects sounds wonderful. Thank you and I hope your holidays are stress free as well.

            P.S. My spices really are out of control right now!

          6. FYC says:

            Mercy, I have been involved with tech for decades yet I am frequently suprised by some of things that are done or justified. As for saving your web file use this:
            If you want edit before creating the pdf, copy all and paste to word, edit then print/save to pdf.

          7. Mercy says:

            Thank you FYC, I’m going to do this tonight. Do you know, now that I have the file, if I delete this conversation off of my messenger would it eventually be deleted for good? Or is that wishful thinking?

          8. FYC says:

            Mercy, Sorry, It will not. It will delete it from your view.

          9. Mercy says:

            Well that’s a bummer but it’s not a huge deal. It’s good to know though. Thank you.

          10. FYC says:

            Mercy, you are always welcome.

        2. Renarde says:


          I’ve done that before with FB Messenger. Invaluable.,

          1. Lorelei says:

            We just have to take notes from the narcissists. “Wasn’t me. PERIOD.” Wasn’t me. I didn’t do it. Done. If we can’t learn something here then why are we here. Our tendency is to tell the truth and apologize. F that noise.

          2. Renarde says:

            Agreed, Loreli

          3. Mercy says:

            Deny deny deny!

          4. Mercy says:

            I agree Renarde.

    4. FoolMe1Time says:

      I’ve tried that Mercy and have had some issues with that as well. I’m sure HG will say it is user error. If it’s working for you that’s great don’t change what you are doing dear.

      1. Mercy says:

        FM1T, User error is the story of my life! I wasn’t aware of the reasoning. I was just asking in case there was a security issue. I’m sorry you’re having issues. I wish I had a solution but I’m sure you’ve tried everything I could suggest. Technical issues are problems I have a hard time letting go of until I figure out a solution. Something so logical and simple should work but I’ve found that’s not always the case.

        1. FoolMe1Time says:

          Yes Mercy not being able to let it go is my biggest issue! I just have to figure it out, there is simply no other way for me! Ugh. 🥰

          1. FYC says:

            FM1T, Do you know if it works online domestically? If so I may have a solution.

          2. FoolMe1Time says:

            FYC I used it last evening to order from amazon. I’ll try anything! I honestly think it has to do with who or where that are issued from. I still have a few dollars on my original and I’m waiting for HG to put something out there for $4.00. I should just have him invoice me and try it, if it works he can give it to the angels. That way I would know what the problem is. I’m sorry for going on about this but really breaks my heart not to be able to help the Angel assistance fund.

          3. FYC says:

            I understand completely. I’ll get back to you.

        2. NarcAngel says:

          Just my thoughts on the credit card/gift card issues.

          I understand people exercising caution, especially those new and wondering if they should even BE on a website run by a narcissist, much less be using a credit card on it, and there are also other concerns ie: the purchase showing on a credit card statement, etc. I used gift cards myself (and still do as I am often given them), but it states right on the Paypal site that your financial information is not provided to the retailer, and really, I’d be more concerned about those sketchy call centres we provide our details online and by telephone everywhere to. From online shopping to banking, local food and craft fairs and booking trips, we don’t know anything about the people employed in those call centres that we rattle off our information to. Get a low limit card for online stuff- you aren’t responsible if you’re the victim of fraud anyway. I get caution, but your card and information is more protected here than when we literally opened our doors and lives to the con men and women who brought us here to begin with.
          It still comes down to personal choice and I respect that. That’s all.

          1. HG Tudor says:

            Absolutely NA.

            I will re-iterate again, I do not see your financial information, I have no interest in your person information and all information is treated in confidence and has never been breached.

            I do understand where people do not want their purchases showing in case the narcissist discovers the purchase. I should point out that if you ask me (and I have provided different descriptions (school books for some reason are a favourite) , I will invoice you for a service and call it something else, for instance Butter My Buns Bakery Delivery.

          2. Mercy says:

            “Butter My Buns Bakery Delivery” hahaha I needed that laugh!

          3. Mercy says:

            And I’m sure I’m not the only one that had an image of your buttery buns!

  6. Whitney says:

    HG you are an absolute saint. The communications and administration involved with this must be very time consuming for you. We’re lucky you help us so much for free and give us the opportunity to support other abuse victims.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you Whitney, yes they do take up time.

  7. ANM says:

    I am forever greatful for the anonymous giver who donated the Coparenting Package to me. I felt beyond blessed that someone would do that for me without meeting me in person. I am currently listening to it for the second time.

    I am also thankful HG allowed me to use some of the Angel Fund to discount a half hour consultation with him. Where we discussed my litigations with the narc., and how I was afraid of losing hearings because it may fuel the narc. HG, assured me that even though it would fuel a narcissist with a temporary win, it’s worth it for an Empath to press on and strategize.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Good to read and thank you for endorsing the generosity of others ANM.

    2. Renarde says:


      Yes, he is very good with the legal. Very good indeed.

  8. FoolMe1Time says:

    HG is anyone else having difficulties using there gift cards? For some reason mine will not work? They are the same that I always purchase and I have used them so I know they are activated, but now they will not work to pay your invoice? Thanks for posting this, maybe something has changed that I somehow missed?

    1. HG Tudor says:


      1. FoolMe1Time says:

        Then why am I all of a sudden? I read on the card that it should be registered for online use, which is something I never any other time. If they are not good for international use then they would not have worked all of these years, since I’m pretty sure the UK has always been where it is today? Ugh! It’s Christmas and I want to give to the Angels HG, so if anyone has any ideas please help. Thank you. 😪

        1. FYC says:

          FM1T, What is on the back of the card? Who is the issuer? Some cards look the same, but are not the same.

          1. FoolMe1Time says:

            Yes I did notice that FYC and it was a different issuer, so I went back to the store and bought the exact same kind I always do and it also wouldn’t work! Oh I’m so angry and frustrated, but I’ll figure out some way to help support HG and the Angel!

          2. FYC says:

            I am sorry to hear this FM1T. If I can help in any way let me know.

          3. FoolMe1Time says:

            Thank you FYC I’ll figure something out.

          4. FoolMe1Time says:

            Thank you for your help! I purchased another card and made sure it was exactly the same as the cards I purchased before and it worked!! Yay! 🥰🙃

          5. FYC says:

            Happy to hear that FM!T, and so are the Angels! Thank you for finding a way and for your ever-present generosity.

          6. FoolMe1Time says:

            You’re welcome FYC. Thank you Sweetie for all that you do, it’s because of people like you that Angel Assistance is such a success! 👼😘

          7. FYC says:

            You are most kind, FM1T. It is all about the Angels. It’s an honor to help make a difference in the life of anyone dealing with N abuse. Thank you for being that person who takes action on your deep EE.

          8. FoolMe1Time says:


        2. NarcAngel says:

          One cashier told me recently that I would have to wait 24 hours after purchase for the card to be activated. No one else mentioned that and I never previously waited 24 hours, so I wasn’t sure if she was mistaken or I had been lucky. In any case, that might be the issue and it being Christmas there is a backlog for activations? Maybe try waiting the 24 and try again.

          1. FoolMe1Time says:

            I thought the same thing NA. I called the number on the card and they told me I had to register the card if I was going to use it online. I registered it and tried again and it still didn’t work. So I went to the store and bought something, used the card to pay and it worked. So now I just don’t know? Thanks NA I don’t know why they just can’t let well enough alone. Ugh

  9. Kim e says:

    HG. Please use my donation as you see fit.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I shall. Thank you for making it.

  10. FYC says:

    You are most welcome, HG, and I am grateful to be able to offer support to the AAF.

  11. FYC says:

    You are Ultra amazing army of one, HG. Unbelievable amount of progress made in such a short time. Thank you for the update and for all you do for the Angels. This is very encouraging.

    I know hope is a four lettered word, but hope, given by way of the best advice on dealing with Ns, is the best kind of hope and inspires one onward to Zero Impact.

    Fellow supporters, I am so very thankful for each and every one of you. Your actionable empathy is extraordinary and truly heartening. We are so close, let’s pull together to help the remaining 13.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you FYC and also for your generous contributions to assisting people.

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